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Hope that it is ok to open 2 blogs in 2 days or there is some restriction. Anyway ill write about about some teenage stupidity that i know i will laugh at 5 years from now but whatever. If you dont have time dont read this xD
So where to start. Ok let go from the childhood. There was a girl i knew when i was 7 and as a child i didnt really interact with girls. Only when we had ti bite them so they can go crying home and leave us boys alone. She went to the same elementary school as i did and she is going to the same high school. When in elementary school because she was 2 years younger than me i was interested in her nor in any girls. But when i entered puberty everything changed obviously, as he hormones kicked in.
10 months ago she started going to the same high school as i, and i was in the third grade, neither at that time i was speaking her and we were just ''hi to hi'' neighbours. Then once while out with my best friend she approached and started talking with him, i was like: You know each others? Thats when i started to talk to her and be friends with her. But i always felt like i was apart coz whenever we 3 met they would be talking about something i have no a clue about and that my ''best friend'' forgot about me for some time
It was evident that one of them had strong feelings for the other one although they always said they were just friends.
All that mystery somehow hurt me coz i was afraid to lose the friend. Now tell me if someone is your best friend you should not come to know about some thing from the rest of the school, no?
Thats when i started hating the girl coz i thought she was the cause of all of this.
But once while returning home (i live next door to her) she admitted that she liked that my friend but he wasnt interested in her and hurt her by asking her ti help him to get close to another girl. She also said that she is really angry at him. I just listened and i understood her really well, coz thats how i felt when she started to buzz around him.
I started to like her and we became somewhat close for a few months. It was like a really frienship.
Then her birthday came close and i started acting like a douchbag coz i wanted just to make her wonder. Me and my friend bought her a nice present, she was happy and all, but she started to put her eyes again on ''him''. It seems its some kind of jealousy where i dont want to hurt anyone so i become the loser. Few days ago she said in my presence ti him: ''Now that your ex and your girlfriend arent here ill be yours again''. And that really hurt me, not that i wanna harm my friend but there is that feeling of jealousy. I felt so sad and disappointed that i went home and started playing starcraft so hard and in such a energetic way that my mom entered a room and asked if everything was ok.
My birtday is approaching (3 more days) i had in plan to tell her how i feel before leaving (read my other blog) and not begin here for 2 months, but when i rethink i ask myself if she is worth all of this drama, i know that i have partially fucked up and i know that i may some as some emo heartbreaked teenager but whatever. She isnt neither that good looking, she doesnt know how to not gossip, and all, but this potential relationship would be based on friendship. Any suggestions? That my friend clearly isnt interested in her, and he has a girlfriend + she will surely come crying to me again, while im here sitting in front of computer and feeling depressed.
Dunno really what to do. Should i tell her everything or tell how i feel in front all 3 of us? or should i simply let it go and hope the time will help me recover? or should i be straight and hope for a miracle, who knows maybe this birthday would be my best.
One is sure if i do not do anythin it will be the worst one, not to say that its my 18th birtday
I hope some of you will post something, some advice so i can decide what to do. Any similar experiences? For me this seems like a triangle of love
  
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You are Plan B. Become Plan A, or gtfo.
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Find someone else. You bombed early and are stuck forever in the friend zone. With the next girl, be more assertive from the beginning.
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I wonder what she would say if she saw this lol.
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You should tell her you like her if you do but waiting until your gone and there is no possibility for you to get what you want is a shitty plan. By this point it's probably better to say nothing because I can't picture anything good coming from her end on it but you may man up a little and gain some confidence for the future.
You are in the "friend zone." Also switching from nice guy to jerk over jealousy is incredibly unattractive to a girl who thinks of you as her friend. Girls notice and piece that shit together than they like "well f u" while they fucking their real boyfriend/love interest.
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We need pics in order to help you choose the best course of action.
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On June 16 2009 01:46 Reflex wrote:
We need pics in order to help you choose the best course of action.
haha agreed
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This can go two ways:
According to your other blog you are leaving to go to a city "where 2 million people live" and you're staying at the center of it. Anyways, whatever that means..you can either man up and tell her how you feel before you go, thus getting it off your chest so you dont wonder about it the entire time you are gone to your secret location....
Or,
You can just try to forget about it and move on. You haven't made any sort of indication that you have feelings for her and if your friend is involved it makes for a love-triangle type deal (which are never good situations imo), even if your friend is not interested in her. Triangles are vicious little shapes with pointy corners and razor sharp edges, waiting to slice and dice your heart...keep this in mind. Goodluck
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I don't mean to sound mean but seriously dude grow a pair and just tell her.
Stop wasting your time thinking about this, if she likes you after you tell her you like her then yay for you! If she doesn't, move on it's really that simple. Just like Ingenol said be more assertive and also be a man.
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I think that confessing your attraction will only yield negative results. If anything it only gives her more power to go to you when she's upset. You'll end up being used in the same way that your best friend uses her.
I'd say the best thing to do is move on, which, ironically, is also going to increase the chances she ends up romantically interested in you.
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hit the gym, ,meet other girls, and maybe meet other friends?
if this best friend of yours is putting you through ill communication over a girl then you really need to take control and confront him, or confront your insecurities about it.
seriously either way hit the gym it really does wonders for stress.
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Some really good advices here ... hm well im going to the gym and i also thought about that usage: she uses me coz she knows that im here and that i will always listen to her, and my friend also knows it, coz he uses both of us. Im i too nice? lol
we were planning going to see a movie these days with a bunch of friends and i guess ill just tell her how i feel so she has time think while i am away. when i return everything will be normal i guess, but i guess at least i won't carry this burden for the rest of my life. Note that i always screw up and remain hurt. Ill meet her tonight to see how the situation develops. ill update this too
btw when someone becomes enters a friend zone with a girl its not possible to achive something more than that? sounds really scary :o
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You can break it on the rare occassion like if she secretly loves you like in sex drive but mostly a chick knows right away if she will fuck you or not. You definitely have to change SOMETHING to make something different happen. If you've always been friends and you stay the same then you will remain friends. Just gotta man up and show her why she should like you. Liking her a lot not good enough reason but being a nice guy isn't a bad thing. Girls eventually want someone they will be able to live with forever, no one wants to marry the asshole that's a douchebag to them.
When you say your friends "use" you like what do you mean? Talking about problems is just a part of friendship, maybe you dont use your friends enough / make FUN plans so your friendship isn't only talking about problems.
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On June 16 2009 03:28 Art.FeeL wrote:
Some really good advices here ... hm well im going to the gym and i also thought about that usage: she uses me coz she knows that im here and that i will always listen to her, and my friend also knows it, coz he uses both of us. Im i too nice? lol
we were planning going to see a movie these days with a bunch of friends and i guess ill just tell her how i feel so she has time think while i am away. when i return everything will be normal i guess, but i guess at least i won't carry this burden for the rest of my life. Note that i always screw up and remain hurt. Ill meet her tonight to see how the situation develops. ill update this too
btw when someone becomes enters a friend zone with a girl its not possible to achive something more than that? sounds really scary :o
I dont really know if I was in the friend zone but I have managed to hook up with numerous girls that I intended to just be friends with. Their intention is obviously not known so one cant really know if they just wanted to hook up with me the whole time.
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On June 16 2009 03:38 MiniRoman wrote:
When you say your friends "use" you like what do you mean? Talking about problems is just a part of friendship, maybe you dont use your friends enough / make FUN plans so your friendship isn't only talking about problems.
Well it can be that im the reason and when i say ''use'' i mean that i exist only when they need a help at school or need someone to listen their soap operas.
i always thought that im an extroverted person but now i realize that its like that only in my mind and that i tend to be a cool guy only not to show my insecurities. ive gotta boost up my self confidence thats the real problem i think
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Tell her how you feel then leave, just leave. Don't wait for a response from her. Ride into the sunset.
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Yes that's what i am going to do ...
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I think you crashed into the friend zone. Now, unlike in Seinfeld, you cannot come back from the island that is friendship.
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On June 16 2009 04:41 SoulMarine wrote:
I think you crashed into the friend zone. Now, unlike in Seinfeld, you cannot come back from the island that is friendship.
Now thats really stupid T_T, i know that its truth what you speak, but god why is it that way
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