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Im sitting in my room reading, when my sister walks in. She starts yelling at me, that i should get off my ass and go out and help around the house with my dad, since we just got a load of dirt to spread around the lawn. she says somdthing along the lines of "dad is really old and he shouldnt have to do all that work outside u should go out and help him for at least an hour, u lazy asshole" she goes on in this way for a few more minutes. I say "i have to work in 2 hours and i dont want to spend an hour of my only free time this weekend shoveling dirt why dont u go out there and help him?" she gets extremely mad swears at me a bit more then slams the door on her way out, while still swearing and goes out to help my dad.
I thinking this is a fucking joke, continue to read. My mom then comes up the stairs a few minutes later, and says basically the same exact thing.
Finally i just go outside and help my dad, with my sister. There was two shovels a big one and a small one, and my sister "volinteers" to use the small one. I had to shovel dirt into a wheel barrel and then move it to the right spot dump the dirt then bring it back.
After i do this about 15 times, and my back is killing me i ask my sister to do it once. She looks at me the dirtiest way and says "u lazy asshole ive been out here way longer then u (5 mins)" and she drops the shovel and walks inside.
I continue shoveling and dumping about 5 more times, then decide to go in. My mom and sister are in the kitchen, i walk in get a drink and then go to walk upstairs. They then start to swear at me and call me lazy and an asshole. Then i say that my mom didnt go out at all and my sister did almost no work compared to me.
Long story short im grounded. Are all women like this???
   
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Pretty much.
+ Show Spoiler +But most guys are retarded, too  Try to find deviants.
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Physician
United States4146 Posts
your family members call each other "assholes"? sorry to hear that man.. anyway people, women often, will tolerate other stuff for a while and then explode, in an out of proportion manner, on something unrelated; you just have to identify the other stuff to understand their behavior..
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My sister is exactly the same, she doesn't do a DAMN thing yet she has the nerve to complain all the fucking time.
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Yes.
The trick is to basically do the opposite of what you are doing and work really fast and they'll feel embarrassed. (and possibly lazy themselves, especially if you poke fun at them ^^ )
If you are in the slightest bit reluctant they have the high ground and you are fucked.
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Canada7170 Posts
I've had this happen... almost exactly like you describe. Deja vu? Except my dad is incredibly capable so when I ask to help he tells me he doesn't need it.
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Funny.
My girlfriend just bitched at me in a similar manner, which left me completely dumbfounded.
Basically, she just cooked dinner and we ate and then came to look at pictures of this Frisian island, Juist, on Flickr because we're going there tomorrow and I wanted to get an idea of what kind of skyline it would be presenting.
Anyway, I noticed that she didn't finish her glass of wine and had left it on the table, so I assumed that she was done with it (because that is usually the case, that she doesn't finish her drinks, especially alcohol) so I just brought my glass of wine - so then she goes on a rant of how I only think of myself. I'm like, wtf, you never finish your drinks so I just brought mine.
Then she is like, "So what if that's true, you should have brought it anyway."
LOL
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sux to be u dawg
idk why but i never experience this with women
but frankly something about me causes people to never seem to be capable of being angry to me, i am 2 friendly
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women can get hysterical
men can be assholes
nothing new really 
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On April 27 2008 04:10 Spike wrote:women will get hysterical men can be assholes nothing new really 
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I think you should've still helped your dad around.
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On April 27 2008 04:24 FirstBorn wrote:Show nested quote +On April 27 2008 04:10 Spike wrote:women will get hysterical men will be assholes nothing new really 
if you're gonna do that, atleast be fair
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stand up for your right!! get mad at them and refuse any contact until they realise their shitty behaviour. you shouldn't let them tramp you down like this. and make sure you'll react way faster and more intensely should something like this ever happen again.
i know everyone's relationship with their family is different, but still you can't let them treat you so disrespectfully. it could turn out to a bad habit for both you (getting used to be treated like that) and them (continue this type of behaviour towards them).
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I'm guessing you're a little younger than I am. All that BS ends soon though, it's replaced with other BS, but it's not quite as demeaning. Parents / chores etc. = gay.
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Sounds to me like your family is sick of you slacking off and not contributing to the housework. Did you consider that maybe you're at fault, and not them? I mean, what kind of fucking excuse is "I don't want to shovel dirt"? It's your parents for god's sake. You're supposed to fucking help them.
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On April 27 2008 04:56 ahrara_ wrote: Sounds to me like your family is sick of you slacking off and not contributing to the housework. Did you consider that maybe you're at fault, and not them? I mean, what kind of fucking excuse is "I don't want to shovel dirt"? It's your parents for god's sake. You're supposed to fucking help them. I'd assume his sister didn't have to work, or else he wouldn't have made that argument. If she does work as much as he does, I agree that it's invalid. But in my experience
+ Show Spoiler [slightly sexist] +teenage ~ young adult American women will avoid work at any cost if there is any possible way to do so.
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I agree with ahrara, you'r the stupid idiot who wants everything served to you... Did your dad get paid for it? I dont think so, he used his own freetime to do it. Does your mom get money for doing the laundry? I dont think so either... Stop bitching about helping out at home, it's everyones duties! And as for your sister walking in before you, well suit yourself you gave her the excuse to get in early.
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bitches r meant to be bitches
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Sounds like your sister is a bigger man than you. I grew up with two sisters and my mother constantly berating me for being lazy when it was menial tasks like cleaning the dishes and other things that I didn't care for but as far as yard work it's a father/son duty as it should be. The work you did doesn't sound that bad anyway, and why are you lifting with your back?
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intrigue
Washington, D.C9933 Posts
On April 27 2008 04:56 ahrara_ wrote: Sounds to me like your family is sick of you slacking off and not contributing to the housework. Did you consider that maybe you're at fault, and not them? I mean, what kind of fucking excuse is "I don't want to shovel dirt"? It's your parents for god's sake. You're supposed to fucking help them.
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You are all nay saying because "he should have just done the work," but that doesn't change the fact this his mother and sister were being huge annoying b***es, having to work is always a good excuse. Now I don't know the specifics of his situation, but during the summer I would often work 8-12 hours on weekend days, and at least my mom and brother understood that I was very tired and didn't go around demanding things.
I'd still try to help when I could, but sometimes I'd just sleep when I got home from work (around midnight). Requiring your children to work is one thing, but having a huge conniption over something this insignificant is ridiculous.
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
Is wayne brady gonna have to choke a bitch?
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It has nothing to do with women. Your mom and sister swore at you with no repercussions from your Dad? You just have a fucked family. Sorry.
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I would told your sister to fuck off. Your dad knew you had work soon and didn't seem to mind your sister helping. And if she was really worried she would have stayed for the entire work load not just leave when you go there. Better marry your sister off fast it seems.
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You're both huge vaginas. Unfortunately for you she has an excuse, she has one. Man up.
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Russian Federation4235 Posts
People suck, men and women.
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your sister is a whore, but your still an asshole. Go outside and help your father!
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
you're lucky your dad even helped
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On April 27 2008 04:56 ahrara_ wrote: Sounds to me like your family is sick of you slacking off and not contributing to the housework. Did you consider that maybe you're at fault, and not them? I mean, what kind of fucking excuse is "I don't want to shovel dirt"? It's your parents for god's sake. You're supposed to fucking help them.
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And you can never fucking guess what mood theyre on god damn it.
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Braavos36373 Posts
lol is it so fucking hard to just help your dad do yardwork? who cares if your sister didn't do any
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dont lift with your back, offering to help would have kept your mom and sis off your back.
Them yelling at you was unjustified but seriously, people do shit in their free time they dont wanna do all the time, learn to deal with it.
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On April 27 2008 03:40 nemY wrote: Yup.
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Ha, I've also done some serious yardwork recently. Except it was mostly me and my mom doing the work since my dad uses his bad knee as an excuse (come on, I was doing ALL of the heavy work, so that's just BS) and my brother uses his handicap as an excuse (and then goes to the gym while we are working -- on multiple occasions). Sadly, I live in a family where my dad loves my brother more than me and makes that painfully clear at times. Thank god I'll be off to graduate school very soon and living off the money from my GTA.
Regarding your family, here is what I think:
I understand why you might rather read, but you really should have gone out to do the yardwork as soon as you knew it was being done.
You handled neither of the women in your house correctly. When your sister comes to your room, how you respond depends on how she starts. If she goes, "Dad is working outside, please help him," then your response should be, "I'll be down in just a second." Reach for a bookmark and she'll probably leave. Find a good place to stop real quick and then get out there. If she goes, "You lazy ass, dad is outside busting his butt, blah blah blah," then you go, "Oh, dad is outside working? Someone should have told me." This takes all the blame off of you and if she continues riding you, then it makes her the obvious villain.
Your mother came because your sister snitched. Here's a secret: even if secretly your mom agrees with you, 9 times out of 10 she will side with your dad. From her perspective, she's protecting her family by protecting her husband, your father. He's getting old, you are younger and stronger. She's just been informed that you know your dad is working but you won't lift a finger. She is therefore mad.
After you go out, certainly your sister will complain, certainly she will do less work. For starters, you are the guy and therefore stronger. Any guy who has been through puberty should be able to bench 100 lbs even if he's never been to a gym in his whole fucking life. Any guy in good fitness can bench 1.5 times his bodyweight. A normal girl can bench maybe half her bodyweight at most. You really just have to deal with it. Count the points in your head, but never tell; have pride that you are stronger.
If she starts bitching at your performance while working, tune her out completely as best you can. If she continues, a simple "You could be a little nicer you know," is all you need. Yet again, you said nothing wrong.
Your sister and mom seem to have a good repoire. It seems like they are the gossipy, naggy type. If they call you a lazy ass right after you finished working, say something like, "It's not nice to criticize someone right after they worked real hard." Or if you are really pissed, "If you're going to insult me right after I did all that work for you, then perhaps next time I shouldn't do the work at all? Either way you will insult me, but at least that way I won't be tired and sore right before work." That will maybe get you grounded, but it will help make clear that they are at fault, whether they want to admit it or not.
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Be a man and help your dad.
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After re-reading this blog while drunk - and therefore being more inclined to clarity - I say, go help your dad you lazy piece!
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Yes.
But they're also family, and you only got so many family in this world.
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