EPTOnce you get serious enough with the girl that she might be the one you want to marry, that might be the time to rely on birth control rather than condoms. This may not be an ideal solution, but it's better than 'giving up on girls' most likely.
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micronesia
United States24779 Posts
Once you get serious enough with the girl that she might be the one you want to marry, that might be the time to rely on birth control rather than condoms. This may not be an ideal solution, but it's better than 'giving up on girls' most likely. | ||
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GoTuNk!
Chile4591 Posts
On July 26 2014 02:08 MtlGuitarist97 wrote: Why don't you practice jerking off with a condom? Whenever you're in the mood, just put one on and try to get yourself to finish. Keep doing this until you feel comfortable you could do it irl. wins the thread | ||
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
On July 26 2014 12:00 micronesia wrote: Why don't you make it your goal to find a girl that you want to get serious with, without any immediate plans for sex? I think many girls would appreciate that as well. Once you get serious enough with the girl that she might be the one you want to marry, that might be the time to rely on birth control rather than condoms. This may not be an ideal solution, but it's better than 'giving up on girls' most likely. I was thinking this same thing. Another thing you can do is, along with research, look into feel enhancers and things like that. This problem isn't just you, its a lot of people. While I don't suffer from this, I do know that the reduced sensation is no fun for us. I'd say that you should look into the enhancers, and do some serious research into this for your sexual health, even if it means contacting a sexual health adviser. But I would say that Micro's answer is definitely what I would go with in the mean-time. | ||
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B.I.G.
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kushm4sta
United States8878 Posts
On July 26 2014 12:00 micronesia wrote: Why don't you make it your goal to find a girl that you want to get serious with, without any immediate plans for sex? I think many girls would appreciate that as well. Once you get serious enough with the girl that she might be the one you want to marry, that might be the time to rely on birth control rather than condoms. This may not be an ideal solution, but it's better than 'giving up on girls' most likely. woh where did marriage come into the picture?? find a girl on birthcontrol. or, practice the withdrawal method. It's a lot more reliable than people think. Have you tried extra thin condoms or lambskin? | ||
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wingpawn
Poland1342 Posts
Guy1: Dude, you and your gf look so happy... But tell me, have you ever tried... You know... Fucking her in the other hole? Guy2: Are you fucking kidding? I don't want to get her pregnant! | ||
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micronesia
United States24779 Posts
On July 26 2014 17:01 kushm4sta wrote: woh where did marriage come into the picture?? find a girl on birthcontrol. or, practice the withdrawal method. It's a lot more reliable than people think. Have you tried extra thin condoms or lambskin? Marriage comes into the picture when you want to be somewhat responsible and yet have sex without a condom. You don't need to get married for that, but you should at least be serious enough about the girl that marriage could be in the picture. | ||
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Khenra
Netherlands885 Posts
On July 26 2014 12:00 micronesia wrote: Why don't you make it your goal to find a girl that you want to get serious with, without any immediate plans for sex? I think many girls would appreciate that as well. Once you get serious enough with the girl that she might be the one you want to marry, that might be the time to rely on birth control rather than condoms. This may not be an ideal solution, but it's better than 'giving up on girls' most likely. I definitely want to find a girl to have a serious relationship with. But relationships and sex go hand in hand, at least for me. A relationship with bad sex is just a bad relationship. And unfortunately, this whole condom issue is kind of a make-or-break thing for me when it comes to having good sex. And about the marriage thing: I do not have plans to get married, at all. It's an outdated concept if you ask me. Maybe it's because my parents are divorced. In any case, I do not really agree with the fact that there has to be some kind of 'seriousness' before you can have sex without a condom. Once you have slept with each other a few times, get tested for STDs and then rely on the woman's birth control from there. Being in a comitted relationship shouldn't have anything to do with this. | ||
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micronesia
United States24779 Posts
On July 27 2014 02:07 Khenra wrote: I definitely want to find a girl to have a serious relationship with. But relationships and sex go hand in hand, at least for me. A relationship with bad sex is just a bad relationship. And unfortunately, this whole condom issue is kind of a make-or-break thing for me when it comes to having good sex. And about the marriage thing: I do not have plans to get married, at all. It's an outdated concept if you ask me. Maybe it's because my parents are divorced. In any case, I do not really agree with the fact that there has to be some kind of 'seriousness' before you can have sex without a condom. Once you have slept with each other a few times, get tested for STDs and then rely on the woman's birth control from there. Being in a comitted relationship shouldn't have anything to do with this. I half agree with you. When I say "the girl you might want to marry" I really mean the girl you want to be in a long-term exclusive relationship with. Whether this technically involves marriage or not isn't actually that important to me, although I'm sure some traditionalists will disagree. Personally, I wouldn't trust a girl to be 100% careful with their birth control if they aren't the girl I'm willing to get into a marriage-level relationship with. Furthermore, I wouldn't trust them to be exclusive. If you get your fuckbuddy tested for STDs, what's to stop them from sleeping with other men and catching something after the fact? | ||
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Khenra
Netherlands885 Posts
On July 27 2014 02:22 micronesia wrote: I half agree with you. When I say "the girl you might want to marry" I really mean the girl you want to be in a long-term exclusive relationship with. Whether this technically involves marriage or not isn't actually that important to me, although I'm sure some traditionalists will disagree. Personally, I wouldn't trust a girl to be 100% careful with their birth control if they aren't the girl I'm willing to get into a marriage-level relationship with. Furthermore, I wouldn't trust them to be exclusive. If you get your fuckbuddy tested for STDs, what's to stop them from sleeping with other men and catching something after the fact? You're completely correct. I should always use a condom in this case. But that's kind of the point: it's not fun for me when using a condom. So yes, I am willing to take some risks. Unfortunately, I haven't found a woman who is OK with that. | ||
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StarStruck
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usedtocare
United States243 Posts
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QUEENT
Canada53 Posts
On July 26 2014 02:54 Khenra wrote: Haha, I know. Sorry to have wasted your time with a total lack of drama  Well, I have never used one of those. However, I cannot image it feeling much better than a regular condom. After all, you still miss out on the warmth/wetness of the vagina, which is the main problem with condoms. With a regular condom you also miss out on a lot of friction, which this *would* reintroduce. I've never used one, but Erika Moen (author of DAR, Bucko, etc) reviewed them with her husband at http://www.ohjoysextoy.com/internalcondom/ (NSFW) and they viewed them very positively. I'll quote the husband here: "With an external condom, the penis is completely wrapped up, so there's less friction on your dick. The condom absorbs most of that action, not you. With the internal condom, however, it's loosely lining the vaginal walls. As you're fucking there's actual friction on your cock, which feels wonderful! With enough lube, I would even say it's ALMOST as good as bareback." So, maybe don't dismiss them quite so readily. The husband did mention that they're somewhat unsightly, however. | ||
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WonnaPlay
Netherlands912 Posts
Your situation is almost so damn close to mine when it comes to condoms, it is almost scary. I'm however in a bit more luck than you, since i've been seeing a girl lately who has a "spiral" (anti-conception) and we both got tested on STD's. I've had the same problem since forever. There is some foreplay, you get hard, she gets wet. Some more foreplay, and once the condom comes over your dick and it all just softens up, or it doesn't feel as good. IMO it's such a hassle, but at the same time it is an important hassle... I wish I could give you advice on how to work around this, but unfortunately I don't. I usually don't pick up girls after one night out, because I'm not really interested in easy sex. It always goes in steps for me and as such, it becomes easier to talk about sex beforehand. I've also tried all kinds of different stuff, but the only one that works for me is getting drunk to such an level, that you can "confuse" your dick.... haha..... It usually ends up with heating eachother up and before the moment of infiltration, you just ask if she has birth-control / STD. So far, I've got no children and no STD's (got tested as of 2 weeks ago :o ). At this moment I'm having great sex with a great and smart girl. So just don't give up :D*grammar edit | ||
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ninazerg
United States7291 Posts
Edit: On July 27 2014 11:08 usedtocare wrote: stop masturbating. you need a few weeks and a few tries before u get back to normal. obvuously the issue is already psychological. This is terrible advice. If anything, you should masturbate more so you can be ready to get hard and ejaculate at any time, in any situation. | ||
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MarlieChurphy
United States2065 Posts
I already have trouble busting with new relationships as it is, with condoms I pretty much can't at all. What usually ends up happening is we bang a couple of times, where I'll be dripping sweat, she came a few times, is sore/tired and we stop. She feels like she did something wrong, or something is wrong with me even if I try and explain it. It seems that it's even more important for the girl to get her man off than it is for the man to get the girl off. Like the girl's take serious internal issue with it. Where as guys are just like "It's a challenge!" even if she is just one of the ~50% of women who simply can't orgasm even with masturbation. And eventually she just rips it off and then I'm good. Bleh /blessing+curse | ||
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micronesia
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Mina
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On August 12 2014 07:18 WonnaPlay wrote: Khenra, Your situation is almost so damn close to mine when it comes to condoms, it is almost scary. I'm however in a bit more luck than you, since i've been seeing a girl lately who has a "spiral". She has an IUD. Intrauterine device. | ||
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