EPT
You're sick with something nasty but not life threatening, let's say the flu. You're girlfriend wants to come over to visit you. Do you:
a) Encourage her to come over and take care of you.
b) Insist that she not come due to the risk of getting sick.
c) Other.
This situation is what prompted this discussion with my girlfriend. I'm of the mindset that choice B makes the most sense and it's because I care about her enough to not want her to get sick. Add to that the fact that when she gets sick she gets hit really hard by the sickness, far more than I do. She gets frustrated/angry when I do this though since she feels like I'm "rejecting her" or something.
So flip the tables now. She's sick and I figured it would make the most sense to visit her the following weekend instead of this one. She insists that I come anyway because "if you care about the person you'll visit irregardless."
She thinks I'm selfish for not risking getting sick to visit her while I think she's being selfish for wanting me to risk getting sick to visit her. I think you could certainly see things either way, neither is completely wrong. However, I'd be curious to see what other people think. Kinda would like to know if I'm in the small heartless selfish minority or not.
Poll: Postponing visit due to sickness is...
(Vote): The logical choice, no reason for both of us to suffer.
(Vote): Selfish, because if you love the person you shouldn't care about getting sick.
Poll: Insisting someone risk getting sick to visit you is...
(Vote): Selfish, you should put their safety before your own.
(Vote): Not selfish, they should care enough about you that they should want to see you anyway.
