south park

then some other ginger kid on youtube decided to defend world wide ginger honour and just wound up making the situation worse

but yes the human race is stupid pack mentality peer pressure and all that.

sounds like right now she needs a friend you should go help her the added bonus being you can talk starcraft with eachother

Shock710

Australia6097 Posts

August 06 2012 12:27 GMT

#22

On August 06 2012 20:42 VenomBRA wrote:

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Huh? OP is a girl!

well still no reason, not too =)

BrTarolg

United Kingdom3574 Posts

August 06 2012 12:29 GMT

#23

School is a horrible place

People used to call me chinkcent >____>

(im chinese)

I don't really know what you can do about it, my social development has always been extremely slow since i'm kinda autisticy and it never really makes any sense to me

I guess you just get better at dealing with things as you grow up

Shock710

Australia6097 Posts

August 06 2012 12:33 GMT

#24

On August 06 2012 21:29 BrTarolg wrote:
School is a horrible place

People used to call me chinkcent >____>

(im chinese)

I don't really know what you can do about it, my social development has always been extremely slow since i'm kinda autisticy and it never really makes any sense to me

I guess you just get better at dealing with things as you grow up

i dont know if its Australia or melbourne (my city), i never went to some proper "private" school, i went to a school near my house and i dont live in a very good area but i never, nor seen anyone being bullied for race, a friend of mine got bullied for being fat for like a day, casue he was like "yeah i'm fat lolol u gonna finish ur lunch i'll have it u dont" he didnt really mind. It stopped right after that, never experienced it or seen it outside the media

Daeny

18 Posts

August 06 2012 14:18 GMT

#25

wow this is a sick story. I hope u can help her.
Best wishes!

Xhiwi

49 Posts

August 06 2012 20:50 GMT

#26

It's so cool that so many people replied, thank you so much!
You guys are right. Maybe I should talk to her, yeah but the problemis, that she doesn't talk to anyone. She is back in school for 2 weeks (now we have summer vacation of course) but she doesn't even talk to our teachers.I think it will be rather difficult talking to her. I guess she's afraid of trusting somebody. Of course she is. I wouldn't trust anyone neither.

Greggle

United States1131 Posts

August 06 2012 21:21 GMT

#27

Befriend her, but not by sticking up for her or addressing the issue. I'm sure she'd rather not be defined by it in anyone's eyes. If she wants to talk about it it will come up later.

Also, all this crap blows over in college. It's refreshing to not have an opinion of everyone in your grade thats been engrained in people's minds for 12 years.

StorkHwaiting

United States3465 Posts

August 07 2012 01:28 GMT

#28

What surprises me is how many people managed to get through childhood without dealing with hardship. Bullying, extreme levels of violence, viciousness, cruelty, etc were all quite common during my childhood to the point that by 3rd-4th grade I had become very casual about violence and thought it was the only way to solve any dispute.

Ofc, as I got older, mostly 11th grade on, I learned that you can't use violence to solve everything because police with guns will show up and be even more violent towards you. That taught me not that violence was bad or didn't solve disputes, but that there were even more violent people out there willing and able to use it on me. AKA I learned my place in society.

But it just always amazes me when people have such a rosier outlook on life. It makes me realize how much of our personalities are shaped by the circumstances and experiences we go through growing up.

To Xhiwi: You should try to reach out to the girl and tell her that you play SC2 as well. One friend can make a world of difference. But you will be disappointed many times in life if you think fairness actually exists.

Aterons_toss

Romania1275 Posts

August 08 2012 18:51 GMT

#29

Honestly, the best thing to do when you are "bullied" about something is to admit to say thing and even to add to what the guy is saying.
I do that all the time, but than again i am a pretty sarcastic person IRL and i know how to communicate kinda well face to face... which is kinda strange considering how much time i spend on my computer.

To give an example of this:
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A recent thing that happened to me was a mother ( not sure if she was a mother, but she had a kid with her ) randomly shit talking me and a few friends for smoking a hookah ( the bar we were at has the outside tables in the middle of he sidewalk cuz hey, civilized country... ).

I don't even want to think of her reasoning but she started saying the usual crap of "Why cigarets are bad", now i would imagine that most people would just ignore her and even the ones that would talk back to her would go for the " Understand that hookah filtrates a lot of the nicotine and makes the smoker lighter" the " Get the fuck out im trying to enjoy a smoke with a few friends" or simply tell her how retarded she was acting.

Instead i did what i would usually do if someone i knew picked on something else that i was doing, I began telling her about how right she was and adding to the facts she told me about why smoking is bad, after about 1 minute of me agreeing to all that she said and adding more hyperbole-ized facts about why what we were doing was horrible she just looked confused than looked into the ground than left without saying a word.

Its the only time i can remember i did this to someone way above my age since my parents/teachers don't exactly bully/insult me without reason,
Still, it make me believe even stronger that admitting to what someone is blaming you for will make them shut up and even fell bad 99% of the time if they didn't had a goal other than using it as an insult against you

I used to have people telling me i play to many video games for example ( since i do ) and all the stereotypes that come with that, if I told them i completely agreed with what they said and even added more things to help there accusation they just stopped and most of the time showed signs of how awkward they fell.

Sarcasm is a powerful tool as long as you can keep a "straight face". Than again i am a pretty big guy so i don't think anyone would really like picking fights ( and those who do due to training or due to being assholes enough to call friends to help are the kind of people that i generally never get close to from both a physical and a platonic stand point.

If you know that what people say about you is untrue than you should be able to make anyone with a gram of brain see so by expanding on there point and the ones that don't, you will just make them fell bad or awkward.
If you know what people say about you is true than you should be able to admit to it, if you do so they will be basically in the same position as a guy telling an amputee he doesn't have a limb and laughing about it, in public... not a very pleasant position to be in. If you can't admit to something you know is true, if you can't make fun of yourself for doing something and if you can't stand by a decision since the "general population" disagrees with it than you are the one bullying yourself.