Also why does a woman you find attractive at 29 stop being attractive at 30?
That's ridiculous.
Indeed you say the reason you want to leave your 22 year old girlfriend is because she'll be old at 30. And that's why you want to date a 25 year old.
You're not even being honest with yourself, that makes no fucking sense.
Bite the bullet and commit or decide you're really not happy with feeling unsatisfied and break up, it's that simple. Cut out the flowery bullshit.
If your own girlfriend is telling you you're like the housewife with an abusive husband, she's calling herself abusive. Doesn't make her sound that serious about you, either that or REALLY into you and thus resentful about this stuff. It's only gonna get worse, man up and make a decision.
On December 31 2011 13:26 endy wrote: Hopefully for those two girls, you won't get any of them.
Mate, you don't even know me. I'm actually quite a catch for them (good at a particular hobby, fun person to be around, good qualifications). And don't make relationships into something more than they are - basically a relationship is when two people decide they wish to mutually gratify one another (usually exclusively). Anything else can be done through friendship. Yes, feelings and emotions are involved - when you're a teenager. But the older and more experienced you get, the more you realise all those fairytale ideas of what relationships are about (marrying a prince or princess and that sort of crap) is just superficial. Truth is you don't really ever settle down unless you want to buy a house or have kids or something like that. But in the meantime you just want to find someone you can have good times with. If I end up with either of those girls I guess I just have to accept that it'll take me a bit longer until I find another person I can be happy with and is happy to be with me.
On December 31 2011 13:37 Turbovolver wrote: Also why does a woman you find attractive at 29 stop being attractive at 30?
That's ridiculous.
Indeed you say the reason you want to leave your 22 year old girlfriend is because she'll be old at 30. And that's why you want to date a 25 year old.
You're not even being honest with yourself, that makes no fucking sense.
Bite the bullet and commit or decide you're really not happy with feeling unsatisfied and break up, it's that simple. Cut out the flowery bullshit.
If your own girlfriend is telling you you're like the housewife with an abusive husband, she's calling herself abusive. Doesn't make her sound that serious about you, either that or REALLY into you and thus resentful about this stuff. It's only gonna get worse, man up and make a decision.
I have made a decision - I texted the girl I want, and am going to tell my current girlfriend that we should just be friends when she comes around later this afternoon.
What I'm saying with regards to the age thing is this - that I can't base current decisions on what I think about them now - I have to think about the fact that they'll both be old one day, and when their looks are gone, which one would I prefer? And I would prefer the one who would be more 'challenging' and interesting to me. Although the one I am with is hot now, one day she won't be, and all her other qualities such as being nice and supportive aren't qualities I can't just have as friends.
On December 31 2011 13:26 endy wrote: Hopefully for those two girls, you won't get any of them.
Mate, you don't even know me.
Based on your blog post, I don't really wanna know you. You're like a non-rapist version of tdot.
On December 31 2011 13:44 Rodimus Prime wrote: I'm actually quite a catch for them (good at a particular hobby, fun person to be around, good qualifications). And don't make relationships into something more than they are - basically a relationship is when two people decide they wish to mutually gratify one another (usually exclusively). Anything else can be done through friendship. Yes, feelings and emotions are involved - when you're a teenager. But the older and more experienced you get, the more you realise all those fairytale ideas of what relationships are about (marrying a prince or princess and that sort of crap) is just superficial. Truth is you don't really ever settle down unless you want to buy a house or have kids or something like that. But in the meantime you just want to find someone you can have good times with. If I end up with either of those girls I guess I just have to accept that it'll take me a bit longer until I find another person I can be happy with and is happy to be with me.
Who are you trying to convince ? That just look like a paragraph you've been telling yourself over and over.
I have a feeling you won't get far with either of them. Lets just hope you don't. I have a feeling you don't share what you said here with either of them. Easy to say things here now when given the anonimty of the internet.
Based on your posts in this blog alone. You seem to be pretty digusting of a person. Lets face that.
And no. Most guys don't think like you do. There are guys who auctally respect women. You not being one of them.
On December 31 2011 14:07 masterbreti wrote: I have a feeling you won't get far with either of them. Lets just hope you don't. I have a feeling you don't share what you said here with either of them. Easy to say things here now when given the anonimty of the internet.
Based on your posts in this blog alone. You seem to be pretty digusting of a person. Lets face that.
And no. Most guys don't think like you do. There are guys who auctally respect women. You not being one of them.
How's your love life? Single?
I used to 'respect' women. It got me nowhere. You have to treat them mean to keep them keen.
On December 31 2011 14:07 masterbreti wrote: I have a feeling you won't get far with either of them. Lets just hope you don't. I have a feeling you don't share what you said here with either of them. Easy to say things here now when given the anonimty of the internet.
Based on your posts in this blog alone. You seem to be pretty digusting of a person. Lets face that.
And no. Most guys don't think like you do. There are guys who auctally respect women. You not being one of them.
I'm going to have to agree with this. IMO your views on relationships and women will make you end up single
On December 31 2011 14:07 masterbreti wrote: I have a feeling you won't get far with either of them. Lets just hope you don't. I have a feeling you don't share what you said here with either of them. Easy to say things here now when given the anonimty of the internet.
Based on your posts in this blog alone. You seem to be pretty digusting of a person. Lets face that.
And no. Most guys don't think like you do. There are guys who auctally respect women. You not being one of them.
I'm going to have to agree with this. IMO your views on relationships and women will make you end up single
Trust me, I'm being blunt in weighing up my options, and let me tell you this - this is exactly how women think. They think about whether the guy they are currently with is the best they can get, and if not they will dump his ass for some hotter ass. It's the way NATURE works. We are selective, otherwise we'd just be going out with fat chicks and treating them with 'respect'. We don't do that. We choose someone who is slim, attractive and intelligent.
On December 31 2011 14:18 Rodrek wrote: Edited because it's a waste of time arguing with someone like this
I'm not trying to 'argue' with anyone, this is a blog, a place where I rant and vent my thoughts. I have come to a conclusion - chase the girl I like (have texted her, no reply yet) and dumping the girl I'm currently with this afternoon (we're likely to remain friends). End of blog.
On December 31 2011 14:07 masterbreti wrote: I have a feeling you won't get far with either of them. Lets just hope you don't. I have a feeling you don't share what you said here with either of them. Easy to say things here now when given the anonimty of the internet.
Based on your posts in this blog alone. You seem to be pretty digusting of a person. Lets face that.
And no. Most guys don't think like you do. There are guys who auctally respect women. You not being one of them.
How's your love life? Single?
You might want to consider whether or not you have some inadequacy issues. It's one thing to say "I'm going to be very direct in my relationships, and try and get what I want." It's another thing to think that you will be single if you don't act in a certain way.
you didn't reveal anything about your current relationship. From her indifferent reaction it seems like she's already been scouting the market, best thing to do is just break up.
Instead of reddit, you might want to spend time brushing up your EQ. It's okay to be a self-serving dick: 99% of guys are like that. But it's not okay to discount the feelings of others when doing so. For example you don't tell your partner the brutal truth like you did, at least ease it in, ask for time apart, etc. You also talk about the long-haul 8 years in the future. 1. You're not even together and you're projecting a fantasy future in your mind. Seriously creeper status. And 2. your perception of a relationship is more of a fling, how do you expect 8 months, let alone 8 years? Brush up your people skills and learn a bit about real society/culture, not through reddit.
On December 31 2011 12:53 Chef wrote: I think that honestly you should just be alone the rest of your life. I hesitate to say the word "worthless," but it's what comes to mind after reading your inner most thoughts
On December 31 2011 13:26 endy wrote: Hopefully for those two girls, you won't get any of them.
Mate, you don't even know me. I'm actually quite a catch for them (good at a particular hobby, fun person to be around, good qualifications). And don't make relationships into something more than they are - basically a relationship is when two people decide they wish to mutually gratify one another (usually exclusively). Anything else can be done through friendship. Yes, feelings and emotions are involved - when you're a teenager. But the older and more experienced you get, the more you realise all those fairytale ideas of what relationships are about (marrying a prince or princess and that sort of crap) is just superficial. Truth is you don't really ever settle down unless you want to buy a house or have kids or something like that. But in the meantime you just want to find someone you can have good times with. If I end up with either of those girls I guess I just have to accept that it'll take me a bit longer until I find another person I can be happy with and is happy to be with me.
i'm sorry for posting a picture here, but am i the only one who remembers this upon reading this entire thread
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