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Recently I started playing on chess.com as I have always loved the game of chess and been intrigued by its beauty in the seamless flow of logic (science) and intuition (art). I've met lots of cool and interesting people there. One of my friends on the website is a lovely young lady named Alexandra from Kyrgyzstan, which is a small country neighboring Kazakhstan in central Asia. She is 27 years old, funny, beautiful, and sweet. Not only is she the best professional female chess player in her country but she has a solid educational background and position as project manager and cost control specialist at a major mineral/mining company in Kyrgyzstan. I am currently challenging her to a "correspondence" chess game, which means both players have 3 days to make a move.
Although we have chatted previously on a variety of topics, I have yet to really indicate my genuine interest to her. We have discussed chess theory, chess history, politics (Soviet era and modern day), feminism, corruption, pervasive socioeconomic inequality in developing countries, and global warming. These are truly issues worthy of debate and intellectual contemplation; however, I want to make my feelings more overt and our conversations more personal. I know nothing will ever result from our online interactions as she is a few years older than me and we live on opposite sides of the planet, but I absolutely enjoy her e-company because she is such a dedicated, charming, intelligent, and passionate individual. Her adorable looks are only the icing on the cake.
I really don't know what to do right now. I want something "more" even though I know she sees me as a good online friend. I realize there is no point to my desire to be more intimate and personal with her and make those inclinations more apparent to her, but I have a burning desire in my soul to make her feel that she is a very special person.
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Netherlands6192 Posts
She sounds great ^_^ and she is very pretty, but is she okay with you posting her pictures on another forum?
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chances are if she is the best chess palyer, she also knows about sc2 and lurks on TL.net. YOu better be careful man
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On March 01 2014 14:41 dravernor wrote:
She sounds great ^_^ and she is very pretty, but is she okay with you posting her pictures on another forum?
Yes, I got these from her chess.com profile page, public photos on Facebook, and Google images. So they're very much in the public domain.
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On March 01 2014 15:14 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:Show nested quote +On March 01 2014 14:41 dravernor wrote:
She sounds great ^_^ and she is very pretty, but is she okay with you posting her pictures on another forum? Yes, I got these from her chess.com profile page, public photos on Facebook, and Google images. So they're very much in the public domain.
next question, how do you plan on being intimate with someone halfway across the world?
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Rated this one.
Bad blog. I liked your usual mind blowing blog.
anyways great to know you play chess.com ^_^
Anyways go for it bro she sounds responsible and amazing anyways. She even had the same interest as her you should also introduce her rts or moba games. Go the distance 
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Distance rarely works unless there is something to preempt it. If it just exists, nothing works since you'll see her once then long for her and the hope in the relationship will die. Chances are it's better if you found someone nearer you or moved nearer her.
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On March 01 2014 15:18 EJK wrote:Show nested quote +On March 01 2014 15:14 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:On March 01 2014 14:41 dravernor wrote:
She sounds great ^_^ and she is very pretty, but is she okay with you posting her pictures on another forum? Yes, I got these from her chess.com profile page, public photos on Facebook, and Google images. So they're very much in the public domain. next question, how do you plan on being intimate with someone halfway across the world?
Like I said, I don't expect this to go anywhere. But since I happen to be in the proverbial "friend zone" I would just like her to know that I have real feelings for her. Some people will think it's crazy and impossible to love someone who you don't personally know, but from our limited interactions it's clear to me that she is beautiful on the inside and out. I'm aware that this could appear to be more lust than love, but I want to transcend petty definitions. All I know is that I feel a strong magnetic attraction and connection. She makes me blush and feel butterflies in my stomach and magical when she leaves a flirty comment (of course that's how I perceive it when it may just be her nature to be friendly with everyone). If I let this opportunity pass I might regret it for a long time. What I mean by being "intimate" in this situation is basically having the satisfaction of her knowing that I regard her as much more than simply a friend. So intimacy more in the emotional or psychological sense compared to physical.
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Do you message eachother or like skype / vidchat eachother?
Also how long has this been going on for so far?
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On March 01 2014 16:25 Kal_rA wrote:
Do you message eachother or like skype / vidchat eachother?
Also how long has this been going on for so far?
No only chess.com and 6 months.
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On March 01 2014 15:14 NeuroticPsychosis wrote:Show nested quote +On March 01 2014 14:41 dravernor wrote:
She sounds great ^_^ and she is very pretty, but is she okay with you posting her pictures on another forum? Yes, I got these from her chess.com profile page, public photos on Facebook, and Google images. So they're very much in the public domain.
For your future reference, these are not the same thing.
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There is nothing wrong with telling her how you feel, as long as you accept that she might find it uncomfortable and prefer to stop chatting. But you have known her long enough where I feel that won't happen. However, expecting more from her is near impossible, and from experience, not worth it even if she does like you. It is much better if you tell her so you can move on to the next girl that lives closer to you. If she really is a good online friend, she wont let it change anything.
Again from experience, its not worth getting into an online relationship- but online friendship, yes that is very much worth keeping.
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Yeah, it's really hard to get close like that online. I certainly wish I knew how. Good luck man, I think all you have to do is beat her in chess and she will be like obliged to marry you or something.
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Honestly I would be wary if I were you. Her head looks like it's about to fall of her neck at any moment. This is definitely not a good sign and if her head were to suddenly topple off her body...
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Say things that would make HER interested in YOU... (ps telling her you're infatuated with her will not do the trick)
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Wow she's cute
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On March 01 2014 21:02 MtlGuitarist97 wrote:
Honestly I would be wary if I were you. Her head looks like it's about to fall of her neck at any moment. This is definitely not a good sign and if her head were to suddenly topple off her body...
hahah wut?
@NeuroticPsychosis - I had this situation and then I told the person and the person stopped talking to me but now that it happened i feel like it was a landslide that would have happened eventually.
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Netherlands6192 Posts
It's not actually impossible to make a relationship work between you, provided you have the same end goals, and perhaps want to end up in the same country in the future. If not then it would be fruitless. What would telling her how you feel about her accomplish in that case?
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She looks like shes in her mid to late 30s. I'm getting grossed out.
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On March 02 2014 00:04 Japhybaby wrote:Show nested quote +On March 01 2014 21:02 MtlGuitarist97 wrote:
Honestly I would be wary if I were you. Her head looks like it's about to fall of her neck at any moment. This is definitely not a good sign and if her head were to suddenly topple off her body... hahah wut? @NeuroticPsychosis - I had this situation and then I told the person and the person stopped talking to me but now that it happened i feel like it was a landslide that would have happened eventually.
Oh nvm...
It's because she tilts her head in every single picture, lol.
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EPT
