Hey guys;

Just wanted to give a little update from my previous girl blogs.

Long story short for new readers; I got heartbroken.. badly.. haha..
Became depressed and sought out a counsellor and to be honest, the thought of her has crept into my heard every single day since the last time I saw her (almost half a year ago). But it no longer makes me sad. It's just... an uncontrollable image that pops up.

Anyway;

I remember seeing a quote from Fight Club
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"It's only once we've lost everything; that we're free to do anything"

After finally being able to get up and out from under my blanket and bed, I started basically saying "YES" to everything.

Dance classes? Yes
Skating lessons? Yes
Acting in a play? Yes
Playing a sport I've never played before and with a team? (Volleyball) Yes
Riding the biggest roller coaster available in my city WITH my hands up in the air? Yes
Skydiving..? Yes

I was really sad in the moment of doing some of these things but when I look back at what I've done during the last few months.. I actually smile thinking about how I wasn't scared to participate in certain things anymore.

For example skydiving and riding a rollercoaster with my hands in the air. That may be nothing for some of you guys but for me.. I'm terrified of both things... but there was a thought in my head that I didn't care about... life anymore.. Not that I wanted to kill myself but at the moment, I remembered thinking.. "I just don't care anymore.. let's just do this"

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But once it started, I had the most fun ever..

I noticed a lot of girl blogs as always.. in the blog section of the site and I just wanted to say to anyone who's going through a rough patch right now that.. you're not alone. Whether it was your fault you're going through a break up.. or you were blind sided... it doesn't matter.

Breakup pain is breakup pain..
But there's beauty in this type of darkness.

Just like a bow and arrow. You have to be pulled back in order to be shot a long distance.

Use this momentum.. and just say yes;;; Put yourself out there even if you are still depressed. Just keep going.. keep pressing play, keep pressing play..

Even though my experience wasn't as nice as this videos... I really hope you guys try skydiving out. It's a memory I won't forget. =)

Arterial

Australia1039 Posts

April 03 2012 02:08 GMT

I haven't read your other blogs.

But here's some solid advice: she crushed your heart, you crush her head.

Probulous

Australia3894 Posts

April 03 2012 02:17 GMT

Skydiving man

So good, just so, so, so good. I have never felt so free. Damn, I want to jump again, so expensive >_>

Misanthrope

United States924 Posts

April 03 2012 02:21 GMT

This is exactly the right mindset to have! It always takes time to get over emotional pain, and the healing process can be rough because it's not as easy to understand as physical pain. But fighting to get 'you' back is also one of the most rewarding experiences you can get through. Once you've grown out of that pain, you are better able to handle it next time and that gives you the confidence to tackle life will full force once again!

divito

Canada1213 Posts

April 03 2012 02:30 GMT

Almost everything from Fight Club can be useful. People get lost in some of the more shallow aspects of it, and don't even realize or care to notice the existentialism and nihilism present by which everything makes a lot more sense. That's really the way to be.

Just want to say congrats, and enjoy! Sounds like you're going to have some good times ahead.

ghrur

United States3786 Posts

April 03 2012 03:16 GMT

You know, this reminds me of that Day[9] Daily where he talks about how he loves breaking up because of the indulgences and self-pity afterwards. Hahaha. Eat that ice cream man!

Suichoy

Canada397 Posts

April 03 2012 03:20 GMT

Great blog man, thanks.

bokeevboke

Singapore1674 Posts

April 03 2012 03:42 GMT

being heartbroken - the worst thing I've ever experienced. Its already 8 years since then, but I feel I didn't recover and never will. She was the one I supposed to be with, but I lost her and its greatest regret of my life. fml.

Silentness

United States2821 Posts

April 03 2012 03:47 GMT

On April 03 2012 12:42 bokeevboke wrote:
being heartbroken - the worst thing I've ever experienced. Its already 8 years since then, but I feel I didn't recover and never will. She was the one I supposed to be with, but I lost her and its greatest regret of my life. fml.

I'm sorry to hear that.
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I'm just glad that all of my ex girlfriends were bitches so I don't have any regrets / miss them. I'm glad that they are gone. I'm happily married now and I don't regret breaking up with any of my ex GFs. I was heartbroken for a day until I moved onto the next woman.

Golgotha

Korea (South)8418 Posts

April 03 2012 04:45 GMT

#10

this is great man! what a nice follow up. good luck in your future endeavors.

xJacky

China375 Posts

April 03 2012 05:11 GMT

#11

I'm glad to hear about that. I'm 17 and there's a lot of things I want to do in life... travel, meet lots of people. How much did your trip to Dubai cost?

obesechicken13

United States10467 Posts

April 03 2012 05:35 GMT

#12

Cool. There's always good and bad in everything I guess.

psychopat

Canada417 Posts

April 03 2012 14:36 GMT

#13

I took a similar approach when I got dumped... Yes to (almost) everything! It's amazing how much good putting yourself out of your typical comfort zone does. In my case, I met a ton of good friends, got way healthier, lost 30 pounds of fat then put on 20 pounds of muscle, met a better gamer girlfriend, made a ton of money that I wouldn't have, etc. To top it all off, she even hinted at wanting to come crawling back.

... I did stay away from bungie & skydiving though. My cousin died doing the former. No need to potentially put the family through something like that again for a 5-second adrenaline rush.

junemermaid

United States981 Posts

April 03 2012 15:21 GMT

#14

On April 03 2012 11:08 Arterial wrote:
I haven't read your other blogs.

But here's some solid advice: she crushed your heart, you crush her head.

lmao.

as for the OP: grats on finally picking your life up and moving on