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Ingenol
United States1328 Posts
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Pawsom
United States928 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + hehehe | ||
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cunninglinguists
United States925 Posts
omegle.com just learn how to socialize properly and then be able to emulate it in real life. | ||
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Mickey
United States2606 Posts
Just use small talk and eventually you'll find people with similar hobbies, etc.. | ||
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MeriaDoKk
Chile1726 Posts
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RebirthOfLeGenD
USA5860 Posts
Oh one word of advice, it is almost always better to say something retarded then say nothing at all. | ||
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Medzo
United States627 Posts
A good way to feeling less alone is just more social interaction. So it sounds like you're uncomfortable talking to strangers. Bad news for you is that the only way to be comfortable talking with strangers is to go out there and do it. Good news is that it honestly doesn't matter what happens when you talk to a stranger, because they are a stranger. Here is some conversation tips. Learn how to ask questions. For me the most interesting thing when talking to someone is to let them tell you about their life or something interesting, rather than speaking on behalf of yourself. Most people like to talk about themselves too. If you have something to say then its good to know your audience, like when talking to someone sensitive (women, some men) be sure to tell them how you felt. Or if you're talking to someone logical be sure to explain your reasons. Minor things like this can make a difference in your conversations. Just go out and practice and find communication patterns that work. Being good at conversation is an art, it takes practice, it is not all natural. And don't bother with omegle, without body language or the fear of rejection it is pointless, and not to mention half the people are looking for cyber sex. | ||
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d_so
Korea (South)3262 Posts
maybe you'll turn out like me in a few years lol i dont know if that's a good thing or not. | ||
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Sea.YachtNavy
Andorra5 Posts
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
Shit sucks. Force yourself to be in situations where you can meet people, I guess. Takes more courage than I have. | ||
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d_so
Korea (South)3262 Posts
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
On November 05 2009 12:30 d_so wrote: ^ maybe you'd have more friends if you didn't steal articles what? Every single article I've posted was all my writing. If I've written on similar topics or have assimilated thoughts from other articles into my own arguments that is irrelevant. | ||
Chill
Calgary25998 Posts
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TheAntZ
Israel6248 Posts
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onmach
United States1241 Posts
If I were to give you advice, and man I wish I'd had this advice when I was younger, as soon as you notice any situation makes you nervous when you know logically it shouldn't bother you, or that people do it all the time, you should force yourself to do it. I don't care what it is. As an example, an anxiety a lot of people have is the gym. They'll do anything to get into shape as long as they don't have to do it in front of people. They think they'll be made fun of, even though logically that's stupid and it won't happen. But your head won't really believe that until it sees it for itself. Another example, if you tend to not talk to people in class, do it. Say anything. Ask about a homework assignment due date, comment on his laptop, whatever. He'll tell you the due date and that'll be that. If by some miracle the guy tells you to fuck off, then that's it, that's the worst possible repercussion and you survived. Onto the next challenge. Dance in a crazy dance club. Ride a motorcycle. Jump out of a plane. No wait, don't do that last one that's crazy. | ||
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ShaperofDreams
Canada2492 Posts
But yeah just remember that everybody is self concious and that you don't have to be the worlds funniest guy, just act relaxed and in control and expand from there. edit: btw I'm the same age as you, also ~18 | ||
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Ghardo
Germany1685 Posts
you can't totally change your personality just like that and at once be the social baller like some users on this board pretend to be *hehe* (this shouldn't sound disheartening, try to begin with the thought that most of it is only in your head/not necessary) so try to tweak the circumstances so that you are overall a more satisfied person. it's hard to make a list for that matter, but try what honesttea pointedly wrote in the thread about relationships - this may partly apply here too (minus point 2): On October 19 2009 13:23 HonestTea wrote: Answer to all these questions: BECOME A BETTER MAN Make sure you are as much as a gentleman you can be. Get haircuts regularly, clothes perfectly ironed, class and work before time, open doors and pull out chairs for all women, exercise daily, read the Times and Journal everyday, always have an interesting book you're reading, spend QT with friends and family, savings and investments in order, practice your second language weekly, volunteer at least once a month, keep your car and house clean, wardrobe immaculate... and no turning hoes into housewives. Be happy with who you are, but never be satisfied 1. Be a better man (I believe PUA people call this "inner game"), 2. know what kind of person you want, 3. don't be afraid of meeting people and keeping a wide and open social life, 4. and things will happen when they happen. Now close this fucking thread. i mean that for example the nervousness is not a product of itself but that there are other factors in your life that make you dissatisfied (like laziness in school/university/work, sports, - little to no motivation to get things done E.G.) and if you work on these and better them, that your overall satisfaction would automatically sweep away the obstacles you seem to see in social situations (because you take it all easier, without thinking too much). that's at least what i observed when i felt happier and had nothing depressing on my mind, that most things would come naturally to me.. whatev, hf | ||
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illu
Canada2531 Posts
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Pengu1n
United States552 Posts
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On November 05 2009 12:34 Chill wrote: come to korea lol that made me lol for some reason | ||
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