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If you remember my last blog, I had wanted to go to prom with a college girl that I liked that was older than me. After that didn't work out and we stopped talking my girl best friend and another girl who I will reference as 'Susan' wanted me to ask this girl, who I will call 'Mary', to prom. This part happened about a month ago. Apparently this girl, 'Mary', thought I was cute or something and really wanted to go to prom with me. Well I decide I was gonna buy a college t-shirt of where she was going off to school, OU, and making a pun out of it saying "will yOU go to prom with me". I had to order the shirt since I couldn't find a plain-ish one at the mall that would work. Unfortunately the shirt didn't get to me in time as I ordered it on the weekend and her friend, 'Susan', told me in class that Monday that another guy who she didn't want to go with was going to ask her to prom on Wednesday, so I had to ask her on Tuesday. That night knowing that I wouldn't have the shirt to modify, I threw a card together bought a few roses and asked her that morning before school. She was all happy, said yes and gave me a hug and we walked to class together.
This is the part where everything stops being happy. After that, I sent her a couple text messages a few days apart asking stuff like "hey, how's it going" so we could start becoming friends for prom or at least comfortable with each other's company. Pretty much she didn't respond with the only explanation I got from my best girl friend who is a mutual friend of ours was that "she's a bad texter". Basically she doesn't care. I kinda dropped the issue since I was still trying to make it work, figured I couldn't find someone better, and would feel bad about calling it off.
Fast forward to now. 'Mary', is continuing to be weird and refusing to talk to me in person or texts for the most part except for necessary coordination, like have you gotten your tux or dress yet kind of stuff and it is really starting to annoy me. Early this week one of Mary's best friends, lets call her 'Susan', motioned me in statistics class to talk to her and the other girl she was sitting with, lets call her 'Elizabeth', about how I felt about what she was doing to me (not talking to me and being uninterested). 'Susan', pretty much tells me that my prom date, 'Mary', is being a ^&*!@ to me. During this I learn that 'Elizabeth' doesn't have a prom date and the next day 'Susan' and her boyfriend joke with me about asking 'Elizabeth' to prom. I decide why not and ask 'Susan' to text 'Elizabeth' to see if she is interested (yes I know I have a date, but I also found out my date was going to another school's prom with someone and had not told me from 'Susan'). Unfortunately 'Elizabeth' wants to go with some other guy, so that goes nowhere. At this point my friends and even 'Susan' are trying to get me to find another date, so I decide to try to see if another girl, lets call her 'Jenniefer', wants to go with me to prom. Apparently she wants some other guy to ask her that isn't going to ask her, so that is a no go. Finally one of my best friends tells me I should ask this other girl, lets call her 'Maria', but apparently she has a date too.
I had finally run out of options to get a new date and decided to try to make myself content about going to prom with someone who I despise, 'Mary'. 'Susan' pretty much tries to reassure me that 'Mary' will be fun and that I can dance with her ('Susan') (she has a boyfriend so that would be awkward) if I want or anyone else at prom. So, I'm like w/e its prom, I need to at least go since I already have invested in renting a tux (though I can back out with it only costing me the 40 dollar deposit) and my mom really wants me to go.
Later yesterday I text 'Susan' asking if my best friend and his date could ride in the limo with us, since well, he is one of my best friends and 'Susan' was trying to find another couple to split the cost of the limo with anyways. She responds that she doesn't want "random people" going with her friends to prom (even though my friend had went to her boyfriend's birthday party earlier this year). I pretty much tell her "Now you know how it feels to go with random people". She didn't reply.
Today I made one of 'Jennifer's' friends aware that the guy 'Jenniefer' wanted to ask her was going to ask a different girl to prom so hopefully she might be interested in going to prom with me now, I hope.
So my question at this point is it worth ditching my prom date and the group they are going with even though I can't find another date if it doesn't work out with 'Jennifer' (there is a good chance of that)?
Most of my friends aren't going to prom and the one's that are are going with a date, so going with friends isn't really an option unless I want to be someone's third wheel.
Edit: Names have been added to make it easier to read
A is now Mary
B is now Elizabeth
C is now Jennifer
D is now Maria
E is now Susan
 
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this is really confusing.
good luck!
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My dad never went to prom, and he turned out just fine...
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On April 21 2012 06:58 Ry-Masta-T wrote:
this is really confusing.
good luck!
I was afraid of that lol.
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Somewhere in that sea of letters I started to imagine you as a serial killer. Kept expecting to read, "And then I stabbed E in the eye with A's shinbone. And oh how I laughed."
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Blazinghand
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It definitely looks like a complicated situation you have there. Honestly, I think the right move is to NOT ditch your prom date-- 'C' will still be around after prom, right? If you really want to date her you can ask her out then. It just kinda seems like it'd be a dick move to ditch your prom date at this point coupled with the risk of not getting a date with 'C' and being a third wheel.
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On April 21 2012 07:35 Blazinghand wrote:
It definitely looks like a complicated situation you have there. Honestly, I think the right move is to NOT ditch your prom date-- 'C' will still be around after prom, right? If you really want to date her you can ask her out then. It just kinda seems like it'd be a dick move to ditch your prom date at this point coupled with the risk of not getting a date with 'C' and being a third wheel.
If I knew 'C' would say yes to me would you say it would be worth it? Say for example I kinda told her friend or something that I was going to ask her and knew what her response would be?
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Blazinghand
United States25551 Posts
If you knew for sure that 'C' would say yes, then whether or not it's worth it is up to you. I don't know how much you'd enjoy going with either date, so I can't say for sure. But if you know for sure you'd have more fun with 'C' and you know you wouldn't feel bad about ditching a girl, then asking out 'C' is probably the right move. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable ditching someone, but I am not you nor am I in your situation.
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Do whatever that makes you happy. It isn't mandatory to go with a date. I went solo, and had a blast.
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I, let's call me "P", think that you, let's call you "O", use way too many initials, let's call them "I", for no good reason.
You, that is "O", could have easily just made up names, such as "N", and your whole text, let's call it "T", wouldn't be so annoying to read. Got a headache, let's call it "H", halfway through and stopped reading.
Good luck with your prom though.
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most of the people i know that went to prom, didn't actually go with someone they were into or knew well... they just went to have a date to go. I happened to go with my best friend at the time (we weren't dating) since my gf at the time was asked by another dude like months in advance. honestly, most of the girls in my group paired with my other friends so all the girls were with their friends and so were the guys... aside from that, no one in our group hooked up with each other.
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Instead of using letters like 'A' and 'E', just make up random names. It's a lot easier to read and follow along if the reader has a solid name they can grasp.
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I was gonna say go either way, but if ALL your friends have prom dates that will make it a little weird. But let me throw this in there, i managed to get a prom date at literally the last second and it was a friend of a friends, friend. So obviously we didn't have much in common and i was a pretty shy guy in high school. At the actual prom this girl who i am going with doesn't go to my school so she doesn't know anyone so now i feel i have an obligation to stay with her because i obviously asked her and i don't want to just leave her there talking to the 2 people she knew. I did want to go out and dance with my friends but this girl didn't want to so after about an hour of just sitting there i said fuck it and went out dancing had the time of my life. Do i feel bad YES but shes a junior so this girl had another chance next year.
Basically don't force a date because no one will be happy. It may sound terrible to go by yourself to prom but as long as you have some friends i am sure you will find a few people to hang out with.
And my last advice Fuck it this is your last year in HS about 90% of the people you see in HS you wont see more than a few times over the summer when your in college.
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holy shit was that confusing. im glad im not in high school anymore.
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Well I can tell you I never enjoyed high school dances, and afterwards most of my friends complained it was dumb, usually because of the very stuff you are fussing about. The fun time was after hanging out with friends (which for some people was getting trashed, and for others playing very nerdy board games together). I regret wasting my time going to any dances in high school. I always had much more fun when I skipped out and spent the money on something else for the day.
You sound like you are set up for a bad time. If you don't absolutely have your heart set on having a 'prom' experience, good or not, think of something else you can spend your money on that you will definitely have a good time with.
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I don't prom, people at my school don't like me and i don't like people at my school so yeah.
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Shit is complicated.
Here in France, when the year comes to an end, nothing happens. Litteraly nothing.
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On April 21 2012 08:33 dAPhREAk wrote:
holy shit was that confusing. im glad im not in high school anymore.
Word.
Though highschool doesn't have to be such a pain in the ass. The way I see it, there are two options:
1) Go with the girl you already asked, be miserable all night, and spend a ton of cash that you probably can't afford to blow.
2) Don't go. Hang out with your friends that also aren't going. Have a great time for cheap.
I know everyone is telling you that you should go to prom, but you really don't have to. It's not special. If you skip it, you likely wont regret it (especially since you don't seemt that excited about it to begin with).
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Why make things simple when you can make them complicated... How about "Fuck it" and do something fun instead.
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Why do girls randomly stop texting all the time. It's such a common occurrence in these blogs.
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