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ahoy
im pretty impressed that im writing this right now ...
basic infos:
my last GF (lets call her Felicity) was a chinese exchange student, who lives on the other end of germany now (like 700km inbetween us). we have been together for like 5month. she went psycho occasionally with stuff like "marry me" or "i want your babies" ...
we just graduated from university during that time, totally not the time to marry or have kids (for me atleast), especially not so damn early. so i broke up with her 1yr ago.
now she is back knocking on my door (virtually via skype etc) and im not sure how to deal with her.
pro's:
i know her already
con's:
tends to freak out about useless stuff
cant maintain selfcontroll when it comes to eating / alcohol
sometimes very childish
so righti now she siad when she finish her master this oct, she will try to move closer to me. on the other side she is 80% sure she will go back to china in feb or march 14.
her only reason to stay might be a save job or marriage, so she gets german citizenship
And now there seems to be another girl ... also chinese (i wonder why only chinese are attracted to me). We call her Kerrigan, she is a fully graduated engineer and does some additional internship at my uni. i met her like 2weeks ago. since then she is dropping some hints here and there that she really likes me. and she is living just on the other side of the road.
pro's:
want to stay in germany
seems not to be psycho (so far)
got more selfdiscipline regarding alcohol and such
con's:
havent found any yet
not sure how to deal with this, since there is still some connection with Felicity (might just be the wish for some matress closecombat). Kerrigan seems more grownup, so far. and since she is more disciplined her shape is really nice ...
the problem i see is, that Felicity might move closer to me, no matter what i say. so she might stalk me and i cant connect with Kerrigan than.
any ideas or sth like that?
  
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Given the pro's and con's that you've written, it seems like a very tough choice.
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Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
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concerning love, don't go for the save road. if you just "choose" one option over another because you feel it is less risky you will be stuck with someone you don't 100% want to be with and it will end badly.
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Pandemona
Charlie Sheens House51434 Posts
her only reason to stay might be a save job or marriage, so she gets German citizenship
Be careful!! Sounds to me she is targeting you for that reason! She wants a baby, so she gets citizenship. She wants marriage because she gets citizenship. Pretty much what im getting from this.
So stay away from Felicity unless you want your sexy times for a few months before she goes away. Or play Zerg hardcore and try and make some moves on Kerrigan!
IMO, i would go with Kerrigan and try and have fun with her, as she seems like your first choice so to say. Felicity is clearly just a sex all the time woop woop relationship xD
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United Kingdom14103 Posts
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If you call her Kerrigan, you go with Kerrigan, simple as that.
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On September 19 2013 21:09 Pandemona wrote:
IMO, i would go with Kerrigan and try and have fun with her, as she seems like your first choice so to say. Felicity is clearly just a sex all the time woop woop relationship xD
thats a quite accurate summary i think
On September 19 2013 21:41 Stratos wrote:
If you call her Kerrigan, you go with Kerrigan, simple as that.
well, i played zerg before i stopped with SC2, so i gues Kerrigan gets another point
ok, seems that the general tenor is:
ask kerrigan and mb she lets me play with her creep-tumors.
dodge Felicity to avoid scenes a la shining where she knocks my doors with an axe and yells "heeeeeere's Felicity"
i also asked my personal witchdoctor, well his response was oooh, look at it go ... i gues he is right.
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On September 19 2013 21:06 Fishgle wrote:
Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
lol
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On September 19 2013 21:06 Fishgle wrote:
Kerrigan > Being Single > Terran > Felicity
are you seriously considering not trying to get the girl you really want because "Felicity might stalk me" o_O
Hahahahaha, win. Next blog please, we are done here.
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United Kingdom16710 Posts
On September 19 2013 20:37 Rodberd wrote:
pro's:
i know her already
That says it all really. If familiarity is the best you could come up for pros of dating her, it sounds like you shouldn't. If you like the second girl, ask her out and see where that leads. Oh, and it does sound a bit like your ex just wants to use you to obtain rights to remain in Germany. That's never a solid foundation for a relationship.
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Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
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On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
Or rather, why is OP attracted to Chinese women?
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United States2829 Posts
She's trying to get you to impregnate her so she can stay. Just stay away from the trap and hang out with the normal girl, which you said was hot.
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On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
On September 20 2013 00:02 Monsen wrote:
Let's move on to something that isn't quite as obvious as the choices in your case- why are only Chinese women attracted to you?
Or rather, why is OP attracted to Chinese women?[/QUOTE]
thats pretty easy to answer.
since im/i was something like a studybuddy or supervisor for chinese students at my uni i have lot of contact to them.
the funny part is (not even bragging about this) i dont do anything, they come to me ...
sometimes they do it very sneaky sometimes a bit more obvious
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United States2829 Posts
Chinese girls, just swarming the German men. What do.
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Do NOT go for Felicity! She's very likely to be one of those people that always seek out drama in a relationship... or create it. There are good odds she's going to fly into a marriage with you, make you miserable for a few years and then break up. She might also just be doing this for the citizenship.
Go for the other gal. You actually haven't found a reason to not go for her.
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you guys are right.
so far there is no reason not to go for kerrigan.
and as if she heard it, i met her this afternoon and she wants to invite mo to dinenr and cook sth chinese for me \o/
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United States9940 Posts
kerrigan.
the other felicity person is just looking to get a way out.
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EPT
