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Just thought I'd share a positive experience that recently happened to me. This will always be something special to me because I'd recently gone through a rough period and what happened was a nice pick-me-up that I really needed.
I went to Japan on a three week holiday recently. It was my first time travelling alone so I was pretty nervous before my trip but everything turned out perfectly. I met heaps of great people (one in particular but we'll get to that), saw heaps of cool stuff and did heaps of cool things. I'm by no means a budget traveller but because I was travelling alone, I decided to stay in guesthouses (Japanese hostels) and hire spare rooms from locals using airbnb. This was the best decision I made because it allowed me to interact with other travellers and also the locals. Anyway, enough about Japan in general, this blog is about one particular girl I met during my holiday.
It was my first night in Tokyo. I waited patiently at Nippori station for my first airbnb host to pick me up. I looked around, fascinated by the streets and the people nearby until I made eye contact with a petite Japanese girl. She didn't break eye contact and kept walking towards me. She was wearing a skirt, an oversized red hoodie and was carrying a clear umbrella. She introduced herself to me as the airbnb host and started making small talk. I immediately thought 'holy shit, her English is actually fluent. AND she's a cutie'. Needless to say, it was a great start to my Japan trip. We shared some snacks and beers once we got back to the apartment, I met her roommate and we all got to know each other a bit. Just the usual stuff, age, occupation, hobbies etc.
I stayed the next 5 nights at her place and during that time we really got to know each other better. She had a busy work schedule while I ventured out exploring and doing my own thing during the day but at night, we'd have a few drinks and talk, probably like 3-4 hours a night. I didn't get much sleep at all but that didn't matter. Turns out, she actually grew up very underprivileged and had a very tough child hood. I won't go into the details but it involves religion, overbearing parents and societal alienation. But the amazing thing to me was, she was genuinely one of the most positive people I have met in my life. She was young, ambitious and very open minded. She never talked about her past with anger or sadness but used it as a reference to appreciate the life she had now. Anyway, as I got to know her, I started to really adore her and respect her. I wasn't infatuated though. The feeling was similar to watching a movie and rooting for the protagonist to achieve their dream because you feel like they deserve it. One night while we were having pizza and beers, they handed me a plate but started eating their own slices off tupperware and I asked them what happened to their other plates. She told me she broke their only other one so they've only got one plate in their apartment now. I think my heart broke a little hearing that.
A few days later, while I was shopping around Tokyo with some friends we went into Daiso. Daiso is like a $1 store in Japan where you can get everyday household items and food for 100 yen. I decided I'd spend 1000 yen and buy them stuff they really needed. I ended up buying them some plates, some spoons and two wine glasses (we drank wine out of plastic mugs previously lol). When I got back to the apartment that night and gave her the stuff, I could tell she was holding back tears. I think she was really touched that I would go through all that trouble but I told her it was nothing and that she shouldn't be living like that (referring to the tupperware here). On my last day at her apartment, I was meant to leave in the morning and catch a train to Hakone but it happened to be her day off and she asked if I wanted to hang. I decided I'd have breakfast with her and we'd watch a movie on my tablet. We watched Lost in Translation by the way. How very appropriate. During the movie, she leaned her head on my shoulder and that kind of shocked me but I just let it slide. I even asked if she was feeling comfortable haha. To which she replied "yes, very much so" and smiled. After the movie, I left but we added each other on facebook so we could chat while I was on my trip and I could also contact her if I needed any help (my Japanese is horrible). Anyway, during my next 10 days travelling around in Japan we talked almost every night and I realised when I got back to Tokyo, on the last leg of my trip, I wanted to hang out with her again. I ended up cancelling my other accommodation and booked her place again for two nights. She was pleasantly surprised when she found out but also told me I could've stayed for free if I had just asked her instead of trying to surprise her lol. So instead of the free accommodation, I asked her for a free meal instead - a home cooked meal.
When I got back to Tokyo, she picked me up from the station again and we went grocery shopping so she could cook me my free meal. We ended up flirting a LOT that day. I guess talking to her on facebook every night slowly made me fall for her and the whole overseas romance vibe definitely played its part. Anyway, we hung out the whole day and chilled out after dinner and she cuddled next to me while we watched another movie (Top Gun this time cause she had never seen it). At the end of the night, I thought to myself 'fuck it, I'm just going to go for it, no regrets, don't be a fkn wimp'. So, I kissed her. Unfortunately, she didn't reciprocate, she was shocked but still okay and she said goodnight to me and went back to her room. I thought 'oh fuckkkkkkkk, i hope it's not awkward tomorrow morning' but I still managed to fall asleep because I was wrecked from a long commute earlier that day. I didn't get much sleep though. About an hour later, I was woken up by a knock on my door. It was her. She came up to me and asked if she could sleep with me that night. I blinked a few times because I wasn't sure if I was dreaming or not but I managed to say 'of course' and she slipped in bed next to me. We kissed and that was when I realised that I wasn't dreaming 
We were in a pseudo-relationship the next three days and I had the time of my life. She knew it was only a temporary thing but she was still happy to spend that time with me. Although, I'm back in Australia and I'll probably never see her again, it's a memory that I don't think I'll ever forget. We still talk on facebook from time to time as well.
TL;DR
Rough period. Holiday to Japan. Met a cute girl. Got laid. Life ain't too bad. Bitches love crockery.
Edit: Also would like to shout-out to MightyAtom, the TL hyung!
   
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Aww yes, the surest way to a woman's heart is with dollar store plates.
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1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
Bitches love crockery.
more quotes for my repository of TL Blogs Certified Advice
glad you had a good time on your vacation, and that you weren't a fucking Ethan
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On December 18 2014 13:02 lichter wrote:more quotes for my repository of TL Blogs Certified Advice glad you had a good time on your vacation, and that you weren't a fucking Ethan
LOL Ethan
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On December 18 2014 13:08 Onekobold wrote:I can't believe you're actually trying to force this lol I thought about it and this is actually kind of depressing. Like, you guys had a great time together and now you'll probably never see each other again. That's a big bummer.
It is a bit depressing but such is life. As much as I did enjoy my time together with her, we're actually both very different people (imagine similar people who were brought up very differently, that's how I'd describe it) so even if we had lived in the same country and the same city, a relationship might not have worked anyway. So instead of focusing on it ending, I'd rather be grateful it happened
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Mandatory 'or is this just fantasy' post.
/high-five, I think.
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On December 18 2014 13:02 lichter wrote:more quotes for my repository of TL Blogs Certified Advice glad you had a good time on your vacation, and that you weren't a fucking Ethan
Are you kidding? He was totally like Ethan because Ethan definitely loves pussy so much and would never have sex with a guy.
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1001 YEARS KESPAJAIL22272 Posts
ethan is the one that tries to sneak into the bed and not the one whose bed gets snucked into though get your facts straight nina
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United States10087 Posts
well done good sir. well done indeed. 5 stars.
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im still puzzled at the one plate only thing
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On December 18 2014 18:48 Boonbag wrote: im still puzzled at the one plate only thing Yeah, I was surprised too. It's not like she was so poor she couldn't afford plates. But between doing 50 hours of retail work a week and managing two listings on airbnb she doesn't have much time to care about the smaller things. She had other bowls and stuff she could eat out of (and tupperware of course haha).
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man, i gotta start doing airbnb, and hide all my plates but one
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On December 18 2014 18:54 maggle wrote:Show nested quote +On December 18 2014 18:48 Boonbag wrote: im still puzzled at the one plate only thing Yeah, I was surprised too. It's not like she was so poor she couldn't afford plates. But between doing 50 hours of retail work a week and managing two listings on airbnb she doesn't have much time to care about the smaller things. She had other bowls and stuff she could eat out of (and tupperware of course haha).
or they spend all their money on work enhancing drugs
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Northern Ireland22208 Posts
theres no chance you guys will ever see each other again?
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nice blog 5 ***** :D, btw who the fuck is ethan ? lol
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hahahaha got the gril and left 5/5
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I admire your attitude towards this "relationship". On a side note, I'm considering doing some travelling and using airbnb now :p
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nice read . thanks for sharing ur good experience
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Interesting tale, kinda a good way to end it I guess if you didn' think it would merit more, but maybe you coulda moved to Japan instead!
Anyway have to check out this Airbnb thing now o.o
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On December 18 2014 22:57 [sc1f]eonzerg wrote: nice blog 5 ***** :D, btw who the fuck is ethan ? lol http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/473003-keep-on-creepin
Ethan: There’s guys where I can kind of see an attraction but… you know, but I’d never be with a guy. Jade: Sure Ethan: Like once I was kinda hanging with a guy sorta like, trying things, but I was not into it at all like, omg. Jade: Ok Me: What happened? Ethan: Like he put his dick in my ass and I was like OMG I can’t take this, like omg I can’t even deal with you right now. Me: Pretty sure earlier you were telling us that you weren’t gay. Ethan: Oh well, like I don’t think that’s really gay, It’s only like gay, if you’re in a relationship. Me: No, I think gay sex is actually pretty fucking gay.
-And this-
Ethan: You know, I think if two guys are hanging out, and they are bored, and one of them is like… ‘dude, wanna mess around?” I think that’s straight. Me: Yeah... I don’t think two straight guys would ever do that unless they were in prison or the navy. Jade: Yeah that sounds pretty gay. Ethan: Ok, ok, sure, sure, you’re right.
-And this one, TOTALLY OUT OF THE FUCKING BLUE-
Ethan: Man is anyone else getting like, really, really horny right now. Jade: Why would I be getting horny? Me: You know if you’re trying to get laid, maybe you should go for Julius. He fucked a dude once, the rest of us are straight man. I’d fuck you if I was gay maybe.
-And this one-
Ethan: God I have such bad experiences at parties. Don’t even bring them up. Omg. Every time I go to a party a dude will always get me really drunk and just like, take me into a room and rape me. It happened twice this year. They just get me really drunk and I’m like, OMG I am way too drunk to handle you right now. Me/Jade: …
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Lost in Translation is a great movie about what could have beens given different circumstances. It's very apt for you and yours, and Bill Murray played the role perfectly. He was going through a divorce. It's not about being sad about what could have been in another life though, but about being happy for the people youu meet in your life if even temporarily.
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anytime you can bang a girl for buying her $1 plates is a win in my book. the only thing missing was pizza.
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On December 20 2014 04:03 obesechicken13 wrote: Lost in Translation is a great movie about what could have beens given different circumstances. It's very apt for you and yours, and Bill Murray played the role perfectly. He was going through a divorce. It's not about being sad about what could have been in another life though, but about being happy for the people youu meet in your life if even temporarily. Yeah, the movie definitely resonated with me the second time I watched it in Japan and I completely agree with the parallels you've drawn but I do think the ending is open to interpretation though so it might not have been temporary
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On December 20 2014 04:50 JimSocks wrote: anytime you can bang a girl for buying her $1 plates is a win in my book. the only thing missing was pizza. There was pizza dude
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On December 18 2014 20:29 ahswtini wrote: theres no chance you guys will ever see each other again? There's always a chance I'll see her again. It's much more likely that I will visit Japan and catch up with her than vice versa but it is extremely unlikely that a relationship would ever develop.
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