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I have a friend, and I'll describe her to you:
- She always has to have control over everything, and everyone, including both things that aren't her business and your everyday life and actions.
- She doesn't take into consideration what you say or suggest, it is always what she wants, when she wants it and however she wants it.
- Everything in her life has to be a secret; what she talks with others you shouldn't know, and what she tells you no one should know.
- She sometimes jerks her arms and body, and shakes her hand unconsciously, sometimes falling to the ground.
- She's 30 and still lives with her parents.
- She hangs out mostly with people (only girls) much much younger than her.
- She isn't married, and is desperate to get married yet doesn't do anything about it.
- She's very dramatic, I repeat, VERY DRAMATIC. If something happens, it wasn't a coincidence, and furthermore, she has "predicted it would happen" before.
- She believes that you shouldn't hang out with people that she doesn't know, and assumes everything is a harm. Example: Everytime she sees a car go past in front of her house, she looks out and asks us to stay behind because it might be someone "bad" or we can get robbed or something.
- Once the doorlock didn't work and she kept a knife next to her all night long.
- She has a crapload of stuff written all over the place, I would say entire books worth of text, in places such as stairs, walls, ceilings, closets, etc.
- She wants to win a grammy in singing, and is convinced.
- Forces other girls to be like her.
- HATES IT when her girlfriends hang out with guys. She goes crazy, so much that after they're done talking, she walks up to them and asks them what did the guy say and tells them that she is "protecting them" and thus shouldn't go out with those guys.
- My friends would sometimes tell me stuff in spanish and after they're gone she asks me what they said (W T F)
- She literally has no friends her age.
Dammit, I can go on all day long. I know this just simply can't be a normal person and I'm trying to find a disorder for this as I'm starting to get really scared.
If you guys have any experience on this, I would appreciate it much if you all shared it with me.
 
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Aotearoa39261 Posts
*waits for Daigomi to post*
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
my expert diagnosis is some form of an anxiety disorder or a paranoid personality disorder
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
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Thank you, I'm a go check on those...
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
she could also just be a bitch, you know
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Based on your descriptions, I would say she has some form of narcissistic personality disorder with slight elements of paranoia and obsessive compulsion (need for control). I'm just guessing.
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Intrigue, I just checked paranoid personality disorder and the symptoms they list in there are 100% relevant to her personality.
They say there is no cure ='(
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The thing is, I have a one-shot 0.01% chance of getting her to take the therapy =(
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It is the only way, unfortunately.
If she doesn't recognize that she has a problem, I don't think there is a way to fix it.
Good luck, I hope you can help her out.
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On December 03 2008 01:30 intrigue wrote:
she could also just be a bitch, you know
haha!
is she fat and ugly? i mean, seriously... people who doesnt have friends their age = awkward. its fine to have friends in a wide range of ages but only friends with GIRLS much much YOUNGER than her? maybe shes a lesbian pedobear, who knows.
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She has a regular body type, has very long, curly and messed up hair, blue/white eyes (more white than blue) and is extremely WHITE (skin color), so much she has a lot of red spots (I forgot how you call them, those spots you get on your body)
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Freckles.
How come you hang out with her then?
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freckles? pecas?? well i guess the best help you can give her is to convince her to go to a therapy
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orphan archetype with narcissist like personality. something must have harmed her psychologically in the past and has created 'demons' for her to live with. Going to a therapist is the only way to unlock them :o Talking one on one with her yourself will not do what a therapist can.
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What ppl really want to know is -- is she hot?
Sounds like she has the good ol' loser disorder.
On December 03 2008 02:10 EsX_Raptor wrote:
She has a regular body type, has very long, curly and messed up hair, blue/white eyes (more white than blue) and is extremely WHITE (skin color), so much she has a lot of red spots (I forgot how you call them, those spots you get on your body)
Most ppl have more white in their eyes than any other colour.. unless they are possessed by a demon spirit, in which case the whole eye can turn either red or black.
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could you get a sample of her handwriting?
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LOL and get chef to analyze?!
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With more white than blue i meant to say of a light bluish color -_-
And I don't think I need chef's ANALysis XDDD
This is her:
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1) I'd hit it
2) She is a loser
3) If she is Venezuelan, she is a chismosa like a lot of females down there LOL, like intrigue said she might be lesbian and of course she likes younger because they are usually more innocent and cuter 
3) Since she is a loser she needs to feel   iNcontroL and have power "to feel important"
4) IF she is from Venezuela then she might be on drugs and that causes the shaking of her hands and things like that.. likes to keep stuff in secret because in Venezuela it is not like in North America and Europe where doing drugs is normal... down there you will get excluded from society completely and nobody will wanna talk to u and think you are a total failure in life.. then that would explain the secrets stuff...
5) She could just have a lil mental problem, but it doesnt sound like nothing reeeeeaaallly serious that couldnt be worked on...
6) Do you know where she lives and have been inside her house etc? with her family may I ask? does she work? where do you guys talk and hang out?
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On December 03 2008 01:11 EsX_Raptor wrote:
- My friends would sometimes tell me stuff in spanish and after they're gone she asks me what they said (W T F)
I noticed that Mexicans (maybe all Latinos?) have a queer sense of protocol; they don't say "please" and "thank you" and they often jump into their own language to talk over the heads of non-Spanish speakers.
Americans find that stuff rude, but I realize it's normal for Latinos or w/e.
One of my favorite things about Asian immigrants is that they are super-protocol. They're so so so polite (at least on the surface) and they will struggle through broken English even when speaking to others of same culture, to avoid condescension.
A bit off-topic, but I thought I'd explain this particular "W T F".
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On December 03 2008 05:15 HeadBangaa wrote:Show nested quote +On December 03 2008 01:11 EsX_Raptor wrote:
- My friends would sometimes tell me stuff in spanish and after they're gone she asks me what they said (W T F)
I noticed that Mexicans (maybe all Latinos?) have a queer sense of protocol; they don't say "please" and "thank you" and they often jump into their own language to talk over the heads of non-Spanish speakers. Americans find that stuff rude, but I realize it's normal for Latinos or w/e. One of my favorite things about Asian immigrants is that they are super-protocol. They're so so so polite (at least on the surface) and they will struggle through broken English even when speaking to others of same culture, to avoid condescension. A bit off-topic, but I thought I'd explain this particular "W T F".
Latinos speak spanish because it comes out and we dont even notice... we are nice people.. Asians speak english and look nice on the surface but inside they talk more crap in their language than we do.. I swear they do..
The thing is, imagine yourself in Korea and you are kiking it with rekrul and guillaume, Would you speak Korean or English? you'd feel weird talking korean to him (even though all of u speak it) just because it isnt ur main language.. so I guess that helps with the whole spanish speaking of latinos in front of others..
I really try to avoid that but my friends are really bad at it...
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Yeah, Infested is right about that, it just comes out of us sometimes >.>
Their parents are very very nice persons, though they seem a little concerned about her. She does work, as a webmaster of some site, never gotten to see all of her house but looks rather plain (still lives with her parents) and the only place we meet is at church.
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If everybody there speaks a common language, that is the language spoken. So yeah if I spoke Korean and Jaedong was there and didn't, we'd be speaking Korean
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Is this the same lady from your I don't want another mother blog?
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On December 03 2008 08:33 HeadBangaa wrote:
If everybody there speaks a common language, that is the language spoken. So yeah if I spoke Korean and Jaedong was there and didn't, we'd be speaking Korean
I d bet money that sometimes english would just come out even in front of Koreans, because it is common.. but I still get your point and you are right .
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On December 03 2008 09:48 KaasZerg wrote:
Is this the same lady from your I don't want another mother blog?
Yes... -.-
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Some things you name aren't really symptoms at all, sounds like she has a pretty neurotic personality but besides that it's kind of hard to make a proper judgement based on those facts. Right now it could be numerous things. Remember though, something in psychology is only a diagnosis if she is limited in her ability to function properly in society, or limits people in her environment.
If I were to make a guess I would say it was a personality disorder, but which one seems impossible to determine with the information provided. Could be:
-narcissistic personality disorder
-theatral personality disorder (not sure how to translate from dutch)
-borderline personality disorder
-paranoid personality disorder
Important things to know would be:
-How does she respond to criticism?
-When she talks about events does she seem to leave out a lot of details and talk in an impressionistic way?
-Is she impulsive? (does she go along with all the fads etc)
-What does she look like? Would you say she uses her appearance to get attention?
-How did her relations go?
-Is she suspicious of others?
-self mutilation?
-hostility?
-Is she very needy of compliments?
Might not be anything though, or a mix of things (The 80-20 rule applies in psychology; roughly 80% of all disorders belong to 20% of all people.) Anyway the information you provided is way too incomplete. Like I said, she sounds like a pretty neurotic person but besides that it really doesn't have to be anything. People who are on the neurotic side (as opposed to stabile) tend to view all things that happen in a negative context.
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Diagnosis :
NOT ENOUGH SEX
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On December 03 2008 05:19 InfeSteD wrote:Show nested quote +On December 03 2008 05:15 HeadBangaa wrote:On December 03 2008 01:11 EsX_Raptor wrote:
- My friends would sometimes tell me stuff in spanish and after they're gone she asks me what they said (W T F)
I noticed that Mexicans (maybe all Latinos?) have a queer sense of protocol; they don't say "please" and "thank you" and they often jump into their own language to talk over the heads of non-Spanish speakers. Americans find that stuff rude, but I realize it's normal for Latinos or w/e. One of my favorite things about Asian immigrants is that they are super-protocol. They're so so so polite (at least on the surface) and they will struggle through broken English even when speaking to others of same culture, to avoid condescension. A bit off-topic, but I thought I'd explain this particular "W T F". Latinos speak spanish because it comes out and we dont even notice... we are nice people.. Asians speak english and look nice on the surface but inside they talk more crap in their language than we do.. I swear they do.. The thing is, imagine yourself in Korea and you are kiking it with rekrul and guillaume, Would you speak Korean or English? you'd feel weird talking korean to him (even though all of u speak it) just because it isnt ur main language.. so I guess that helps with the whole spanish speaking of latinos in front of others.. I really try to avoid that but my friends are really bad at it...
Yeah (I being a non spanish speaking Mexican) find it annoying when people talk nothing but spanish around me, then rip on me for not knowing it, we are in America, we speak English in America, I don't feel it necessary to learn the language of my people if I don't have any plans of ever going to Mexico (Mexico sucks..alot). It seems that many of older latinos (30-40) are very judemental in the way they see things, they tend to talk crap about anyone they see on the street, and it really pisses me off, they don't even try to hide it.pinche chismosas.
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