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okay, this is gonna be pretty long. so fans of TL;DR, please just dont even try.
I live in Hvar (thats in Croatia, its a pretty amazing place) and i attend school and live a few months out of the year in Dubrovnik, which is about a 2 hour drive from here.
My life up until the past couple days has been relatively normal. I just turned 20, have a beautiful girlfriend, make good money, am in good shape, etc.
Now, about a week ago, i went drinking with some friends. I brought my girlfriend, who we will call Marija, and my friend, who we will call Artuu. (he's the person who went against me in the "sleep deprivation challenge")
We drove into Split (Another large city in the area, also a great place to go drink because of the large number of clubs) and went partying.
This was all great and fine, but we were so drunk and high on cocaine and ecstasy that by the end of the second night (we stayed up through the first) we just decided to get a hotell room.
There were beds in the place, so me and the exhausted Marija collapsed on one and Artuu on another. Atleast, thats what i thought.
So about four hours later, i was woken up, still pretty drunk and high, to someone sitting down rather heavily on the end of my bed. I didn't think a thing of it,
but i cracked my eyes and saw just about the strangest thing ever. My friend, whome i have known since we were little kids, was feeling up my sleeping girlfriend!
(yes, you read that right!) she was completely passed out and he was fondling her! I saw red. I'm not a particularly aggressive guy, but this really flipped me out. Because i was still pretty jittery from the partying all that night, i instantly sat straight up and said "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING?!"
This scared him pretty badly and he jumped straight up and said "uh... nothing?"
again, i dont like to fight people. Although some times it comes to it, i can handle myself pretty well in a fight. I'm about 190.5 centimeters and about 94 kilograms, so i'm not exactly
"small" by anyones measurement. Before i even knew what i was doing, i jumped out of bed, which i had passed out in on top of the blankets, and pushed him, hard.
Now here in Croatia, most people are tall. Artuu is the exception. He's short, and very thin, and spends most of his time working at your stereotypical "office". So he pretty much flew backwards into a cheap table/chair.
Again, we both weren't really in out right mind, so as soon as he stood up, he punched me in the stomach, and then i put a left hook into his jaw. His head snapped around really hard and he just fell over. I've heard of one hit k-o's, but this really scared me. I thought i killed him. Marija was woken up by the noise and i told her what had just transpired in the last 5 or 10 seconds. Fast forward to four hours later, we're standing in the police station, telling our story. As i said before, i'd pretty much only gotten 4 hours of sleep or so the past two days, as well as the drugs, so i was dead on my feet.
Anyway, we made a report and everything, i avoided spending the night in jail because i had a reason to attack him and so on. So we went back to the hotel room and went to sleep while Artuu was booked into the hospital with a concussion and a fractures jaw. I still dont feel sorry for hitting him.
The next morning, we woke and felt just fine for about 5 minutes until everything that had happened the night before caught up with us. We drove back to Hvar really quietly, and i took her home and we went our seperate ways. Now, that night, i get a call from Artuu. He's pressing charges against me, and i may have to pay his medical bills! Of course, i instantly called up Marija and told her what he said, and, crazily enough, she agrees that i "over reacted", and that i should pay his bills! We got into a huge argument about this which pretty much ended up with her hanging up and refusing to pick up my calls.
So yesterday i talked to a lawyer and he said i had a pretty strong case. Me and Marija made up, but now i'm worried about having to deal with a friend through court and i'm really worried that our friendship is ruined forever.
Although i'm STILL not sorry for hitting him.
 
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as you said, you thought u could have killed him
you should be sorry for that, it was obviously a mistake to react that way
though perfectly understandable
sucks about the court stuff though
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guy with a good life gets high on cocaine and drunk on alcohol hits his friend and now thinks life is over
good one.
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now this is blog-worthy stuff. that sucks, man. hopefully it all ends quickly and well for you.
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Sounds like your friendship is over. Don't give him anything, he deserves everything he got and more. He even punched you first, what an idiot. Screw him.
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you guys were on drugs and he got a little horny. split the medical bill half half and call it even.
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it would be sad if your gf was awake the whole time and she liked it.
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also sounds like hes not even really your friend if the douchebag is gonna sue you over getting hit after he touched your girl
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Just forget this friend. How much is this friendship worth if he molested your drunk gf. Totally unacceptable even if hes drunk or high. And pressing for medical fees when he started (and lost) the fight is just loser-ish.
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fear, anger, aggression. these are the tools of the darkside.
take it as a compliment that he molested "your girl". what i would be concerned with is that Marija wasn't asleep at all.
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reading the title, i thought somebody important died.
plenty more friends to make, who cares about the one who harasses ppl with more than DTs.
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wow your so tough, im so scared. good blog.
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Numa's balls dude. As you said in the beginning, you have a good life. More appropriate title might read "Some parts fall apart."
Sort've comes with the territory. Being so intoxicated and such, people make weak decisions, will over-react and have inaccurate memories. I don't know how hard you hit him, but I'd say you were right to smack him around a little. If it was me, I wouldn't trust that friend anymore anyway. If I touch my friends girl and then I get hit, I'm not gonna think
"oh shit, let's fight."
I'd think,
"Yeah, okay, I deserve that."
But instead he punches you back. If touching your GF and then punching you back wasn't bad enough, he's suing you? Lawl? You're worried the friendship is over? You should hope it stays over.
He doesn't deserve a penny. Comes with the territory, he should know that. He is not a very good person, and definitely not a good friend.
Also, this blog could be considered insufferably self-indulgent in a certain perspective.
"I have an amazing life, hot GF and make tons of money. One night we went partying and did a bunch of drugs and it was amazing. Then my friend touched my girl and I was all 'roflsup' and punched him so hard I almost killed him. Now he's suing me and i'm all 'don'tthinkso' and even my GF is like 'wow you hit him so hard man' lololol"
For some reason I picture that entire story told in this overly-compensating macho voice.
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ya...im kinda getting the urge to say 'fuck you' too.
Let me switch positions with you, even if your gf was enjoying it I'll still take it.
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lol so all ppl here would let their gf get molested and dont do shit or wut
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I got the same vibe as nintu lol... enjoy ur court battle, at least you can obviously afford it... and some!
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Funny how even the long friendships can be destroyed over a night. Call him, apologise to each other and forget about this.
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On April 02 2009 17:12 magicbullet wrote:
Just forget this friend. How much is this friendship worth if he molested your drunk gf. Totally unacceptable even if hes drunk or high. And pressing for medical fees when he started (and lost) the fight is just loser-ish.
He is not your friend. Avoid paying the bills. Beat him up again if you can get away with it. Do it in the stomach so no breakages.
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Maybe, he wasn't aware of the things he has done. You were both high and drunk, am I right?
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On April 02 2009 19:12 prOxi.swAMi wrote:
I got the same vibe as nintu lol... enjoy ur court battle, at least you can obviously afford it... and some!
I dont make that much money. Why would people think that? Yes, i make enough to get along and have some to spend, which is more than i can say for some of my friends, but that doesn't mean i can afford a long court battle/medical bills as well as missing the work time.
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On April 03 2009 01:06 ghermination wrote:Show nested quote +On April 02 2009 19:12 prOxi.swAMi wrote:
I got the same vibe as nintu lol... enjoy ur court battle, at least you can obviously afford it... and some! I dont make that much money. Why would people think that? Yes, i make enough to get along and have some to spend, which is more than i can say for some of my friends, but that doesn't mean i can afford a long court battle/medical bills as well as missing the work time.
On April 02 2009 16:01 ghermination wrote:
okay, this is gonna be pretty long. so fans of TL;DR, please just dont even try.
I live in Hvar (thats in Croatia, its a pretty amazing place) and i attend school and live a few months out of the year in Dubrovnik, which is about a 2 hour drive from here.
My life up until the past couple days has been relatively normal. I just turned 20, have a beautiful girlfriend, make good money, am in good shape, etc.
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You did nothing wrong. Court might not see it that way and you may have to dish out a bit of money, but atleast you know you stood up for your girlfriend when she obviously would not stand up for herself (agreeing you over reacted when she molested her unconscious body? -_-).
I'm not you, so obviously we might have different views, but I would take a long good look at whether you really want to patch things up with this guy. First off he molests your girlfriend, and when you have the obvious defensive reaction, he then presses charges? That is not friend material right there.
If I were in your shoes I would have your girlfriend press charges for sexual assault. Maybe he will panic and say he's dropping his charges - and then you can as well.
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If I were in your shoes I would have your girlfriend press charges for sexual assault. Maybe he will panic and say he's dropping his charges - and then you can as well.
This actually might work. Give it a try.
Also, was your gf awake, when you two fought each other? If so, she can testify against him and the charge might be dropped due to you acting in self-defense. In this particular case, it's all about evidence.
Give more information, if you're looking for detailed advice!
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