I feel TL.net has not yet had it's fair share of my complaints and inquiries about bitches.
I am a full time student and also work as an economics tutor for the school of economics. Most people I tutor are pretty stupid and have non-technical majors so I think they just give up when they see anything that involves math.
But there is a girl who has come into the tutor room a couple of times. She's dark skinned (some kind of exotic thing I think), has dreadlocks, and is skinny, not too tall, and generally just good looking.
Anyway, she was there today, and through mundane conversation it was uncovered that her major is environmental science, and she is writing her thesis on desertification in Africa.
My major interests are economic development, collectivist theory, and design processes for chemicals (I'm double majoring in chemical engineering). Anyhow, that kind of relates, since desertification results in a ridiculous amount of deaths and ruins the land, which is bad for development.
Point is, I want to ask this girl out, but asking a girl out is something I have rarely done, and when I do, I'm asking someone whose answer I am sure will be no. I don't even know how to legitimately talk to girls, and the other problem is that the situation is kind of awkward, since there's always one or two other tutors working at the same time, and usually several students.
Soooo that's one issue but how the fuck do you ask someone out, awkward situation notwithstanding? Do I just fit it in like, "remember a profit-maximizing monopolist will set price equal to marginal revenue, and that for a monopolist the marginal revenue curve lies under the demand curve .... so, what are you doing Friday night?"
I've dated girls before, so I don't lack fundamental social skills, but honestly, the girls I've dated were kind of crazy and obsessed with me so I didn't have to do any work. This girl is ridiculously hot though, and the quarter is almost over, so I want to legitimately give it my best shot. Failure isn't a worry for me, though I'd like to do all I can to avoid it.
Of course, being that I am a tutor and she is a tutee, that's probably unethical in some way and I suppose she could get me in trouble if it was her only goal, but hey, what's life if you don't take risks?
I actually read it now, because im SUCH a nice guy.
Obviously you don't go against her asking her out all of a sudden, this isn't a club and you are not drunk (If you are then it doesn't matter and you can read this you are gay lalalalala).
So you should start talking to her about where she comes from or anything else to turn into casual conversation. I don't know how your tutoring works, which makes it hard.
Ages? Yes asking a student out in front of other tutors seems weird, unless the other tutors are friends of you, then it's all good.
Where is she from? What is this tutoring for? Ages? Your co-workers are fun/relaxed people/friends?
You never have time alone? What do you do after tutoring, and when does it happen.
You can probably slip in a go-out-to-a-bar-to-get-some-beers if tutoring is late / if other tutors are cool. I don't know how it works there, but in my university tutoring is relaxed and im hang out with people i teach sometimes. So with Christmas coming close you can even use it as an excuse, as a year ending thing.
On December 02 2008 13:12 Zeller wrote: Just stop givin a fuck so much.
Go up to her start some bullshit convo
Then throw in some cute line about taking her out to dinner. She's for it or she's not no biggie.
That's what I planned on doing. I just am to arrogant for lame bullshit lines. Unfortunately, bitches eat that shit up. I suppose I need to realize women don't want something brilliant and interesting, they want something lame, played out, and retartedly cocky sounding.
I care for two reasons - she's hot, and she's passionate about something. College girls are usually devoid of passion except for getting drunk and then getting meat in them and then playing it off in some bullshit innocent way like they're not huge sluts. When there is someone who isn't like that, I am duly intrigued.
Yeah i get you like her, hell she probably is a good catch. You gotta stop worrying about the consequences and just go for it. Be yourself broskie she'll like you or she wont.
On December 02 2008 13:13 IntoTheWow wrote: I actually read it now, because im SUCH a nice guy.
Obviously you don't go against her asking her out all of a sudden, this isn't a club and you are not drunk (If you are then it doesn't matter and you can read this you are gay lalalalala).
So you should start talking to her about where she comes from or anything else to turn into casual conversation. I don't know how your tutoring works, which makes it hard.
Ages? Yes asking a student out in front of other tutors seems weird, unless the other tutors are friends of you, then it's all good.
Where is she from? What is this tutoring for? Ages? Your co-workers are fun/relaxed people/friends?
You never have time alone? What do you do after tutoring, and when does it happen.
You can probably slip in a go-out-to-a-bar-to-get-some-beers if tutoring is late / if other tutors are cool. I don't know how it works there, but in my university tutoring is relaxed and im hang out with people i teach sometimes. So with Christmas coming close you can even use it as an excuse, as a year ending thing.
hope it helps, if it doesn't PM hot_Bid about it.
Why would I PM hot_bid O-O
Anyway, the getting a drink thing wouldn't work because I am 20 and have no fake ID (drinking age in the USA is 21, for anyone who doesn't know). I am friends with the other tutors fortunately.
The casual conversation thing sounds good, but I must be tactful to make it sound non-retarded (as in, not leading up to asking her out).
The way the tutoring works is we sit in the tutor room on computer Facebook creeping, browsing TL (e.g.) or doing homework. Students come in and we sit at a table with them or at a computer and answer questions they have about economics.
I assume this girl is slightly older than I am, since she's getting her undergraduate degree this year I assume, which is why she brought up her thesis.
Tutoring is based on courses, and as an econ major I've taken a lot of econ even though I am only second year. So I can help students in higher years if they are taking econ classes for general curriculum. Anyhow, it is definitely a relaxed atmosphere.
I get of at 5:00P M W F. Unfortunately for me she was there right until the end today, I guess that would have been a good chance.
I suppose my goal will now be steer economics assistance towards majors / life interests / activities / school / plans / what are you doing Friday night. Just an idea, I'm sure I'll have to ad lib.
On December 02 2008 13:20 Zeller wrote: Yeah i get you like her, hell she probably is a good catch. You gotta stop worrying about the consequences and just go for it. Be yourself broskie she'll like you or she wont.
The simple advice is good for confidence! With a reasonable outline of a game plan, and a live in the moment attitude, and maybe some bullshit cocky lines in case of emergency as Kennigit courteously affirmed, I'll rape (the situation, as one would rape a D- noob).
Oh 21 drinking age sucks. Well what do you usually do after work, or with friends. Can you go for a snack or something at a bar? (i don't know what's a normal thing to do after work since you don't drink). Abuse Christmas excuse.
Are holidays coming for you? she going on holiday somewhere is a good excuse to get to know her.
On December 02 2008 13:23 arb wrote: play her this song,you'll win her over for sure EDIT : If she has dreads its in her blood to like this song http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=He82NBjJqf8
That's a good way for her to hate me and get a brutal stare of disdain. I honestly can't tell if she's African, Cuba, Latino, Haitian, some kind of weird Middle Eastern or something...
The thing is, she's exotic looking, but not amazon-like, which is a frequent problem with those kinds of girls. She probably dutifully shaves her body hair and showers regularly, not like some weed-smoking bra burning spiritual rasta. Not that those kinds are all bad, but for a nice expensive dinner I charge and cannot particularly afford, I'd rather have the former type.
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