I just went through a really tough breakup. The woman I loved didnt share mutual feelings for the longest time and now i feel somewhat betrayed. But its not the first time im going through a break up and eventually the cooldown periods get shorter since you dont have to "find yourself" everytime. Im pretty confident ive gotten there by now...

So, Im back on my feet now and getting back in there, but still, occasionally you get those nights where everything just feels pointless. Tonight was one of those nights, but to remind myself that its temporary I recorded a little spontaious message on repeat. Download and keep it if you like it...

http://soundcloud.com/kristofferelmqvist/kristoffer-elmqvist-note-to

/Kris

RogerX

New Zealand3180 Posts

April 14 2012 22:35 GMT

I'm feeling the same way right now, mate. But I have recovered a lot, you just have to give it time, do something to help you forget like being with friends or playing games. Stay strong, brother, stay strong.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 14 2012 22:40 GMT

ive had great support from my friends actually. My big problem is that im so divided in how i feel. She is a person that doesnt give love the way she took, but my feelings wont exactly just go away simple because of that. So basically i still love someone who neither is interested in being loved, nor actually deserves it (edit: from me, at this point. She is a wonderful person and one day she will be mature enough for a relationship aswell). I went all in on this one and got burned. At least i can hold my head high and say i dared taking the risk...

sinani206

United States1959 Posts

April 14 2012 22:42 GMT

Wow, this is really good. I suppose it's not only a note to self, but also a good way to take your mind off things.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 14 2012 22:46 GMT

On April 15 2012 07:42 sinani206 wrote:
Wow, this is really good. I suppose it's not only a note to self, but also a good way to take your mind off things.

Thanks, and yeah, its absolutelly a way to get through times like these - I would be totally depressed if i didnt have some kind of creative outlet. If it wasnt this, i would paint or build something, i dont know. But i feel privileged to have had the ambition to teach myself these digital audio workshops to forge sounds in them.

3FFA

United States3931 Posts

April 15 2012 00:35 GMT

writers often write about their hardships in stories. You should try it some time.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 15 2012 00:53 GMT

On April 15 2012 09:35 3FFA wrote:
writers often write about their hardships in stories. You should try it some time.

i work as a journalist and write a weekly column. I also currently work on a monster production, completelly separate from this little creative outburst i had tonight! I would post my stories here, but they kind of loose their edge when translated.

edit: i was just figuring wit this that mabye people like RogerX who are going through the same thing, could need a gentle reminder that you will be alright again, just give it some time.

Chef

10810 Posts

April 15 2012 00:57 GMT

Chin up, Starparty~ You know what they say about walking through storms.

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 15 2012 01:09 GMT

On April 15 2012 09:57 Chef wrote:
Chin up, Starparty~ You know what they say about walking through storms.

cheers man, and no, i have no idea, but i guess its something cheesy like "after rain comes sunshine"?

Tbh, i really just want to get into the dating scene again without dwelling too much on this. Im too old to be depressed over things that doesnt matter. Ive already done that, i came out on the other side and I dont have to do it again just because its "standard procedure" or something... So yeah, know any single women in the Stockholm region?

Chef

10810 Posts

April 15 2012 01:15 GMT

#10

Ya

That's a good attitude to have. Some people make a special effort to dwell forever, but if you just look forward it's pretty easy to leave the past behind, especially when you've taken a few hundred steps forward

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 15 2012 01:25 GMT

#11

On April 15 2012 10:15 Chef wrote:
Ya

That's a good attitude to have. Some people make a special effort to dwell forever, but if you just look forward it's pretty easy to leave the past behind, especially when you've taken a few hundred steps forward

Yeah, my problem at the minute is a limited supply of candidates since i am physically bound to my town for atleast a year or two more. I also dont have any real reason to leave here yet because its fine in all other aspects. But looking at experience, meeting someone to eventually fall in love with has always been totally random for me. For all i know, mabye 'she' lives next door and i dont know it.

3FFA

United States3931 Posts

April 15 2012 04:44 GMT

#12

Heck, I learned today that my neighbor that I argue a ton with actually had a family in Europe that was related to mine before immigrating to USA. Not telling him because I want to save it for when he finally attempts to sue my family :p

Starparty

Sweden1963 Posts

April 15 2012 09:30 GMT

#13

On April 15 2012 13:44 3FFA wrote:
Heck, I learned today that my neighbor that I argue a ton with actually had a family in Europe that was related to mine before immigrating to USA. Not telling him because I want to save it for when he finally attempts to sue my family :p

hhaha its a small world