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fluffy_pylon
Profile Blog Joined November 2014
United States79 Posts
January 21 2015 06:02 GMT
#1
So the other day my cousin and I were having a casual conversation and he was just asking me about my future plans and how I was preparing for college and stuff like that. However somehow the conversation shifted to his personal life and he started talking about his girlfriend and an issue he was having with her. Basically him and her are near identical in height (5'8" or 173 cms). He is 26 and she is around 23 so I don't think he was seeking advice from a 17 year old like myself, but just as a way to get this off his shoulder. So they're a real nice couple and they love each other a lot, but according to him the height issue has surfaced relatively recently. Apparently she's fine when they are alone or both in the same type of shoes, but she feels insecure when wearing footwear that makes her appear taller than him. My cousin has told her repeatedly that he doesn't even care about that, but she seems to be the one making a big deal out of it. So then he mentioned that especially at formal events where women are almost expected to wear heels, she will wear the smallest heel but that it would still give her an advantage over a typical men's dress shoe. The point here being that she asked him to try a platform shoe (just for special occasions). Now my cousin is open to the idea but admits that it makes him a little uncomfortable. He also doesn't understand why it's even necessary and can't comprehend why she would suddenly become so paranoid about something so superficial. He went as far as to say that despite being educated, charming, and successful that this incident was causing him to doubt his self-worth as a man. I honestly don't know what to tell him.

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Probemicro
Profile Joined February 2014
3708 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 06:24:06
January 21 2015 06:21 GMT
#2
On January 21 2015 15:02 fluffy_pylon wrote:
incident was causing him to doubt his self-worth as a man.


im sure the billions of men around the world that are <173cm really appreciated what your cousin said. In fact they should just go kill themselves already right?
_fool
Profile Joined February 2011
Netherlands681 Posts
January 21 2015 07:45 GMT
#3
So... she's tall? Not even tall actually. And somehow she makes that into a problem. And then she makes it someone else's problem? Silly women

On a more serious note: sounds like the height thing is not the real issue here, and platform shoes will only temporarily push the real issue to the background. She's insecure about something, they need to figure out what it is, and resolve it. She's 23, pondering on big life decisions, and that's ok. They need to figure it out, nothing TL can do here.



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OveRtheStarS
Profile Joined August 2012
Canada69 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 07:56:34
January 21 2015 07:55 GMT
#4
im sure the billions of men around the world that are <173cm really appreciated what your cousin said. In fact they should just go kill themselves already right?


I'm pretty sure that his cousin was only speaking about his personal feelings, not trying to make a generalized statement about how all short men should feel. I don't get pissy every time someone complains about being tall because I'm tall? You should take a step back.
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Probemicro
Profile Joined February 2014
3708 Posts
January 21 2015 08:21 GMT
#5
On January 21 2015 16:55 OveRtheStarS wrote:
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im sure the billions of men around the world that are <173cm really appreciated what your cousin said. In fact they should just go kill themselves already right?


I'm pretty sure that his cousin was only speaking about his personal feelings, not trying to make a generalized statement about how all short men should feel. I don't get pissy every time someone complains about being tall because I'm tall? You should take a step back.


so what kind of advice would you give? "grow taller?" "get a shorter girlfriend"?

seriously both of them are already in their mid-20s and still have teenage insecurities like worrying about height etc. looking at the guy's previous blog i notice he mention once he was shorter than his younger brother with a "cuter face" and wonder if this whole thing runs in the family. like someone mention theres probably something deeper to this and without additional background information or account we cannot realise why they have such a complex.
OveRtheStarS
Profile Joined August 2012
Canada69 Posts
January 21 2015 08:39 GMT
#6
so what kind of advice would you give? "grow taller?" "get a shorter girlfriend"


Whether or not there's any advice to give, (besides maybe "Always stay true to yourself and don't let others lead you to question your worth"), being cynical and saying "in fact they should just go kill themselves, right?" does nothing to add to the conversation the OP was positing and just seems to be a negative comment for the sake of being negative.
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Shebuha
Profile Blog Joined May 2011
Canada1335 Posts
January 21 2015 08:50 GMT
#7
On January 21 2015 15:21 Probemicro wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 21 2015 15:02 fluffy_pylon wrote:
incident was causing him to doubt his self-worth as a man.


im sure the billions of men around the world that are <173cm really appreciated what your cousin said. In fact they should just go kill themselves already right?

SHORT MAN SYNDROME RIGHT HERE LOL

someone says something in private, personal conversation and states his feelings -> his brother shares it on internet -> you take what the dude said as if he was trying to apply it to all men who are <173cm or less.
Souma
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 09:02:53
January 21 2015 09:02 GMT
#8
She needs to get over the height issue, otherwise it's gonna be rough going forward. In any case, all he needs to do is stuff his shoes for now, no big deal.

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Probemicro
Profile Joined February 2014
3708 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 09:03:40
January 21 2015 09:03 GMT
#9
On January 21 2015 17:39 OveRtheStarS wrote:
being cynical and saying "in fact they should just go kill themselves, right?" does nothing to add to the conversation the OP was positing and just seems to be a negative comment for the sake of being negative.


because i think that the very fact they still worry about height is laughable (when they are at the age where they should have learnt to get over with and accept that they are born with it and deal with it) and it deserves an /s post.
ahswtini
Profile Blog Joined June 2008
Northern Ireland22212 Posts
January 21 2015 11:08 GMT
#10
The cousin said he doesn't even care about the height issue
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iTzSnypah
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
United States1738 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 11:34:22
January 21 2015 11:32 GMT
#11
We are all the same height in bed.

That is what your cousin needs to tell her.

Probemicro, well you haven't committed suicide so your theory is invalid.
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Probemicro
Profile Joined February 2014
3708 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 12:04:47
January 21 2015 12:02 GMT
#12
On January 21 2015 20:32 iTzSnypah wrote:
We are all the same height in bed.

That is what your cousin needs to tell her.

Probemicro, well you haven't committed suicide so your theory is invalid.


Unfortunately we don't live our entire lives on the bed.

And who says anything about a theory
SoSexy
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
Italy3725 Posts
Last Edited: 2015-01-21 13:24:38
January 21 2015 13:24 GMT
#13
On January 21 2015 21:02 Probemicro wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 21 2015 20:32 iTzSnypah wrote:
We are all the same height in bed.

That is what your cousin needs to tell her.

Probemicro, well you haven't committed suicide so your theory is invalid.


Unfortunately we don't live our entire lives on the bed.

And who says anything about a theory


And that's not even true, if you do math in bed, height actually counts (I hope you guys understand)
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QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32130 Posts
January 21 2015 16:08 GMT
#14
You either kill yourself out of short shame, or you live long enough to see yourself turn into an angry little gnome-mod like Chill.

So yeah, cherish your short inferior family member while you still can
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TriO
Profile Joined July 2011
United States421 Posts
January 21 2015 16:51 GMT
#15
Short people problems im glad im 6ft tall.
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mahrgell
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
Germany3943 Posts
January 21 2015 17:09 GMT
#16
Hm.... I know a rather large number of woman that say, that they would prefer a bf, that is taller then them. Oh, an I'm talking age 25-60. So I can not really understand all those "omg, so childish" comments here.

And actually... I don't see the problem for him to wear platform shoes for "special events". My significant other also aks me from time to time to wear a suit, where I feel regular clothes would be entirely appropriate. She feels, that not wearing a suit would make look us weird while I disagree, but whatever... It doesn't hurt me to wear it so I do it, because it makes her feel better. Similar with the shoes here.
Thermia
Profile Joined August 2010
United States866 Posts
January 21 2015 18:27 GMT
#17
My mom had my dad stand on a phone book for their wedding pictures because she's 6'2 and he was 6' even but other than that neither of them care about it at all. I could see doing it for formal stuff but otherwise it's really not a big deal at all.
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DarkNetHunter
Profile Joined October 2012
1224 Posts
January 21 2015 21:07 GMT
#18
I know plenty of girls who won't date any guy who is shorter than them, sure it's superficial, but it might really be an issue for her.
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bypLy
Profile Joined June 2013
757 Posts
January 21 2015 22:57 GMT
#19
typicall women, everything is fine, but they make something up because they just cant be happy. She will cheat on him soon and the relationship wont last very long.

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puppykiller
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
United States3137 Posts
January 22 2015 04:12 GMT
#20
Hmm some girl's are reluctant to give a short guy a chance but considering how harsh most guys judge girls on looks I think things still favor men in that sort of regard.

Being shorter then girls pretty often is really funny to me lol. But to be fair I bet even if I had no hands I wouldn't give that much of a shit about it and I am sure that is waaay bigger a deal breaker.
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