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On February 24 2009 14:20 SmoKing2012 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 24 2009 13:31 Resonance wrote:
Yeah probably you should get a gf. I suggest not introducing yourself to a women formally, that is just too awkward. I find the easiest way to meet random girls, in class for example, is just to make a random, everyday comment. For example, if you just had a test, ask "how did you find that test". Or hell, even start off slower. Just asking her something about the course or the situation like "did you write down that last note? can I see it?", or even some impersonal comment like "that was a better lecture than usual", opens up the doors @ least. Then the next time you see her, you can talk to her without seeming awkward. Hell, don't even ask for her name for a long time, just keep it simple. It won't get you a gf in the moment, but it opens doors. That is definitely the easiest way to meet girls I find. You can do it in class, you don't have to prepare or anything, it's not formal @ all so it's very comfortable, and it's just the simplest way to meet a girl without any effort. Appreciate the advice.. I know all the stuff I should be doin, and you're right it shouldn't be that hard, but I have trouble actually pullin the trigger in the real world. It's pathetic but I'm usually too much of a chump to put myself out there in a social setting. Occasionally it'll just come naturally and I can spark a conversation from there, but yea.. I need to work on that. Unfortunately no amount of support from TL can be a substitute for actually puttin yourself out there. Bah.
Yeah don't worry man your not alone with that at all, it's always easier said than done. Even after explaining all of that, I don't even ALWAYS do that (I freeze up often as well, also depends on mood). I mean it's natural to have a bit of approach anxiety, all guys have it (even guys who get a lot of girls). Don't feel too bad 
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how can there not be a single club that you're interested in
take up a new sport, or running, or pick up an instrument, or study philosophy, or just read books
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dunno, its 1:30 am and I have work tomorrow and I'm reading this right now
http://www.greatdreams.com/moses.htm
can't say I don't have the same problems as you do, but whatever, I do what I do
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On February 24 2009 14:57 Carnivorous Sheep wrote:
It's how I feel, but that's mainly because I'm currently in the Long Dark Teatime of the High School Soul - aka that time as a second semester senior before college acceptances/rejections come back in April.
Playing this waiting game really sucks. -yawn-
-eez bored-
That is like the best time you're gonna have for awhile to come .... zero responsibilities lol
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Level yourself up, go to a gym.
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Almost everyone regrets wasting their time during school years, once you get into the real world (or even just uni) you'll find your time limited by responsibilities (and/or partying).
I don't really regret spending all my time playing games, but I do wish I had taken up more sports at an earlier age. I'm starting to do a lot more now and realising how much I was missing out.
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Well dude... change.
Or keep acting like a loser.
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Join a MMORPG and find a clan with epic pvp.
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On February 25 2009 03:42 ruXxar wrote:
Join a MMORPG and find a clan with epic pvp.
ok !
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My question is, how can someone not be bored with life? I mean, you can't do engaging things all of the time or you would get too tired, and if you don't do engaging things all of the times you will get bored.
Its impossible to escape from boredom, but you can at least get a few moments of hapiness now and then.
I wonder, what function do a girl serve in your life? Is it to give it more meaning or is it to give you something to do over and over? The problem is of course that for it to give you meaning you need to find someone you actually care about, so mostly it would be something to do rather than something to care about.
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On February 24 2009 14:51 Duke wrote:
MMA /
Used to train bjj, lost the motivation.
music /
Used to play guitar, lost the motivation.
chess /
Played some online recently, then moved on to connect four, then lost the motivation.
flowers??
No room to grow em.
pick up a hobby
Yea.
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On February 25 2009 01:22 Nytefish wrote:
I'm starting to do a lot more now and realising how much I was missing out.
Like what?
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On February 24 2009 18:26 fight_or_flight wrote:dunno, its 1:30 am and I have work tomorrow and I'm reading this right now http://www.greatdreams.com/moses.htmcan't say I don't have the same problems as you do, but whatever, I do what I do
heh, thx for the link. I'll have to show this to my Ancient Near East professor :p
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On February 24 2009 18:00 Resonance wrote:Show nested quote +On February 24 2009 14:20 SmoKing2012 wrote:On February 24 2009 13:31 Resonance wrote:
Yeah probably you should get a gf. I suggest not introducing yourself to a women formally, that is just too awkward. I find the easiest way to meet random girls, in class for example, is just to make a random, everyday comment. For example, if you just had a test, ask "how did you find that test". Or hell, even start off slower. Just asking her something about the course or the situation like "did you write down that last note? can I see it?", or even some impersonal comment like "that was a better lecture than usual", opens up the doors @ least. Then the next time you see her, you can talk to her without seeming awkward. Hell, don't even ask for her name for a long time, just keep it simple. It won't get you a gf in the moment, but it opens doors. That is definitely the easiest way to meet girls I find. You can do it in class, you don't have to prepare or anything, it's not formal @ all so it's very comfortable, and it's just the simplest way to meet a girl without any effort. Appreciate the advice.. I know all the stuff I should be doin, and you're right it shouldn't be that hard, but I have trouble actually pullin the trigger in the real world. It's pathetic but I'm usually too much of a chump to put myself out there in a social setting. Occasionally it'll just come naturally and I can spark a conversation from there, but yea.. I need to work on that. Unfortunately no amount of support from TL can be a substitute for actually puttin yourself out there. Bah. Yeah don't worry man your not alone with that at all, it's always easier said than done. Even after explaining all of that, I don't even ALWAYS do that (I freeze up often as well, also depends on mood). I mean it's natural to have a bit of approach anxiety, all guys have it (even guys who get a lot of girls). Don't feel too bad
Troof. Just gotta keep chuggin I guess.
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start skateboarding, get at least one friend to start too otherwise you will be bored soon.
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take pleasure from the fact that your current situation won't last forever and you can change it eventually, take steps to ensure this happens, hope will overtake your boredom
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On February 25 2009 08:00 Rekrul wrote:
take pleasure from the fact that your current situation won't last forever and you can change it eventually, take steps to ensure this happens, hope will overtake your boredom
nice, this is a good way to look at it.
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