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So I'm just asking this because I'm curious:
Is having a love partner seen as overrated ?
I hear that statement sometimes and also read about it in some blogs, but all I can interpret that as is that people saying stuff like that are just ranting because they're jealous i.e. they are incapable of having one themselves.
I personally believe that having a girlfriend represents a certain level of virtue and charm that a man has that made a girl fall for him.
This could be looks, skills, confidence, a combination of them, all of the previous, and more.
Not everybody can GET a lover, so it represents virtues that you have and others dont.
I also believe that having a relationship is a crucial part of life (for both old and young, but especially for the young) because it allows for the person to grow and mature mentally and physically. Through such relationships you can learn about people, society, and life.
Learning about man from books and science, I believe, is limited. This is because of first-hand experience; one who's never had a loving relationship before cannot understand the pain of having lost one, or the happiness of being together. When you talk with someone who's had a relationship and one who's never had one, there is a significant difference that you can notice immediately. There is a difference between experiencing something second-hand and feeling it to the bone first-hand, whether this is a good experience or a band one.
I think it is a good thing to have a loving relationship, and that people should be proud, just not TOO proud.
After all, man is naturally attracted to women, and vice-versa (and also man to man and woman to woman). Man is naturally prone to find a love partner, and care for the partner, and through this you can grow your sense of responsibility. Not to mention the physical and mental pleasures you enjoy while being in a relationship.
Of course, there are many other experiences that makes a man grow, like suffering from tragic happenings in life, or going to the army and enduring hardships and sufferings.
Instead of ranting, people who are looking for, but are incapable of, finding a partner should open up and ask for help, because there are always people who are willing to give a hand (although some are better than others).
Another reason why people might rant is because they've been hurt and betrayed by their ex. Hey, that's life, right ? Pick yourselves up and start living life again. You're not the first and only ones that have been hurt.
This is my theory anyways, supported by my own experience and own reasoning. I admit I might be wrong or biased. Just my take on the story.
There are of course, exceptions. Some people are naturally mature, have deep thoughts and understanding, without having to learn it first-hand.
What are your thoughts and takes on this ? Tackle away, this post is all yours to do so. I am expecting all sorts of reactions, no matter how brutal they get (Cuz trolls still exist right ? meh).
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Yes.
(i typed a bunch, but realized that it was a waste)
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Woman you can not live with them, and not without them. It's really all that simple.
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sharing your life with someone else is always a good thing. friends are great, but there is a level of intimacy you can never achieve with them. besides, eventually you want to get married, right?
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Yes. Pretty much end of story. However, there are people that have different personalities than myself, and they feel the opposite, and that's fine for them. I don't pretend to be the only archetype of personality, I just happen to have learned that commitment and close/intimate friendships are not something I care about.
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If you need to ask this question, the answer is most definitely no.
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tbh it depends on who you are and what you're looking for. some people absolutely want/need that intimacy while others do perfectly fine without them.
speaking from experience, I had a girlfriend a few years ago who I really really liked and the intimacy was felt really good. It's something that you can't really achieve with just platonic friends. Right now though, I really don't care about having a girlfriend due to a combination of being in college  and also being rather busy and focusing on other aspects of my life.
EDIT: stupid clown smiley...
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No, people who say having a girlfriend is overrated are jealous because they have no confidence.
That being said, I think having a girlfriend is overrated.
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depends how much you like arguing
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Depends on what kind you find,
Is having a girlfriend overrated? Yes.
Is finding your soulmate overrated? Not one bit.
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I've been in serious relationships and short flings. I've also been single for a while now, so take this with a grain of salt. Fuck being single. I enjoy going to sleep with a partner I can have sex with. Call yourself independent all you want, I can't imagine being happy permanently solo. (But hey, I'm not everyone, maybe you can do it)
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Yes. I've had various long-term and short-term relationships. They are really overrated as heck for the regular reasons people state. My motivation has been ya know having like a best best friend that you can get really intimate with. But besides that, yeah having a gf is overrated. :s
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depends on your relationship.
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Depends on the alternative options you could otherwise use the time and effort for.
This is true for everything you do, of course, so it isn't too helpful.
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You can see it both ways. For me, I just make up for my lack of relationships by achieving wealth. I may not have a girlfriend, but at least I'm rich.
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There is a small percentage of people who don't have any sexual feelings or need of intimacy, but that is very low. The majority of us yearn to have that special partner whether we want to admit it or not.
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Is having a job overrated? No.
A girl friend is the same thing, only you get paid in sex.
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On April 09 2012 15:29 Sinensis wrote:
Is having a job overrated? No.
A girl friend is the same thing, only you get paid in sex.
if you have a girlfriend you are paying for sex.
same thing as everything
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Wow at this post. Seriously you should really ask yourself that question out loud and hear how lame this topic is.
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