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So its been over three months since my "friend" started being boyfriend of my ex. I have barely talked to any of both because even though my ex and i still had somewhat a good "relationship" the moment they started being bf/gf i got really heart-crushed.
So i've talked nothing with my ex yet, i havent even said a word to her, and my "friend", i barely talk to him because we're on the same classroom at college.
So i dont know if im on the right foot or not. The other day my ex came to college to give me a letter or something, but before even we made visual contact, i noticed and left quickly. Then when i returned with a couple of friends, his bf comes over and hands me the letter and went cursing.
When i went into the classroom he started a fight telling me that what i was thinking, that i should not hurt her that way, who understand me etc. I told him that this was none of his business and he should rather stay away. Then he started yelling telling me that his gf ask way too much about me and that i should get along with her. I said fuck you yelling as well and left the classroom.
I mean, its my right to be pissed off with him, am i not? First he dates my ex, then fights me over because he's too fucking jealous that my ex still cares about me(???? i dont htink that but ..) At the moment i fucking hate him, he's a fucking asshole that all he cares about is her ex stop complaining about why i cant be in good terms with her (as if was not enough clear... both knew i had a crush on her still).
I handed a letter to my ex later, telling her i wont be her friend and if she cant offer more than friendship, then leave me alone and take separate ways.
What do you guys think?
ninja edit: i wish she didnt live so far from me t.t (my friend that is a model) NOTE: SHES NOT MY EX
 
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stupid idea with giving her the letter. you'll probably regret it later.
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I don't know what to say about your situation, but thanks for bringing me the next episode of your little soap opera :O
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You are right to be angry friends dont fuck your ex girlfriends without asking you first.
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YEAH AGREE WITH YULIJAN FUCK EM!
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United States7488 Posts
Extremely bm by your friend. I would never date the ex of a friend of mine without specific permission to do so from them. Even then, the moment anything got weird because of it I would end it. There is no need for him/her to add a bunch of unneccassary drama into all three of your lives. There are lots of dateable people, neither of them should have to date each other.
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United States7488 Posts
Yeah, I'd say you are definitely in the clear to be pissed at your friend.
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Man I've been going through a somewhat similar situation and I can say that what you did was the best thing you could have done. Calling it off is the right way to go and before long you will feel better about the whole thing. And you definitely have a right to be pissed at that guy (I would have done the same thing if I were you).
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spit on his face, tell him he makes you feel pity and tell him to fuck off and never dare tell you another word about this matter. or even better anything at all.
if you can't trust the ones you're supposed to be friends with then there's no point in having them as friends. i just can't get over shit like that one. you do the stupid thing fucker, don't come later asking me to be cool about it without even feeling the slightest regret.
don't be a pushover, get mad at both and look down on them
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fight him, ignore him for a bit and then when he comes back later, he'll buy you a beer and tell you what you already know: yo girl was a hoooooooooooooe
well at least that's what happened to me when I got with my friends prom date lolz
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Norway10161 Posts
You are right. Fuck that friend.
You don't hit on a friends ex, thats just a given no matter what. It can be accepted IF you ask your friend and he gives you the okai, but other than that it's just a given NO.
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dating friends' ex-girlfriends is so massively off limits, he's not a real friend. bros before hos
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Tell them both to fuck off and move on with your life.
Obviously it's not as easy as that sounds; but you definitely did the right thing with the letter.
You'll maybe be hurt for a while longer, but if you stay out of both their ways as much as possible then it'll get better.
I was stupid enough to go out with someone in my form at college. She had all the same lectures as me so we were in the same classroom for about half the day, and we shared all the same friends.
When we broke up and things got nasty it was an absolute bitch for ages.
The only way I moved on was when I realised I just have to ignore her completely and forget about it, so I told her we should try to stay away from each other. As difficult as that was it is definitely the right way to go.
The only reason you're feeling bad is because (like me probably) you think there's still a chance of you getting back together. Even if that is true, trust me, you don't want to get back together with her, it will never work.
So yeah, ignore the situation, listen to lots of awesome loud music (always good) and eventually you'll forget about her and get on with your life!
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From what I've seen and experienced, any interaction with an ex is almost certain to turn out badly. Don't be afraid to tell someone to fuck off if they've wrong you. And yeah, that "friend" of yours is a total asshole. It's good to be considerate and polite even in situations like these but seriously, don't put any pressure or angst on yourself for their sake.
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On January 26 2008 05:20 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:
I handed a letter to my ex later, telling her i wont be her friend and if she cant offer more than friendship, then leave me alone and take separate ways.
Sounds good. If her bf gets mad at you tell him she isn't your problem anymore.
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Hey wait a minute...isn't that model friend the one from your 2nd or 3rd blog?
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United States22883 Posts
Bros before hoes. As simple as it is beautiful.
If they break up and he apologizes profusely then it's ok, but until then fuck him.
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United States24710 Posts
On January 26 2008 07:06 ToKoreaWithLove wrote:
You are right. Fuck that friend.
You don't hit on a friends ex, thats just a given no matter what. It can be accepted IF you ask your friend and he gives you the okai, but other than that it's just a given NO. Eh, I think it's fair to say you can do it, but only so long as you are prepared to accept the consequences. None of this "I still have expectations of you as a friend" bs.
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On January 26 2008 09:04 Jibba wrote:
Bros before hoes.
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Yeah man, this is heavy. I feel soooo angered, probably going to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone on moday. I feel such a heavy burden in my shoulders. Every day dealing with his bloody face reminding me of what happened and with his fucking cocky attitude, i cant stand him anymore.
The bloody bastard was seeking all along that i settled good terms with my ex so she wouldnt be anguished and asked so much about me. Fuck i hate when you trust someone and then stabs you in the back.
soup opera indeed.
PD: yes, she's one of my friends from my previous blogs.
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If you can't be friends with her or him, then you can't... No need to justify it, it's just how it is. It sounds like it would be too much for you to be friends with those two, so I don't think what you did is wrong. Try not to be mean about it or anything, but definitely look out for yourself.
Sounds like your friend was very much out of line.
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Dude, I'm in so much more shit than you - one of my close friends, a guy, turns out to be gay, and a few people have told me that he admitted to having a crush on me. Note: I AM NOT GAY.
WHAT THE FUCK.
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oh man, sometimes when you're in a problem its seems like the biggest in the planet but there are people with far worse problems. I recall this guy with anal bleeding because his roomate was gay or something, imma look for the thread hahaha
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On August 16 2006 14:24 micronesia wrote:
Whether or not he is gay doesn't say very much at all....most people assume that means he's flaming which isn't necessarily true.
Don't take this the wrong way but it reminds me of a story.....a friend of a friend had a gay roomate years ago in college...one day the guy is having unexplained problems with anal bleeding. Eventually he sets up a camera in his dorm secretly and discovers his roomate was drugging and raping him.
Probably won't happen to you though.
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Holy fuck I am scared now thanks. This guy and I go to the gym together and shit too, now it all makes sense since he invited me to it. FUCK.
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United States24710 Posts
On January 28 2008 02:50 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:oh man, sometimes when you're in a problem its seems like the biggest in the planet but there are people with far worse problems. I recall this guy with anal bleeding because his roomate was gay or something, imma look for the thread hahaha edit: Show nested quote +On August 16 2006 14:24 micronesia wrote:
Whether or not he is gay doesn't say very much at all....most people assume that means he's flaming which isn't necessarily true.
Don't take this the wrong way but it reminds me of a story.....a friend of a friend had a gay roomate years ago in college...one day the guy is having unexplained problems with anal bleeding. Eventually he sets up a camera in his dorm secretly and discovers his roomate was drugging and raping him.
Probably won't happen to you though. Haha that true story made it into the first Liquiscoop. fanatacist's story would normally draw some sympathy from me. Well, with his previously stated outlook, I feel like it's karma.
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On January 28 2008 04:57 micronesia wrote:Show nested quote +On January 28 2008 02:50 RtS)Night[Mare wrote:oh man, sometimes when you're in a problem its seems like the biggest in the planet but there are people with far worse problems. I recall this guy with anal bleeding because his roomate was gay or something, imma look for the thread hahaha edit: On August 16 2006 14:24 micronesia wrote:
Whether or not he is gay doesn't say very much at all....most people assume that means he's flaming which isn't necessarily true.
Don't take this the wrong way but it reminds me of a story.....a friend of a friend had a gay roomate years ago in college...one day the guy is having unexplained problems with anal bleeding. Eventually he sets up a camera in his dorm secretly and discovers his roomate was drugging and raping him.
Probably won't happen to you though. Haha that true story made it into the first Liquiscoop. fanatacist's story would normally draw some sympathy from me. Well, with his previously stated outlook, I feel like it's karma.
On what? Homosexuality?
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look at her arms its like she has been in a nazi concentration camp, Bulimic? o_O
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I didn't read your other blog entries and I am too tired to skim through the replies made, but dude.
You gotta seriously think about your actions and your emotional world.
It sounds to me like she broke up and you're not yet over it.
She's your ex, not your current girlfriend! I'm sorry to say, but you gotta fix yourself.
You're just being a self-centered little kid right now. You're the one acting like an asshole, not they.
Carelessly throwing away two friendships, one of them probably a quite significant one, now that's straight out stupid!
-Think about it.
Note: I'll try to re-read this blog-entry after I've slept, been awake for over 18hours now, plus I'm sick, so maybe I'm just stuttering nonsense. I'll add an edit after sleeping if I think anything should be changed in what I wrote.
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