In september I meet this girl and we go on a few dates. The chemistry is intense. Our first date we sat on a couch and talked for 4 hours. We start hanging out quite a bit and things naturally progress from there. I ask her to be official and we’ve been dating ever since… Overall I like her a lot and all my friends think we’re really good for each other.
Both of us are graduating this spring and with that comes the normal college drama of where people will end up with work. I’ve been interviewing with quite a few companies and 2 weeks ago I got an offer from a company out in Washington DC. I accepted and I’ll be moving from one Washington to the other Washington. This has caused some tension between us. She’s the type of girl who thinks about dating with long term potential and at this moment in time I’m the type of guy to date for fun.
The topic has naturally been brought up about what she will be doing after graduation and if she will be moving with me. For a 4 month relationship it’s a pretty big commitment to start thinking about moving across the country for work let alone with someone else. While it seems like a big move, from her perspective it actually perfectly aligns with what she want. She’s a GIS major and her dream job is working at the NGA in Springfield, VA about 20-30 minutes from where I’ll be living. That area is also a hotspot for GIS jobs. In fact it couldn’t be any more perfect.
*Sorry this isn't as hilarious as my usual shenanigans <3
ITS A LOT OF COMMITMENT AND I”M NOT GOOD AT THINKING THAT FAR INTO THE FUTURE. My uncertainty about the whole situation has definitely shown through in how I interact with her. She has reassured me that our relationship wouldn’t change and that we wouldn’t even have to live together straight out of college! Part of me wants to be like yeah I want you to come and the other part of doesn’t care. Internally I’m pretty meh on the whole situation while she wants me to say “I want you to come to the east coast with me <3”
When she has told the situation to her coworkers and close friends they have mostly encouraged her to move since it aligns with what she wants to do. While my friends have been kind of been on the opposite side…