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Ikidomari
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Australia485 Posts
July 30 2013 16:27 GMT
#1
I'll try and keep this short but, here goes.

>known girl for 4-5 years
>been close friends with her for 2 of those years
>she's at least a 7/10, looks a lot like LiviBee for a comparison most of you will understand
>never had feelings for her
>had other girlfriends since meeting her
>she's never had a boyfriend, or even expressed interest in another boy (she had issues as a kid that I won't go into detail about)
>she gets asked out a lot, never bothered me because i knew she'd say no.
>she finally expressed interest in another guy
>he is showing interest in her too
>ohfuck my heart
>haven't felt this weird pain since I found out my (early) highschool crush~5 years ago had slept with another guy
>realize I'm into my friend, and that I probably won't handle it too well if she starts dating this guy

If it makes any difference, we're both 19 year old uni students. So I know that any relation-ship dramas at this age aren't a big deal.

what do I do TL?
Poll: What Do

Tell her I'm into her (29)
 
60%

Do nothing and hope for the best (13)
 
27%

Other: please comment (6)
 
13%

48 total votes

Your vote: What Do

(Vote): Tell her I'm into her
(Vote): Do nothing and hope for the best
(Vote): Other: please comment



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MysteryMeat1
Profile Blog Joined June 2011
United States3291 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-07-30 16:44:56
July 30 2013 16:44 GMT
#2
GGNORE you lost just like innovation lost to Maru. HAD 4 games to adjust and never did.

The only way I see this playing out is to do nothing. You had 4 years to do something and didn't, and now that your relationship is changing you got scared. It doesn't help that you've had other girlfriends. If things don't work out then go for it. But if you confess know you will probably lose a friend or make it really weird between you two, and you will get shot down if she does like the other person.

PS: Confessions usually don't work.
"Cause ya know, Style before victory." -The greatest mafia player alive
Ikidomari
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Australia485 Posts
July 30 2013 16:47 GMT
#3
On July 31 2013 01:44 MysteryMeat1 wrote:
GGNORE you lost just like innovation lost to Maru. HAD 4 games to adjust and never did.

The only way I see this playing out is to do nothing. You had 4 years to do something and didn't, and now that your relationship is changing you got scared. It doesn't help that you've had other girlfriends. If things don't work out then go for it. But if you confess know you will probably lose a friend or make it really weird between you two, and you will get shot down if she does like the other person.

PS: Confessions usually don't work.


I probably could have worded that better, by confess I mean, properly ask her out on a date, not beta out and tell her I'm into her and then wait around for her to say something.

thanks for the advice though, taken it into consideration. really the only thing holding me back from just asking her out is the possibility of losing a friend
Just break the rules, and you see the truth.
29 fps
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States5724 Posts
July 30 2013 16:55 GMT
#4
spoilers, my friend... spoilers...
4v4 is a battle of who has the better computer.
wingpawn
Profile Blog Joined June 2013
Poland1342 Posts
July 30 2013 17:02 GMT
#5
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Be warned OP, you are currently on the way to destroy ANY relationship you have with that girl.

Your current issue in an instant: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Positional_good.
zbedlam
Profile Joined October 2010
Australia549 Posts
July 30 2013 17:13 GMT
#6
You tell her right now you like her as more than a friend AND she actually feels strongly about this guy, you will lose her as a friend or anything more.

Even though the "right" thing to do is tell her you have feelings for her, it doesn't give you the highest of chances of being with her.

My advice is patience, you don't want to tell her you like her as more than a friend when she's in love with another guy nor do you want to tell her this when she is satisfied physically and emotionally. (by another guy) I would recommend using subtle breakup techniques or just waiting it out if you think their relationship has a use by date.

After its over, see what you have to work with then make your move. You aren't screwed exactly but the things you can do presently with any form of positive outcome are limited.
Juliette
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
United States6003 Posts
July 30 2013 17:17 GMT
#7
life is not an anime t-t

put yourself in her position

4 years of your best friend and you, just being friends, you've never dated and you finally found someone, do want them to suddenly put you in a position to choose? that's hard on anyone, esp for her if she didn't date people in that time.

just stand by her. if it's meant to be it's meant to be. sometimes you realize it's too late and that's okay too.

your stomach will hurt for a while. you won't want to see her, you'll cringe at her name, whatever. be as honest as you can - "i'm gonna be really busy in the next month or so, i need some time to rethink a few things" or something. make sure you're still there for her as a friend, contact her periodically and ask for how she and the dude are doing. bear through

and one day you'll wake up and either be over it or she'll be single and you can go from there

glhf
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Pandemona *
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
Charlie Sheens House51472 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-07-30 17:30:47
July 30 2013 17:30 GMT
#8
Get some balls, man up and just say. I didn't realize it until now but i really like you and i would like to date you myself etcetc.

Now she might freak out at this but there is nothing more you can do if you really do like her you will have to accept her descion of what she makes
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Burrfoot
Profile Blog Joined July 2012
United States1176 Posts
July 30 2013 17:35 GMT
#9
Proposition her in this way: Use the whole " If we're both not married by 30, lets make babies" angle so she knows you're interested then bang her. Problem(s) solved.
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QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32046 Posts
July 30 2013 17:56 GMT
#10
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way
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9-BiT
Profile Blog Joined January 2012
United States1089 Posts
July 30 2013 18:22 GMT
#11
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?
kwark_uk: @father_sc learn to play maybe?
Pelopidas
Profile Joined January 2011
Canada225 Posts
July 30 2013 18:30 GMT
#12
DO NOT confess. It will not work, and you will make it awkward. Find another girl. You also might get another opportunity if you wait.
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QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32046 Posts
July 30 2013 18:34 GMT
#13
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?

no hahah. there are just a shitload of girl blogs on here, and seeing as i dont play sc2 anymore, i don't have much interest in that section of the website or those blogs!
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Overpowered
Profile Joined January 2011
Czech Republic764 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-07-30 19:01:12
July 30 2013 19:00 GMT
#14
Ask her out. As stated above, DO NOT CONFESS. It never works. Flirt, get touchy, show romantic and sexual interest in her. If you get rejected, try to make yourself as busy as possible and limit contact - this will help you get over it.
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jrkirby
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States1510 Posts
July 30 2013 19:27 GMT
#15
On July 31 2013 03:34 QuanticHawk wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?

no hahah. there are just a shitload of girl blogs on here, and seeing as i dont play sc2 anymore, i don't have much interest in that section of the website or those blogs!


I would love to see you condescendingly comment on all the sc2 blogs. It would be so entertaining, like: "That's a pathetic build man, you ought to get out of bronze league." or something.
Ikidomari
Profile Blog Joined August 2011
Australia485 Posts
July 30 2013 19:31 GMT
#16
ahhhhh thankyou everyone for the replies. Goddamit I really shouldn't post anything 3 hours after I usually go to bed, oh well.
I think I'm just going to do nothing for the next few weeks and see what happens. If he asks her out or she asks him out, I'll do nothing and continue being her friend. If nothing happens between them I'll make a move (not confess, ask her out properly).

also that "someone is playing with the toy you neglected" remark, Hawk, I can see why you would think that, and maybe it's right to some degree, but if you knew the whole story, which you had no way of knowing, you'd probably see why I chose not to ask her out before now. but that's neither here nor there.

thanks again for the input guys, appreciated.
Just break the rules, and you see the truth.
GhostOwl
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
766 Posts
July 30 2013 19:41 GMT
#17
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?


He's incredibly cynical too. Always the "you have no chance" "give up" "dump her asap"
Almost makes me feel like he doesn't want to see people happy in a relationship for some reason. lol
farvacola
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States18821 Posts
July 30 2013 19:42 GMT
#18
On July 31 2013 04:41 GhostOwl wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?


He's incredibly cynical too. Always the "you have no chance" "give up" "dump her asap"
Almost makes me feel like he doesn't want to see people happy in a relationship for some reason. lol

Actually, I'm inclined to think that his intentions are the exact opposite. Relationship advice just tends to be fairly divisive.
"when the Dead Kennedys found out they had skinhead fans, they literally wrote a song titled 'Nazi Punks Fuck Off'"
QuanticHawk
Profile Blog Joined May 2007
United States32046 Posts
Last Edited: 2013-07-30 19:58:29
July 30 2013 19:49 GMT
#19
On July 31 2013 04:31 Ikidomari wrote:
also that "someone is playing with the toy you neglected" remark, Hawk, I can see why you would think that, and maybe it's right to some degree, but if you knew the whole story, which you had no way of knowing, you'd probably see why I chose not to ask her out before now. but that's neither here nor there.

thanks again for the input guys, appreciated.


Neglected wasn't the best choice of words. More like you didn't realize what you had until her availability as a dating prospect was in jepordy. Basically, it will come across as jealousy, not actually liking her, which you do... That isn't a comment on your motivations (as stated, I don't know and it is irrelevent) but how she'll likely interpret that. Like even if she did feel similarly about you, that isn't the best starting point for a relationship and as you stated, it is best to problem let her do her own thing, learn from it and don't squander your next opportunity

On July 31 2013 04:27 jrkirby wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 03:34 QuanticHawk wrote:
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?

no hahah. there are just a shitload of girl blogs on here, and seeing as i dont play sc2 anymore, i don't have much interest in that section of the website or those blogs!


I would love to see you condescendingly comment on all the sc2 blogs. It would be so entertaining, like: "That's a pathetic build man, you ought to get out of bronze league." or something.


hahahaha I am blunt, not condescending!

On July 31 2013 04:41 GhostOwl wrote:
Show nested quote +
On July 31 2013 03:22 9-BiT wrote:
On July 31 2013 02:56 QuanticHawk wrote:
confessions are retarded

if you are gonna do something, it has to be a non verbal action, but the fact that you're doing it now only because someone else is playing with the toy you had neglected, so to speak, is something that is immediately gonna be picked up and probably not in a good way

Lmao do you just create a search query for "girl blogs" and respond to them all day?


He's incredibly cynical too. Always the "you have no chance" "give up" "dump her asap"
Almost makes me feel like he doesn't want to see people happy in a relationship for some reason. lol

quite the opposite. happy is not the adjective i'd use to describe posting about your relationship issues in a blog rather than talking it out with your spouse, bitching about 'friendzone', lamenting over a lack of success, etc etc
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Djzapz
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
Canada10681 Posts
July 30 2013 19:59 GMT
#20
QuanticHawk's probably out to sabotage dudes by giving them bad advice. Definite "if I can't have it, nor should you" vibe...
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