EPTLove situation - so pathetic of me -_-;; - Page 2
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Yogurt
United States4258 Posts
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KwarK
United States42682 Posts
On a related note, I told a very good friend I was interested in her recently and although I was totally shot down it didn't change us as friends. So basically, it's worth a shot. | ||
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geometryb
United States1249 Posts
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Last Romantic
United States20661 Posts
it's not that bad ;p | ||
Bill307
Canada9103 Posts
When people are in "love" (more like infatuated, really), they do stupid and completely irrational things. It is futile to try to make sense of it, and moreover you will inevitably find yourself doing stupid and irrational things, too. You'll just have to wait until you and your "dating pool" are mature enough to stay rational despite your feelings for each other. Until then, "love" will only torment you. If you want to end the agony earlier, then there are only two things you can do: 1. castrate yourself, or 2. become a confident person and learn to stop fretting over whether girls like you. And obviously I do not recommend option 1. The only way to become a confident person is to convince yourself of it. You will iterally have to change the way you think. Every time you start to worry about a girl you like, you are going to have to forget about it and think about something else, and disregard the throbbing emotions of anxiety that you'll feel. Generally, this kind of thing will take years at the least, and happen very gradually over time, if at all. But, ultimately, it is what you have to do. | ||
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Scorpion
United States1974 Posts
Well, one thing led to another and he ended up asking her out and she just told him off right there that this whole time she was just using him. He literally just broke down. He was a fragile person emotionally, and doing this shattered him. On monday, he came with disheveled hair, wrinkled clothing, and a stoic expression. She apologized to him and said she didn't know what came over her(stupid bitch probably forgot it wasn't the end of the year ROFL!). He committed suicide the next day. Women can be bitches~ | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On September 16 2007 13:42 fanatacist wrote: No problem n_n Maybe you should start? Being present in her life outside of school will show her that you and school are two seperate entities. I'm not saying be a crazy stalker, but talking once in a while would be good too. Also, it's much easier to think about what you are gonna say on AIM than it is in person. I know what you mean. I am terrible at starting conversations too. But I know that I'm pretty funny when I want to be and can continue one well. Find what you are good at that can capture her interest. Don't do the same old "hi" "hi" "how r u" "good u" bullshit. Find a way to make it unique and interesting so she knows who she is talking to. I mean, saying hi and how are you are great starters, but you better have a better answer than "not much" when she asks you back. Get what I'm trying to say? | ||
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Gokey
United States2722 Posts
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Daranee
338 Posts
Cut your losses and just be friends with her. Honestly, even if you do get together, a personality like hers won't keep you together once you reach college. | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On September 16 2007 15:55 Daranee wrote: She isn't a slut. She's a using whore (equally as bad imo). Cut your losses and just be friends with her. Honestly, even if you do get together, a personality like hers won't keep you together once you reach college. Barely any teen relationships last through college (no matter how much you want them to at time >  . | ||
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byChris
United States99 Posts
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vstar
Korea (South)693 Posts
 I mean, in a way, I am intimate with her......even if she flirts a lot, she likes to be with me more from how I see it Still, I fucking hate it that she uses me in a way and I have thought over it many times I should just forget about her. However, when she starts talking to me A LOT, I am once again forced by myself to like her ;; | ||
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fight_or_flight
United States3988 Posts
Anyway, tbh I have little experience with girls, but am older than you. My advice would be to bring her to your house or get some place where you can talk to her. Then have a conversation, tell her how you feel. If she isn't interested, then I would stop spending time with her and talking to her. Still be nice to her, help her with her math if she wants (up to you), but have business-like study sessions. Just realize everything isn't perfect right now, because what will probably happen is she will go out with one of your friends and you will be upset. Also, I have written this in a very serious tone. If you want a girlfriend you can't be as serious as this. | ||
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fight_or_flight
United States3988 Posts
On September 16 2007 23:52 vstar wrote: Well starting convos aren't bad but I just want like good things to talk about. Basically I can talk with her for hours and hours but I'd feel so awkward I mean, in a way, I am intimate with her......even if she flirts a lot, she likes to be with me more from how I see it Still, I fucking hate it that she uses me in a way and I have thought over it many times I should just forget about her. However, when she starts talking to me A LOT, I am once again forced by myself to like her ;;Also, realize that its entirely possible that she talks to other people like that when she is alone with them. Girls can be like that but not realize that you really like her. | ||
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vstar
Korea (South)693 Posts
On September 17 2007 00:01 fight_or_flight wrote: Also, realize that its entirely possible that she talks to other people like that when she is alone with them. Girls can be like that but not realize that you really like her. I bet she does. I think staying as good friends will do..if she ever considered me as a friend...=\ Or I can just risk it, but I can save that for later this year. By the way, I read all of your comments. But I am still in a dilemma. HAHA whatever, I'm out | ||
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decafchicken
United States20019 Posts
On September 17 2007 00:16 vstar wrote: I bet she does. I think staying as good friends will do..if she ever considered me as a friend...=\ Or I can just risk it, but I can save that for later this year. By the way, I read all of your comments. But I am still in a dilemma. HAHA whatever, I'm out What is your dilemma? By the way the fact that she flirts with other people and has friend talks with you is NOT a good thing. You pretty much want it to be the other way around. Unless she's a bitch who just flirts with guys getting their hopes up and then never progressing. | ||
vGl-CoW
Belgium8305 Posts
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
On September 16 2007 12:12 vstar wrote: She told him that I was ignoring her, and she felt sad. I was baffled...she was the one who stopped talking to me. If girls' brains worked more like guys (which usually involve only two things: sex or beer/food), the world would be a much better place, and TL's general forum would die. You already asked her out, and she's got a boyfriend... I don't see how this is going to pan out for you, sorry =\\ | ||
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vstar
Korea (South)693 Posts
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danmooj1
United States1855 Posts
Like most of the people here said, I think you just need to boost your confidence. And since you said this is your first time in a situation like this, you'll probably learn a lot and the next time you get into something like this you'll know what to do. I'm thinking this kinda thing might happen again in your next few years in college! GL | ||
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