I feel alone, I'm 18 and I can't seem to connect with anyone. I don't know why but whenever someone tries to interact with me in a socially fun way I immediately become nervous and draw an imaginary boundary between me and that person. I am not a good conversationalist either, and I can't make complicated jokes that that most other guys are so good at. I also sometimes hate people for no reasons or just for small reasons. What can I do?

SanguineToss

Canada815 Posts

November 05 2009 02:18 GMT

omegle.com

JohnColtrane

Australia4813 Posts

November 05 2009 02:18 GMT

become a hermit

Snet

United States3573 Posts

November 05 2009 02:19 GMT

Take it step by step. The more you socialize the easier it becomes. You can't expect that magical word of advice from someone that fixes everything, just get out there and start getting some experience.

wok

United States504 Posts

November 05 2009 02:20 GMT

Welcome to my life. Waste time photoshopping stupid images and post them here hoping, fruitlessly, for a lulz somewhere in the vast expanse of the internets.
Then when refreshing the page a few hundred times yields no satisfactory response, resume the hopeless situation that is a 10-page paper due tomorrow.

Fuck, I better get started.

kidd

United States2848 Posts

November 05 2009 02:20 GMT

I truely believe that if you learn to convince yourself that you are actually not that bad of a person and that you have something to offer to others then the rest will come naturally.

Chances are you aren't even as bad and lonely as you perceive and changing your style of thinking will reflect that.

KurtistheTurtle

United States1966 Posts

November 05 2009 02:20 GMT

Do it in chunks, a little every day. Increase the amount every week.

CaucasianAsian

Korea (South)11568 Posts

November 05 2009 02:21 GMT

get a job where you are forced to interact with people, like a cashier or a waiter. maybe at a subway or quiznos where it's simple easy chit-chat that you are forced to do for like 5 min. max

JohnColtrane

Australia4813 Posts

November 05 2009 02:22 GMT

youll be fine once you get more comfortable. just loosen up, it doesnt matter if you make a fool of yourself

DeathSpank

United States1029 Posts

November 05 2009 02:22 GMT

#10

stop caring. Your life will change.

phosphorylation

United States2935 Posts

November 05 2009 02:23 GMT

#11

get good at something..really good

United States6173 Posts

November 05 2009 02:24 GMT

#12

Getting a job helps a lot, like CaucasionAsian said. You don't even need to work as a cashier or waiter (those kinds of jobs generally are for people with experience only, or you need to work up to it for at least several months). Simply being somewhere where you need to interact with other people (your coworkers) will help.

chobopeon

United States7342 Posts

November 05 2009 02:26 GMT

#13

join a club or get a job. give yourself social obligations and things will improve.

Ilikestarcraft

Korea (South)17719 Posts

November 05 2009 02:31 GMT

#14

meet me ^^

dasanivan

United States532 Posts

November 05 2009 02:36 GMT

#15

I agree with PH; get a job involving interaction with people. You just need practice interacting with people. Practice can help you get better at almost anything.

Whiplash

United States2928 Posts

November 05 2009 02:37 GMT

#16

a club or your job is your best bet. make sure the club is something your passionate about.

Equaoh

Canada427 Posts

November 05 2009 02:38 GMT

#17

The most complicated jokes I make with my friends involve making funny faces and going olololololol. You should relax and you'll see you're as capable of connecting with people as anyone else - it's all in your head.

meeple

Canada10211 Posts

November 05 2009 02:48 GMT

#18

On November 05 2009 11:31 Ilikestarcraft wrote:
meet me ^^

how is it possible that you have quint-digit posts and a scv as your icon?

to OP: introverted people are all around you... basically find something that makes you happy. Sports/clubs/starcraft... it doesn't matter too much that you're not social... lots of people aren't.

Kyuukyuu

Canada6263 Posts

November 05 2009 02:49 GMT

#19

On November 05 2009 11:38 Equaoh wrote:
The most complicated jokes I make with my friends involve making funny faces and going olololololol.

wtf rofl

cunninglinguists

United States925 Posts

November 05 2009 02:50 GMT

#20

i think its weird that although i have a lot of "friends," i dont have a lot of friends.

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