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Friends with benefits?
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Qiang1446
United States92 Posts
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felisconcolori
United States6168 Posts
So... what makes you think she is still pretty sad about it? Because you are? You haven't talked to her since then. And why haven't you talked to her since then anyways? Is the only reason you are wanting to talk to her is the sex? Give it some time, let her reach out if there's any reaching to be done this early. | ||
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ThePhan2m
Norway2750 Posts
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Qiang1446
United States92 Posts
As for why we haven't talked, I think it's normal to not talk to your ex at least a couple days after the break up, I don't want to sound desperate or anything-- I'm not dying over the sex, I just think it would be nice to be friends with benefits with her since we both share the same experience and are "comfortable" with each other in bed. Tbh, I think we were better off as friends, and throughout the relationship I knew it wasn't going to last but just didn't want to break it up (was a little relieved that she did it, but still bummed out.... kinda weird) . I don't know if I ever loved her, but I still feel weird that I might not ever see her again, and want to at least stay friends | ||
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pebble444
Italy2500 Posts
Nothing wrong with liking somebody only in one aspect, but after 1 year with a person it starts to get serious and you have to start investing in the relationship to make it work. Its the point where you know what the other person likes, and doesn My advice is to call her up now, and have a chat with her in front of a cup of coffea or something like that. And you should explain in detail, how you feel about her. Honestly. Still with tact, you have to consider that this is a soft and delicate thing. From what you tell that you broke apart peacefully, i imagine you haven t talk about everything. To be honest, you seem like you miss her physical aspect, so i think that is the most important part you considered of your relationship with her. To me it doesn' t seem like she felt/feels the same way. I think she was more interested in you than you thought. And people don' t like to feel used, so i guess she was hoping you would change and it would become more serious, and after seeying it didn' t happen, she left. So now, if this the case, you still feel like she is available to you, but i don t think she will be. Rebound. Probably she will seek or to stay alone or to try and find someone that can fullfill her emotional needs. | ||
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divito
Canada1213 Posts
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
Just don't, it's a lose/lose situation. Find someone else, you're just horny that's all. | ||
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Qiang1446
United States92 Posts
She wanted to break up because it wasn't the same as when we first started dating, and that we had way more "arguments" (we never had an actual fight) and that I'm going to Japan to study abroad during the Spring, and she doesn't want to go back to long distance against after dealing with it for half a year. I think I'm going to just leave a note on her car tomorrow (we work in the same plaza) something along the lines of: "Are you up to chat over a cup of coffee? don't worry nothing super serious!)," and just talk about the breakup because it happened pretty fast, we didn't talk about it in detail. Depending on how this goes, I'll bring up the friends with benefits thing later. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45182 Posts
But if you absolutely, 100% insist on having a new, superficial fling with the girl you just had an important relationship with, you need to be upfront with her. You need to ask her if she'd be willing to have a friends-with-benefits relationship with you. Don't tease her. Don't make her think you want her back (unless you do...?). Don't lead her on. You need to tell her exactly what you want, and see if she's interested. If she's not interested, then hopefully you find another booty call. If she is, then good luck stopping the feelings from the previous relationship from returning... | ||
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eu.exodus
South Africa1186 Posts
Just walk away. You could never be friends with benefits with someone you were more than friends with. Ever. | ||
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MassArbiterFTW
Australia52 Posts
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a176
Canada6688 Posts
breakup over skype leaving a note on her car in a boring relationship sounds to me like you were the problem in this relationship. in detail, you knew you were having a bad relationship. but you kept at it for the sex until even that became boring. but because you are still thinking with your dick are you trying to find ways to weasel yourself back in for more casual sex until you up and leave for japan. i dont know, maybe you are trying to tell yourself you are not a bad person and that maybe, you actually may still have feelings for her and that makes this all the better. it doesnt. dont use people like this. let her get on with her life. | ||
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aviator116
United States820 Posts
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applepielon
United States78 Posts
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tehemperorer
United States2183 Posts
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ZpuX
Sweden1230 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32098 Posts
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serum321
United States606 Posts
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ParkwayDrive
United States328 Posts
just go find someone else to have sex with if thats all u care about | ||
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pebble444
Italy2500 Posts
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MaestroSC
United States2073 Posts
"I...feel....like... i must like you and that i really appreciate you as a person and want to remain your friend..." "nope just got done fapping...turns out i was just horny...mybad" | ||
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
It does reinforce the line that no matter what, go fap before you make relationship decisions. | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
On December 20 2012 01:32 a176 wrote: i won't white knight this. breakup over skype leaving a note on her car in a boring relationship sounds to me like you were the problem in this relationship. in detail, you knew you were having a bad relationship. but you kept at it for the sex until even that became boring. but because you are still thinking with your dick are you trying to find ways to weasel yourself back in for more casual sex until you up and leave for japan. i dont know, maybe you are trying to tell yourself you are not a bad person and that maybe, you actually may still have feelings for her and that makes this all the better. it doesnt. dont use people like this. let her get on with her life. Great post! I agree 100% and couldn't have said it better! | ||
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blade55555
United States17423 Posts
On December 27 2012 14:30 Aerisky wrote: hahaha the way you put that....too good. It does reinforce the line that no matter what, go fap before you make relationship decisions. rofl this post gets it. If you are ever craving something about a women just do what this man says and then think :D | ||
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