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Life is the hardest game
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NotJumperer
United States1371 Posts
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PiGStarcraft
Australia987 Posts
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Ovid
United Kingdom948 Posts
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pebble444
Italy2497 Posts
But to much pain, make you insane. the world is not cruel, the world is not just; but its not that much better if we say we don' t give a fuck; if we just try a bit more we might get a bit of luck; but if we just go all out, theres a risk of drowning in the muck; right now it feels bad, maybe makes us a bit mad; but if we battle from reality one day we' ll be glad; and for sure looking back we won' t feel too sad; cause reality for sure is not like an ad; more like a plant that takes time to grow; and with water and sun, it will blossom you know; but if you havn' t got earth underneath, well then no. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States44388 Posts
Either it's because of my terrible name Can you elaborate on what you mean by this? Is your name super-ethnic or something, and you think American employers would be hesitant to give you a job because of it? Furthermore, I have cut off all connections and burn bridges with friends/acquaintance. Keeping relation with people requires too much effort for me. This is probably the worst thing you can do. No one is saying you should go suck everyone's dick to get places in life, but in the real world, who you know also tends to be just as important as what you know or what you can do by yourself. Networking is key to getting some jobs, not to mention having friends to support you can be incredibly helpful when you're in particularly desperate or morose situations. I like to play games on the hardest difficulty so I'm going to do the same with life. I've lived an easy life. Going homeless will teach me a new trick on survival. If I can get B+ on iccup I can survive being homeless. If I die I die if I live I live, who cares? Sorry, but I think this is an incredibly cynical- and quite frankly, stupid- perspective on life. While one can appreciate the BW analogy in terms of throwing your motivation and energy at a goal and succeeding in it, it's otherwise ridiculous to want to play the game of life on the hardest difficulty. And if you don't care whether you live or die, you certainly aren't going to have any drive to make a life for yourself, let alone in the same way you accomplished B+ on iccup. Best of luck to you on making that $500! | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
In term of jobs, I've been applying in on minimum wage jobs and walking in to meet the manager but so far no one can called me back for an interview yet. Either it's because of my terrible name or it's a lack of work experience, who knows. But someone will give me a chance eventually. I'm also very skinny and can't do much labor work so I have that against me. this is interesting, changing your name actually does help a bit, it's a form of marketing. Studies have shown that people with anglo-saxon names (regardless of ethnicity) get hired more often. | ||
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Ovid
United Kingdom948 Posts
On September 14 2014 22:51 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: This is probably the worst thing you can do. No one is saying you should go suck everyone's dick to get places in life, but in the real world, who you know also tends to be just as important as what you know or what you can do by yourself. Networking is key to getting some jobs, not to mention having friends to support you can be incredibly helpful when you're in particularly desperate or morose situations. Nepotism is how 90% of the people I know have got their jobs. | ||
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Dohko
10 Posts
It must really be shitty and shaming in your house, with no prospect of you changing it, for you to consider going homeless. If not I would continue to leech of my family if that is available, and even try to change how things are, using as much creativity as needed, so you don't feel self-destructive all the time. That's about any as good a choice as the homeless one, arguably more difficult. "Once you know you cannot not know", it's really easy to blame society because its so shitty, so do it, find yourself real excuses. Reconstruct you ego. The feminization of society is making everyone think no one can change anything about anything. Education makes you apathetic. Political correctness makes it so real opposition to the system is dead, hypocrisy is everywhere and makes it challenging to have deep human connections. To find a job I have to change my name to a white-sounding one. If I date a girl maybe she has a P, ... I could go on. If there is no one you feel a deep connection with and you can share your idea with physically, at least don't cut your internet connection because it's infinitely more rich and you'll find it there. In time you should find it around yourself too. Imo. | ||
BigFan
TLADT24920 Posts
Also, burning bridges is not the best idea. It's true that more people than not will talk to you only when they need something but keeping the relationship is important imo especially if you only have a couple of 'friends' because as mentioned, you can probably ask them for help in that spot. As for the name, can always try using a different one. They had a study here where they found that the same resume but with a different name got at least an interview compared to none so changing to something more common, like John for example (think nickname at least) can work imo. Also, use your time that you aren't working to volunteer. It'll give you new experiences and skills and those can help you in landing a job as well. Best of luck! | ||
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PassionFruit
294 Posts
Being homeless will likely do more to limit your possibilities than make you grow. I would continue to use your family for support until you can find a sustainable job. That way instead of having to focus on things like where to sleep/food/shower/etc. you can dedicate all your time on finding a job then planning your next course of action. And unless they're really good friends, you shouldn't really expect most people to help you when you're in a dire situation. It's great if they do but unexpected. That's just the way of most people. No need to burn bridges but rather just level your expectations as to what other people are willing to do. And sometimes on those rare occasions, someone you know might be in a position to help and may be willing to do so. Maybe I'm a cynic, but whenever I have an important plan that revolves around a buddy of mine helping me out, I've always got a plan B & C in my back pocket in case that person fails to make the commitment. There's a ton of resources out there in the job process and how to find one the most effectively. The only thing I'll say about this is that the stuff you may read is "general" advice. It doesn't work for everyone. To ensure your job search is effective, constantly evaluate your methodology and change it to cover any weaknesses and enhance its strengths. And good job on going in to meet managers, that's the kind of initiative that will make you stand out from the pool. Just be sure that you're doing the best to present yourself well even if you're just handing in your resume/asking for a job. Even though it's not a "formal interview," you're still in one since the manager will be evaluating you as a worker as soon as he meets you. Dress nicely, communicate well, be focused, and show dedication and spirit. Otherwise, gj on not being a little bitch. Life is tough, but it can be rewarding once your reap the seeds of your hard work. In terms of your nihilist attitude, hopefully you'll find the joys and values of living. It's hard to see the light when you feel like you're at the bottom of the abyss, but as you claw your way to the top you'll see it eventually. GL on your journey. | ||
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Stratos
Czech Republic6104 Posts
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radscorpion9
Canada2252 Posts
Life is pretty horrible for a lot of people so take some consolation in that. Just hope/pray for the best | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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rafaliusz
Poland482 Posts
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
On September 15 2014 05:52 rafaliusz wrote: Going homeless is one way to fuck up your life even more. This sounds like a REALLY bad idea. | ||
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Xyik
Canada728 Posts
Playing life on hard mode makes no sense, life isn't a game and no one will benefit or praise your for succeeding by beating the 'game of life' on 'hard mode'. Actually, its impossible to even win in life so I don't know what that accomplishes. | ||
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hp.Shell
United States2527 Posts
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Erik.TheRed
United States1655 Posts
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NotJumperer
United States1371 Posts
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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Sero
United States692 Posts
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chrisolo
Germany2606 Posts
It's pointless to "play the game of life on hard". As someone earlier stated before life isnt a game. This is, where I realized how unworldly your view on life actually is. Stop the video games and realize what the world is up to. I do not mean to be an asshole, but people like you need a kick in the butt. Especially in times like these. | ||
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tenacity
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Liquid`Drone
Norway28675 Posts
at least start surfing and live on the beach, or do something with your freedom. You sound like you have no plan, no idea other than "distance yourself from everyone whose care of you makes you incapable of moving freely because you need to factor their happiness into your actions", but you probably haven't even talked to them about your feeling of being imprisoned, it's actually very possible that they would be sympathetic and understanding. I know that when I have taken the time to talk to my loved ones about dreams and aspirations that I have that are somehow not compatible with the life I share with my loved ones, they have been supportive and understanding to a greater degree than I thought possible! It's like, from my perception, it's like you have this, "I just need to build character through hardship, character that will enable me to grow and succeed at whatever future endeavor I choose to focus my talents and dedication on", because you've bought into some collective success-story of the hard working rags to riches guys, point of view on life, but it's just so.. flawed. Basically you want to live in the gutter so you can be empowered to move so far beyond the gutter that you will never have to look back. This is not the empirical reality we live in. The more time you spend in the gutter, the more likely you are to spend your future in the gutter. It is hard to concentrate on developing marketable abilities in a semi-post-scarcity society when your life consists of getting by. The only real future your plan seems to be building for itself would be that of some modern day Bukowski, where you want to live the dreary hopeless life of a homeless so you can best give a remarkable literary account of what that life is like, making you the voice of millions of disillusioned. Sadly I have no reason to believe that your writing ability would make this life path a viable one for you. Basically, don't buy into this whole, hardships make you stronger idea. For most people, serious hardships makes them weaker. It might make you more resilient - but resilience is only a valuable trait to people who are suffering. You want to avoid suffering, not make yourself more apt at handling it. What you need to do is rather accept that your future life path is not going to be paved with hollywood insignia bearing your name, you need to develop, and accept, a more realistic horizon for the future. You don't need to be wealthy, famous, one of society's top dogs to be happy. You just need to accomplish something that is in line with your expectations for the future. Accept that you're not particularly special, and that maybe you're just destined for a normal life. To find happiness, this is for most a much smarter path to take. Being exceptional is by definition a very rare trait. | ||
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ExBoshy
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