Carnac, I know what you're going through, I went through the same pain when my mother passed away. One thing I learned is that you're going to be grieving and fall into a depressed state for a while, but you need to keep head strong and also be strong for your grandmother. My grandmother is still currently depressed from this and it's already been 6+ years, but I visit her every week and make sure to try and keep her spirits up. Losing a mother is hard, losing a child is harder.

I know everyone is different on how they handle this, but if you ever need to talk to some one about it, I'm open to PM's. It's going to be a tough time for you and your grandmother, you just need to keep strong and always keep looking forward. Life is precious.

I'm sorry for your loss, just keep your head up.

xtorn

4060 Posts

June 28 2015 20:04 GMT

#28

My sincerest condoleances, friend.

Be strong.

Carnac

Germany / USA16648 Posts

June 28 2015 20:46 GMT

#29

Thanks guys. We told grandma. Of course she is devastated, but overall it went better than expected.

I have the best help I can hope for, which I didnt mention yet. My mom's cousin (the son of my grandmother's long deceased twin sister) is my godfather. He and his wife are doing so much now. They picked me up from the airport. Then we went straight to grandma and told her. Then his wife made us all dinner. Tomorrow we will go to the funeral home and make arrangements. My godfather and his wife already talked to them on my behalf before I could get here.

Alur

Denmark3900 Posts

June 28 2015 20:54 GMT

#30

Sorry for your loss.

On a lighter note: your mother had good taste, salted liquorice herrings are so legit.

y0su

Finland7871 Posts

June 28 2015 21:15 GMT

#31

Sorry for your loss. Strength telling your grandmother and dealing with all necessary arrangements.

Plexa

Aotearoa39261 Posts

June 28 2015 21:28 GMT

#32

<3 Carnac. Our thoughts are with you man.

jakethesnake

Canada4948 Posts

June 28 2015 21:46 GMT

#33

Wow, really sorry for your loss. Hope you are able to stay strong and find some space to really grieve.

Impervious

Canada4211 Posts

June 28 2015 22:10 GMT

#34

Liquid`Jinro

Sweden33719 Posts

June 28 2015 22:26 GMT

#35

So sorry for your loss... Even just thinking about this is hard enough, can't imagine what it feels like actually going through it.

Strela

Netherlands1896 Posts

June 28 2015 22:37 GMT

#36

my condolences to you and your family

revalence123

United States102 Posts

June 28 2015 23:14 GMT

#37

I am so sorry to hear this.

Titusmaster6

United States5937 Posts

June 28 2015 23:32 GMT

#38

Thank you for sharing this incredibly human experience. I can feel what you are going through. Hang in there.

Carnac

Germany / USA16648 Posts

June 29 2015 00:09 GMT

#39

Anyone know what kind of mobile internet to get for my laptop while I am in France?

Right now I am using my phone in roaming mode, this will quickly get pretty expensive...and it's cumbersome.

Laptop only has wifi inbuilt, so I need a USB broadband modem and a sim I guess? Any pointers? I will need it for let's say 2-3 weeks for now.

Physician

United States4146 Posts

June 29 2015 01:43 GMT

#40

: ( be strong as she was. it took me months before I cried, but it will happen. still feel guilty for not talking/visiting her more.
my heartfelt condolences.