First let me tell you a little bit about my current girlfriend. At the very second I agreed to a LTR, I was already thinking of a way out. A few weeks later when I reciprocated her “I love you,” I knew I didn't mean it. I just said it change the topic. Every fight we have I find myself having to hide a smile, because I'm thinking that this could finally be the excuse I need to end it. Anyway I figured I would maintain the status quo until the growing annoyance of her personality overruled my dick. Or I moved away for a hypothetical new job.
Then yesterday it came like a kick in the balls. And get this, I didn't even hear it from her. I had to hear it from a big mouth coworker who didn't even know we were dating. That's right, the bitch got pregnant.
No we haven't been using condoms but that was only because she said she couldn't get pregnant. Apparently she tried with her last boyfriend, had a miscarriage, and couldn't get pregnant after that no matter how hard she tried. But now I'm thinking perhaps the problem was with her boyfriend and not her...
Now I'm not a religious man by any means, but yesterday for the first time in my life, my knees hit the pavement, I shut my eyes, and I prayed. Dear Lord God Jesus, I need you now more than ever. If you do this one thing for me, I will believe in you forever with all my heart and soul. Please, Jesus, please miscarriage this baby. PLEASE! In Jesus name, Amen.
Last time she got pregnant was a miscarriage so I'm pretty sure that this makes this one more likely to also be a miscarriage. Fingers crossed. Sadly, I don’t think her getting an abortion is an option because 1 she already has another kid and 2 her parents are super catholic.
Since I found out about it I've had this constant unsettling feeling in the pit of my stomach, and I feel like my life is over.
On October 29 2014 09:28 kushm4sta wrote: she already has another kid
something doesn't add up here
timeline 7 years ago - she had her first kid some time after that - had a miscarriage after the miscarriage - tried unsuccessfully to have another kid with her then boyfriend
Yes, because you conveniently decided to completely ignore his first paragraph? Even without the proceding garbage of the post he's an arse. If we set asidethe first paragraph, you still have to be an idiot of colossal proportions to just simply believe someone can't get pregnant without having actual medical documentation. No one ruined his life. He ruined his own because he's an imbecile.
On October 29 2014 10:13 koreasilver wrote: Yes, because you conveniently decided to completely ignore his first paragraph? Even without the preceding garbage of the post he's an arse. Even aside from the first paragraph, you have to be an idiot of colossal proportions to just simply believe someone can't get pregnant without having actual medical documentation. No one ruined his life. He ruined his own because he's an imbecile.
Yeah I kinda agree with you here, specially the first part. Being naive doesn't make him a piece of trash though.
I think koreasilver is saying he's trash based on the sense that he basically just dated the girl for the sex.
At the very second I agreed to a LTR, I was already thinking of a way out. A few weeks later when I reciprocated her “I love you,” I knew I didn't mean it
Every fight we have I find myself having to hide a smile, because I'm thinking that this could finally be the excuse I need to end it.
Not exactly someone I'd wanna be friends with, the guy seems pretty dense and a rather shallow piece of shit.
Your title is misleading. You made the choice to stay with her and fuck with no rubbers. You couldn't man up and end it when you wanted to and are now stuck in this situation due to your own inability to make smart decisions in life.
On October 29 2014 11:29 omisa wrote: Your title is misleading. You made the choice to stay with her and fuck with no rubbers. You couldn't man up and end it when you wanted to and are now stuck in this situation due to your own inability to make smart decisions in life.
lol omfg fucking told.
if you thought you could get on the internet and complain about your life and have people feel bad for you when you are clearly stupid you were sadly mistaken. lol
"we weren't using a condom because she said she couldn't get pregnant" I could go on a rant here about how stupid that is but I think you learned your lesson.
You had unprotected sex and thought she couldn't get pregnant? You're dumb, dude. Also,
On October 29 2014 12:28 krndandaman wrote: she didn't ruin your life, you did
On October 29 2014 11:29 omisa wrote: Your title is misleading. You made the choice to stay with her and fuck with no rubbers. You couldn't man up and end it when you wanted to and are now stuck in this situation due to your own inability to make smart decisions in life.
On October 29 2014 10:13 koreasilver wrote: No one ruined his life. He ruined his own because he's an imbecile.
Yep, you should have worn a condom regardless of what she said. Not having safe sex with someone you don't like is just asking sod's law to be called upon yourself.
- Praying for a miscarriage is somewhat controversial.
- To the dudes saying 'you shouldn't have trusted her on the condom thing - well, when a relationship is made of mutual trust it is common. If you've been with a girl for some time, do you seriously tell her 'No, let's keep using a condom because I don't trust you'? I did the same in my last relationship because it is not that strange.
- Third, this may sound depressing but I used to thought about what I would do if I were in a similar situation. The answer sounded like it was out of a movie, but I couldn't come up with anything better. Disappear into a country like Cuba, Equador or similar (preferibly without extradition) and start a new life there. It is scary as fuck, but would it be better to live a life with a person you hate? It will drive you mad
On October 29 2014 11:29 omisa wrote: Your title is misleading. You made the choice to stay with her and fuck with no rubbers. You couldn't man up and end it when you wanted to and are now stuck in this situation due to your own inability to make smart decisions in life.
On October 29 2014 10:13 koreasilver wrote: No one ruined his life. He ruined his own because he's an imbecile.
Yeah seriously. The post is so full of nonsense, that I'm wondering if it's a joke. Don't know how anyone could really have sympathy for you, kush. Get your shit together, man.
dude that sucks but at the same time I agree with other people here. You kinda put yourself in this situation. I always use a rubber, especially because I can last longer while using it.
On October 29 2014 09:28 kushm4sta wrote: couldn't get pregnant after that no matter how hard she tried.
On October 29 2014 09:28 kushm4sta wrote: she already has another kid
something doesn't add up here
timeline 7 years ago - she had her first kid some time after that - had a miscarriage after the miscarriage - tried unsuccessfully to have another kid with her then boyfriend
Just because she had a miscarriage before doesn't mean that this one will be. Congratulations!
On October 30 2014 00:14 N.geNuity wrote: Im her previous bf and I assure you my swimmers are fine
Source: I'm the kid N.geNuity had with his next girlfriend.
I had something similar, we went through with it, I dropped out of final year of university to pull in some money and she broke things off because she 'wasn't the long term relationship type'
I was 'unlucky' in that she did have a genuine medical issue and was told by doctors she couldn't conceive without IVF, but I have a fantastic Minibat out of it.
Yeah it's tough to consider the massive lifestyle change, but you have a (potential) child and also a woman who need you so man up. I'll cut you some slack because it's such an 'oh shit' moment, but I wouldn't wish a miscarriage on any woman, it's really emotionally devastating.
If you want some actual advice from someone in a similar position down the line PM me. I feel people who haven't been in that position can be pretty judgemental about it.
no it's not. I would've went too far if I said what I really think of him as a poster. not even as a person, because I don't care to assume this garbage is legitimate.
On October 30 2014 03:37 Wombat_NI wrote: If you want some actual advice from someone in a similar position down the line PM me. I feel people who haven't been in that position can be pretty judgemental about it.
If you don't take me up I won't be offended
People here are mostly judging his attitude than his actions. His actions were stupid but his attitude towards it eliminates any form of sympathy I normally would have.
On October 30 2014 03:37 Wombat_NI wrote: If you want some actual advice from someone in a similar position down the line PM me. I feel people who haven't been in that position can be pretty judgemental about it.
If you don't take me up I won't be offended
People here are mostly judging his attitude than his actions. His actions were stupid but his attitude towards it eliminates any form of sympathy I normally would have.
His attitude is of the 'scream towards the cosmos' kind.
You vent, you freak, such is the mental process.
I'm generally a lovely fucking human being but I had horrible thoughts during the whole thing
And lo, if thou lie about your love for a women to lie with her, and if by her, thou begats a child of inconvenience, then pray to me. Behold! I make all things new and will strike the child dead in the womb. Because lo, I've got your back buddy. Thus saith the Lord.
Prayers for the Unprepared and Short-Sighted. Epistle of Self 4:3-4
rough but honestly, why would you believe she can't get pregnant 100% just based on her word? Having a previous miscarriage doesn't mean much! It's ok to be in shock after this but this: "Anyway I figured I would maintain the status quo until the growing annoyance of her personality overruled my dick." is probably what everyone is talking about. You pretty much used her and now you're complaining that she's pregnant even though it takes two to tango! In other words, it's your fault as well since you weren't ready to accept the possible end result based on what you wrote. As mentioned, I think it's best to just man up, accept what happened and be prepared to care for the child. It's the best thing you can do in this case. Don't think about trying to run away from this. Just accept it!
Do the horizontal dance But don't forget to wrap your lance Or be like Kush and squish the squid And have a little bastard kid That we can see at just a glance Will never stand a fucking chance
On October 30 2014 10:53 Falling wrote: And lo, if thou lies about your love for a women to lie with her, and if by her, thou begats a child of inconvenience, then pray to me. Behold! I make all things new and will strike the child dead in the womb. Because lo, I've got your back buddy. Thus saith the Lord.
Prayers for the Unprepared and Short-Sighted. Epistle of Self 4:3-4
On October 30 2014 12:06 -Kaiser- wrote: Do the horizontal dance But don't forget to wrap your lance Or be like Kush and squish the squid And have a little bastard kid That we can see at just a glance Will never stand a fucking chance
On October 30 2014 12:06 -Kaiser- wrote: I think everybody needs to focus on the real victim in this story.
My heart goes out to you, unborn child. You don't stand a fucking chance.
I just spilled my drink laughing. Damn you Kaiser Wilhelm!
Truth. Guy sounds like an asshole and dumb, girl sounds crazy and dumb.
Kid will be one or more of the following: poor, neglected, abused. Which leads to many other problems later in life and produces a cycle of recreating the trauma when it reproduces.
On October 30 2014 12:06 -Kaiser- wrote: I think everybody needs to focus on the real victim in this story.
My heart goes out to you, unborn child. You don't stand a fucking chance.
I just spilled my drink laughing. Damn you Kaiser Wilhelm!
Truth. Guy sounds like an asshole and dumb, girl sounds crazy and dumb.
Kid will be one or more of the following: poor, neglected, abused. Which leads to many other problems later in life and produces a cycle of recreating the trauma when it reproduces.
On October 31 2014 03:50 catplanetcatplanet wrote: we need a TL hero to adopt this unwanted child
Instead of doing the adopting, I will do child-raising battle-reports, do live-report threads, translate baby to human, make banners, and draw artwork.
Also, I re-read this, and decided to quote for truth:
On October 29 2014 09:28 kushm4sta wrote: I'm thinking perhaps the problem was with her boyfriend and not her...
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
I'm in a masters program that shares some classes with med students which was were I was told that statistic so I assume that it's probably pretty accurate rather than just pulled out of their ass
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
I'm in a masters program that shares some classes with med students which was were I was told that statistic so I assume that it's probably pretty accurate rather than just pulled out of their ass
Doesn't it beg the question...why is Homo Sapien reproduction so painful and unsuccessful? It only leaves the strong ones who could survive perhaps? iunno
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
I'm in a masters program that shares some classes with med students which was were I was told that statistic so I assume that it's probably pretty accurate rather than just pulled out of their ass
Doesn't it beg the question...why is Homo Sapien reproduction so painful and unsuccessful? It only leaves the strong ones who could survive perhaps? iunno
It's because the body is a machine, and it's not perfect. And you are overestimating evolution if you think it could have perfect reproduction if that was most favorable.
It's a shitty situation but wearing no condom? This is on you for not having a little foresight and putting on a rubber and now you may end up with a kid for it. Face it and come up with a solution instead of praying for a miscarriage for Christ's sake.
On November 01 2014 01:08 GoTuNk! wrote: This is totally aside, but a HUGE upside from having a girlfriend is having someone you can trust enough to have sex without a condom.
That's not an aside. Most guys would do exactly what I did. Bitch tells you she can't get pregnant, no way you are wearing an uncomfortable condom. Plus with me sometimes my boner goes limp right in the middle of fucking. And I have to wait like 15 minutes before I can get it up again. Am I supposed to use up a new condom, which are probably like 50 cents each, every time that happens? Also how do you dispose of the used condom? You have to walk all the way to the bathroom.
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
Ok source please...
Lol my source is out of my ass. But the risk of a miscarriage is actually nearly 25%.
But the risk of miscarriage reduces drastically later in the pregnancy. So Kush if your story is true, once she is past the second trimester, you are nearly guaranteed to be a daddy!
If you banged her 4 months ago, congratulations!!!!!!
On November 01 2014 01:08 GoTuNk! wrote: This is totally aside, but a HUGE upside from having a girlfriend is having someone you can trust enough to have sex without a condom.
That's not an aside. Most guys would do exactly what I did. Bitch tells you she can't get pregnant, no way you are wearing an uncomfortable condom. Plus with me sometimes my boner goes limp right in the middle of fucking. And I have to wait like 15 minutes before I can get it up again. Am I supposed to use up a new condom, which are probably like 50 cents each, every time that happens? Also how do you dispose of the used condom? You have to walk all the way to the bathroom.
She wasn't even on birth control. You are legit dumb as fuck. And wow, walking aaaaaallllllllllll the way to the bathroom. How unreasonable.
Or you could have a garbage bin in your room, idk dude.
On October 31 2014 23:32 ahswtini wrote: 1/5 is a shockingly high rate of miscarriages/stillbirths
You will be even more surprised to know that before modern medicine, about 50% of pregnancies resulted in the death of the mother and/or child.
Pregnancy is literally THE WORST STD.
PS- That 1/5 stat is higher the earlier in the gestation process. Most of it happens in the first trimester or even few weeks and a lot of women might not even realize they were pregnant so it's probably actually higher like the other guy suggested. Iirc it's more than 50% of them.
Which is kind of funny when you think about all the anti abortion stuff, is it god naturally aborting billions of lives? Or are they still just cells/fetus?
Maybe you would have some sympathies for your bad choice of not using any type of contraception if you didn't do things like refer to the woman as a bitch everytime. Such a shit attitude piled on top of your silly choice.
On October 31 2014 12:51 Jett.Jack.Alvir wrote: Wow I don't think this guy is serious, but if he is I think he should know that 1/4 pregnancies end in miscarriage or still birth.
I'm in a masters program that shares some classes with med students which was were I was told that statistic so I assume that it's probably pretty accurate rather than just pulled out of their ass
Doesn't it beg the question...why is Homo Sapien reproduction so painful and unsuccessful? It only leaves the strong ones who could survive perhaps? iunno
This is due to the expansion of the Brain earlier in our evolution. Evolution doesn't naturally solve every possible problem. Take bipedalism for example, our spines aren't perfectly suited to walking upright, which is why like 9/10 adults over the age of 35 have some form of osteophyte formation and/or other problems.
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