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Here's to 2010!
So I've been liking this one girl for a long time, but it was on and off, until recently. I became so attached and sensitive to her. You all know that feeling when you like someone a lot, perhaps its even love? Anyway, I know I shouldn't get jealous when she talks to other guys or something, but I do. Fortunately, I can act pretty normal during those times and play it off. (Though it always hurt a lot, stupid chemicals in my brain!) But overall, I loved her, I thought I could marry her. We had some pretty deep conversations about relationships and stuff and she always mentioned marriage. She even said that if I had a girlfriend, that she would be jealous of her, and also said that it would be a waste for me to go out with any other girl.I asked some people what that meant and they said that either she likes you alot or she is just a tease. (What do you all think?) Is marriage a light hearted topic? She wants to get married early, and so do I, and I really felt that it could happen. Ah, but we are still so young...
Anyway, a couple of days ago, I practically told her I liked her, except I never mentioned her name. She seriously changed my life, I used to be a horny dickhead but ever since falling for her, I could never watch porn again or even masturbate, and I told her that, but again, not mentioning her directly. She also changed how I should treat a girl, not just a girl I like but even to my mom and my younger sister. If I'm going to treat my future wife well, I have to learn to treat the women in my house well first. So I started to be a better son and brother, I'm still working at it! I told a couple of people I liked her alot, and one person I told everything to was to my cousin. He's always been trying to hook us up; one day, he said that we were married, and ever since then, people started to tease us. Thinking about it, I feel that me liking her was just an accident, that the only reason I like her now is because my cousin said that joke. Anyway, he said he would try to figure out how she really felt, and today, he subtly said that she doesn't feel the same. Either she is telling the truth, or lying and actually likes me. I would hope for the latter, but I don't think it's happening.
For some reason though, I felt relieved. At least I know how she feels now, right? But then, pain and sadness overcame me  Life will go on though, right? And to think I could spend the rest of my life with her, stupid me.
 
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God stop going for the subtle shit. You may think its ingenious but it's stupid. Who's permission are you asking for? Just go ahead express yourself, show your affection, she'll love it. I wish you the best and make sure you treat her well.
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Is marriage a light hearted topic?
Uh, yeah?
Also, you should have made a move. =/
You're also being really, really dramatic about someone you probably didn't really know that well (case and point you're trying to use other friends to find out how she feels about you).
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Indeed, life does go on. Accept how she feels and what her intentions are, then move on with life.
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On January 01 2010 16:39 Chef wrote:Uh, yeah? Also, you should have made a move. =/
Hmm, she would emphasize it so much.
And to Chef, I plan to tell her very soon, although I'm sure she knows. It just doesn't feel the same though.
Thanks
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Make it clear to her in person, if she rejects you then move on. But dont rely on a third person to try and communicate your feelings pls >.<
All the best!
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Telling friends who you like is generally a horrible idea. The first person you should always tell is the girl.
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As I got from your post you and your "potential" gf are very young and you have mixed emotions about her as well she does about you, and your thinking you could merry her just to make record straight?
Don't do it man. Talk to her, get steady with her and then if it works out in few years you guys can get merried, I mean whats the pressure.
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On January 01 2010 16:24 il0seonpurpose wrote:
I could never watch porn again or even masturbate, and I told her that
Romance is surely dead...
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You shoudn't have told her that you like her. That's a bad move. Have you ever tried to kiss her?(e.g. when you were having those deep conversations or something similar). My advice is to ignore her. If she doesn't contact you, well, that's life. You will forget her.(The best way to forget her is to date other girls).
If she comes to you and wants to talk, go somewhere nice, make her laugh or do something silly to make the atmosphere less tense and then try to create some attraction(touch her but not to obiously, or anything that works for her) and then kiss her. If she doesn't let you kiss her, make her laugh again and repeat the steps above untill success. One last thing. Don't ever ask a girl if she likes you or if she wants to kiss you. You have to know the right moment to act and those questions are just useless and will get you in trouble.
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Never talk about how you feel because that's like +5 to fucking up the situation, unless you're some sort of casanova and bro you're in an SC forum so I doubt it. Just take Sauron's advice and do something. Did you miss the awkward romance lesson in Freshman year?
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How long have you known her? If you do end up growing a pair and asking her out, take it slow. Some of the stuff you said leads me to believe you're just smitten and probably not ready for the serious things you're talking about, and she probably isn't either. Head over heels feels great, but it'll kick you in the balls when it wears away and there's nothing else behind it.
You also need to learn to be more secure with yourself (I don't just mean confidence.) Feeling hurt when she talks to other guys is not a good thing, nor a sign of your love. It's insecurity, and it'll cause serious problems in a real relationship.
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Man, you are young. Get your shit together, ask her out for a date then tell her how you feel for her.
If that doesnt work, move on.
And dont tell a girl that you jerk off and watching porn, plz.
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Practical solution: get her drunk, have a conversation somewhere romantic and fairly secluded, make out.
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On January 01 2010 16:39 Chef wrote:
You're also being really, really dramatic about someone you probably didn't really know that well
Thanks Chef. This actually helped me realise something about my own situation.
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On January 02 2010 03:07 Lovin wrote:Show nested quote +On January 01 2010 16:39 Chef wrote:
You're also being really, really dramatic about someone you probably didn't really know that well Thanks Chef. This actually helped me realise something about my own situation.
I actually know her quite well
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