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... is never talk to your girl when you are sooo fucking mad or what nots! 
Well besides that of course there is, fidelity, trust being a good partner, support and love. but still best advice is never rush to any assumption or get all crazy when you guys have a problem.
I always use this method from now on, you can blabber all you want but I'm just going to play some games and what not, we can talk to each other later once things cool down.
Instead of a rage discussion, we can talk healthily once all anger has subsided.
That's it, just the point of a blog.
Advice was given to me by my Aunt and her Husband for over 20 years.
 
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Women and men handle emotional stress differently. There was a study where a group of small (I believe ~5 year-olds) were given a two-way baby monitor, on the other end of which there was a crying baby. The girls predominantly tried to calm the baby, whereas the boys generally switched the monitor off. The catch was that the boys actually had higher levels of stress hormones than the girls did. The authors suggested that the reason so many men prefer to "walk away" from stressful situations in order to "cool down" is that they aren't as well equipped to deal with emotional stress as women and so it tends to overwhelm them.
I'm not saying your advice is bad, just be aware that walking away from conflict instead of discussing it is not unlikely to appear to a woman as disinterest or emotional detachment.
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I agree. My girlfriend has a temper the size of Manhattan, but we're pretty good at keeping our distance until our heads cool a little. Another great piece of relationship advice I once received: If the bad stuff is 50% or less, the relationship is worthwhile.
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Man,  I thought I was doing it right! But, just imagine the nerd-rage filling up from within..
Well, maybe I can add "Before doing this, talk to your partner first about what happens when you guys got caught in an heated argument.."
But still, this works for me so
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As a man you generally want to project strength and stability. So yes, avoid her if you're overly angry, but also if you're having a very giddy or needy day. When you do answer the phone or see her, act normally and don't explain yourself. Her: "Why didn't you answer your phone earlier?" You: "I was busy. Wanna get some food?"
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This does not hold ground for me... If I'm having a fight with my girl and I choose to wait until shit calms down she gets more pissed about me ignoring her. Best thing to do is admit she's right and say your sorry. works!
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The best relationship advice I could give would be that women are highly irrational when it comes to anger. They could be completely 100% wrong in an argument and still find a reason to be mad. Knowing this and knowing that when they are mad at you, you have to be understanding and that when you are mad at them, they will then be mad at you also is very important when it comes to relationships.
Being a more rational person can help to avoid fights and keep the bickering to a minimum.
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Think clamly, and if you need to, taking 5 minutes to settle yourself is good. But walking away for hours, or waiting till the next day is awful. I hate that bullshit. But then, I'm the type of person who gets super stressed if I have anything on my to do list.
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Korea (South)17172 Posts
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On September 10 2009 02:03 kidd wrote:
The best relationship advice I could give would be that women are highly irrational when it comes to anger. They could be completely 100% wrong in an argument and still find a reason to be mad. Knowing this and knowing that when they are mad at you, you have to be understanding and that when you are mad at them, they will then be mad at you also is very important when it comes to relationships.
Being a more rational person can help to avoid fights and keep the bickering to a minimum.
Ewww, why would you nurture a spoiled brat syndrome? Someones mad at you for being mad at them, you ditch them until they come crying.
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United States23467 Posts
On September 10 2009 10:54 Chef wrote:Show nested quote +On September 10 2009 02:03 kidd wrote:
The best relationship advice I could give would be that women are highly irrational when it comes to anger. They could be completely 100% wrong in an argument and still find a reason to be mad. Knowing this and knowing that when they are mad at you, you have to be understanding and that when you are mad at them, they will then be mad at you also is very important when it comes to relationships.
Being a more rational person can help to avoid fights and keep the bickering to a minimum. Ewww, why would you nurture a spoiled brat syndrome? Someones mad at you for being mad at them, you ditch them until they come crying.
Because sometimes you have to be understanding of other's weaknesses because they lack whatever is necessary to change theirselves. That is, if you actually want to have a relationship with them.
Everyone has weaknesses, some are bigger than others.
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Korea (South)17172 Posts
On September 10 2009 10:54 Chef wrote:Show nested quote +On September 10 2009 02:03 kidd wrote:
The best relationship advice I could give would be that women are highly irrational when it comes to anger. They could be completely 100% wrong in an argument and still find a reason to be mad. Knowing this and knowing that when they are mad at you, you have to be understanding and that when you are mad at them, they will then be mad at you also is very important when it comes to relationships.
Being a more rational person can help to avoid fights and keep the bickering to a minimum. Ewww, why would you nurture a spoiled brat syndrome? Someones mad at you for being mad at them, you ditch them until they come crying.
Uh no. Don't get mad at irrational beings in the first place. Understand them. Laugh in the face of their useless mind-games to fullful their lack of self confidence.
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I read the blog as arguing he shouldn't talk to his woman when HE is angry. Not HER.
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