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Roffles *
Profile Blog Joined April 2007
Pitcairn19291 Posts
October 21 2011 05:04 GMT
#1
Do you ever get this thought that you're putting too much thought into everything you do, everything you say? I say this because I feel anxious, worried about the repercussions of every action I take. When someone asks me a question, I usually digest it and immediately think about what I want to say. Then instead of blurting it out, I stop to take an extra second and brainstorm what could happen if I were to say it.

Everyday, I feel more and more risk averse and more pessimistic about myself in general. The constant fear, the constant worry is plaguing me, and it's starting to get into my head. I'd typically classify myself as a very calm person, with not much worry about anything. Nowadays, I feel really fucking paranoid and scared of anything I do, anything I say.

Every time I've stepped into a room with an interviewer this year, I've pretty much broken down when they've asked me questions. I seem to have the ability to make even the easiest questions into difficult questions. Instead of freely chatting, I think too much about how the interviewer can interpret my answer in a negative way, which leads to me stuttering quite a bit and confused as to what I should say. It carries over into daily life too, where I don't even have the confidence to say what I'd normally say because I'm afraid of something. I don't know what's wrong. I just feel worried, anxious, stressed, scared.

The same time last year, I was having no problems with any of this. I walked into each interview and gave it my best and usually walked out very content with how I did. I had no problems talking with people because I wasn't worried or scared. I could be myself and feel good about it. Nowadays, I even have problems talking to my roommates that I've known for years because I want to say certain things, but I'm afraid of ruining certain dynamics or whatever bullshit I keep telling myself.

Anyone experience anything similar before? How do I get myself out of this conundrum?

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God Bless
Rekrul
Profile Blog Joined November 2002
Korea (South)17174 Posts
October 21 2011 05:08 GMT
#2
Nothing matters.

"Why did you do that man....?"

"...?...Because why the FUCK not."
why so 진지해?
RageOverdose
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States690 Posts
October 21 2011 05:10 GMT
#3
I'm the same way. It's actually probably causing me to be depressed.

But I think that one of my biggest problems is that I never actually think about what I'm going to say before a conversation starts and I never ask for feedback from people I know. So I really have no confidence that I'm learning anything or that I have a solid answer. I'd probably have just that little bit more I would need if I would just rehearse things days before I do them.

I am in a similar boat as you, I was actually just about to blog about it but, lo and behold, I thought too much about what I was saying and refreshed the blogs and bam, here this is. So I guess it isn't all bad. Still, I haven't had the chance to work on this so I don't know if what I'm saying is even helpful.

So all I can say is that you aren't alone, but I, unfortunately, can't provide a solid answer.
Spiffeh
Profile Joined May 2010
United States830 Posts
October 21 2011 05:13 GMT
#4
I have the opposite problem. I just flow, and even if it sounds retarded, I go with it.
Megaliskuu
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
United States5123 Posts
October 21 2011 05:13 GMT
#5
I find that I think about things too much after they happen, rather than before, thinking about all the different things I could have said and their outcomes, and the result of those outcomes.

But really its just outside stress yo, permeates into every facet of your life, makes everything harder. Whats on your mind roffles?
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Serejai
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
6007 Posts
October 21 2011 05:19 GMT
#6
I completely agree with you. Here's an example:

I was playing a game of Starcraft II a while ago. It was a small tournament and my match wasn't coming up for a while but still I spent the entire half hour before my game planning. My choice of action was very simple: cannon rush. Yet it took me half an hour going over all the pros and cons, weighing my chances, prodding the outcome, and wondering if I was making a mistake.

Finally it was time for my match, I cannon rushed, and I defeated my opponent (who happened to ling rush me as well). It really made me feel like all of my planning was for nothing because I could've just stopped at my gut instinct.

But yes, you over-analyze things. I do it myself as well. Anything that I take in, be it words, visuals, sounds... I'm always thinking ten steps ahead on what's going to happen. Because of this I've developed a fear of things such as flying, riding in cars with other people, etc. I don't think it's generally a bad thing to think too much on something... but it does have some bad moments. Planes, for example... I'm not afraid of flying. In fact I find it to be quite enjoyable. Here's where the problem kicks in: control.

I'm not the pilot. I have zero control over the plane. Normally this wouldn't matter... but since I'm always putting too much thought into everything my mind is already on scenarios where the plane is crashing. See, if I'm driving this doesn't bother me. I see a car in front of me and I immediately start to plan out my course of actions should the driver slam on the breaks, swerve into my lane, randomly explode, drivers starts shooting at me... etc. And it's fine because I'm in control and I know exactly how I would react to any of those situations which actually makes me feel better. In the case of the plane there's nothing I could do so it freaks me out and unfortunately I can't seem to convince myself not to analyze everything.

I'm pretty open online but I break down in face to face conversations. I guess it's because I have time when talking online to analyze the situation a bit before responding. In real life I don't get that pause so I'm trying to talk about the present while thinking about the future and it doesn't work out.

I really don't know what you can do to get over it, though. Yeah... it stresses me out and causes me to worry a lot but I guess it hasn't bothered me enough to really care just yet. I've just gotten used to it I suppose.
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Endymion
Profile Blog Joined November 2009
United States3701 Posts
October 21 2011 05:19 GMT
#7
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders
Have you considered the MMO-Champion forum? You are just as irrational and delusional with the right portion of nostalgic populism. By the way: The old Brood War was absolutely unplayable
Miss_Cleo
Profile Joined March 2010
United States406 Posts
October 21 2011 05:22 GMT
#8
On October 21 2011 14:19 Endymion wrote:
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders

unless you're asian like me and get the dreaded "glow"
Serejai
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
6007 Posts
October 21 2011 05:23 GMT
#9
On October 21 2011 14:22 Miss_Cleo wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 21 2011 14:19 Endymion wrote:
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders

unless you're asian like me and get the dreaded "glow"


I thought you were black? Or Jamaican or something. You have a really good makeup artist if you're asian, though. I can't even tell in any of your commercials.
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infinity21 *
Profile Blog Joined October 2006
Canada6683 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-21 05:26:23
October 21 2011 05:24 GMT
#10
Do your thinking after the interview. It's like getting better at sc. Pick a plan and go with it in the game regardless of what might happen. After the game, analyze what went wrong and how you can improve yourself. Look at what you did right and how you can do it even better next time. Interviews will keep coming, and as long as you do better than the last, you'll find a job.

On October 21 2011 14:19 Endymion wrote:
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders

I strongly disagree with this unless you know 100% that you will not be asked any technical questions.
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ironchef
Profile Blog Joined August 2004
Canada1350 Posts
October 21 2011 05:24 GMT
#11
Yeah something similar for me. I dont worry at the time before, but afterwards I start wondering if I phrased it right, or how it could be misunderstood(negatively). Then next time I get a bit more cautious and usually just shut up unless its important.

I dont know the solution other than adopting a different mentality (easier said than done). Also it helps to keep busy/engaged so your mind doesnt wander on pointless things. That said, if your worrying is justified (eg terrible interview, communication skills maybe working on those skills could boost your confidence.
“Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.” - Marcus Aurelius
Ropid
Profile Joined March 2009
Germany3557 Posts
October 21 2011 05:25 GMT
#12
Well, sometimes the brain is just a bit broken and not working correctly, like in puberty or depression, and thinking logically does not change anything about what situations the brain decides to classify as worthy to be anxious about. Try comparing your typical days last year, when you were fine, to this year. When searching for a probable cause, the difference does not have to make sense. Perhaps it is something that sounds stupid, like different food or different sleeping schedule or sports.
"My goal is to replace my soul with coffee and become immortal."
Endymion
Profile Blog Joined November 2009
United States3701 Posts
October 21 2011 05:25 GMT
#13
On October 21 2011 14:23 Serejai wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 21 2011 14:22 Miss_Cleo wrote:
On October 21 2011 14:19 Endymion wrote:
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders

unless you're asian like me and get the dreaded "glow"


I thought you were black? Or Jamaican or something. You have a really good makeup artist if you're asian, though. I can't even tell in any of your commercials.

wait, is that kelly milkis?
Have you considered the MMO-Champion forum? You are just as irrational and delusional with the right portion of nostalgic populism. By the way: The old Brood War was absolutely unplayable
Serejai
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
6007 Posts
October 21 2011 05:27 GMT
#14
On October 21 2011 14:25 Endymion wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 21 2011 14:23 Serejai wrote:
On October 21 2011 14:22 Miss_Cleo wrote:
On October 21 2011 14:19 Endymion wrote:
just take a shot before you go into the interview, it works wonders

unless you're asian like me and get the dreaded "glow"


I thought you were black? Or Jamaican or something. You have a really good makeup artist if you're asian, though. I can't even tell in any of your commercials.

wait, is that kelly milkis?


No, Milkis does the GSL casts. Miss Cleo is a psychic.
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infinity21 *
Profile Blog Joined October 2006
Canada6683 Posts
October 21 2011 05:33 GMT
#15
And it's perfectly fine to take a moment before answering a question but being prepared for common questions helps tremendously. Before going into the interview, have a game plan. You've read the job description -- what's your angle? How are you going to sell yourself? How do your strengths and weaknesses match up with the job? Should you brush up on something before the interview? Have a list of questions to ask the interviewer. This is massively important!!!11!

Don't think too much about what if I say this and that. Just answer the question honestly and if it made you look like an idiot, try to recover as best you can at the interview and don't say it next time. It's as simple as that.

I was actually told in an interview today that I don't seem introverted. That's a huge compliment for me since I used to choke a lot in interviews but being prepared and having some interview experience got me relaxed and I was able to bring my A-game.
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Gak2
Profile Joined September 2010
Canada418 Posts
October 21 2011 05:36 GMT
#16
interesting post. I have the same problem. Especially with small talk - I think about something to say, then realize it's completely meaningless to say it. So I try to think of something else, and that takes a little while then it gets to a period of some awkward silence.
It impresses me how some people can just take part in any conversation and say something either not stupid or witty or really insightful almost immediately - one of the guys that impresses me the most is Day9. I honestly can't do that... and if I try my best it doesn't usually sound as good as i'd like. Still, I'm a pretty shy guy so I guess being a good talker comes with practice.

Also, it got me thinking that in most social situations, most people don't care what you say. They just care that you have something to say. Maybe people don't think you're confident enough, not speaking the truth, or they're impatient, or they just get bored.
Deezl
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States355 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-21 05:39:51
October 21 2011 05:37 GMT
#17
Have confidence in your answers through adopting a sound philosophy of life that will make you and those around you happier. Have confidence that your actions will speak to this philosophy by developing your character. And finally, speak candidly with friends and people you trust about your concerns, so that intelligent people can weigh in on the weight of your actions.

Your philosophy is the thinking you have done before you act, so that when you act, your actions will speak true.
Three hundred lives of men I have walked this world, and now I have no time.
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-21 05:51:39
October 21 2011 05:47 GMT
#18
Yes, actually.

I've been doing it since the end of grade school, but the motivation is different. I don't do it out of fear, but rather so I can get the answer and relationship I want with the person.

After awhile, you go through the process fast enough to not even take that extra second. Essentially you just ask "why would they say or ask this" and then you give the appropriate answer based on that analysis. If you figure out the why, the wording becomes a lot more open because you know which word-path to take and thus can feel more comfortable with your words and not fear misinterpretation.

This will further engage conversations, keep the focus on the person, etc. etc. I think Dale Carnegie loosely advises the same thing, but in an overall manner. You gain a lot of acquaintances and friends by maintaining the interest on them rather than yourself.

It sounds like you're insecure in your ability to articulate rather than your power to analyze things properly and assess a situation as you should.

edit: adding more.

Right, so my first question to you was there a time between before and now that betrayed your trust or a situation that blew up in your face despite your good intentions? If not, it just sounds you're more worried about the outcome of situations and your life rather than paying attention to the interview and breaking down the moment so you can easily ingest. Are you worried at all about your future (more than you'd usually be)? Do you fear not getting a job or ending up being financially in a pickle (we all worry about it, but when it seems more imminent or approaching, this could cloud your thoughts and cause you to subconsciously fail)?
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Roffles *
Profile Blog Joined April 2007
Pitcairn19291 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-21 05:52:10
October 21 2011 05:49 GMT
#19
On October 21 2011 14:47 Torte de Lini wrote:
Yes, actually.

I've been doing it since the end of grade school, but the motivation is different. I don't do it out of fear, but rather so I can get the answer and relationship I want with the person.

After awhile, you go through the process fast enough to not even take that extra second. Essentially you just ask "why would they say or ask this" and then you give the appropriate answer based on that analysis. If you figure out the why, the wording becomes a lot more open because you know which word-path to take and thus can feel more comfortable with your words and not fear misinterpretation.

This will further engage conversations, keep the focus on the person, etc. etc. I think Dale Carnegie loosely advises the same thing, but in an overall manner. You gain a lot of acquaintances and friends by maintaining the interest on them rather than yourself.

It sounds like you're insecure in your ability to articulate rather than your power to analyze things properly and assess a situation as you should. How do you usually feel about yourself in front of others? Do you find yourself to be a rather suave and normal guy or do you fold under pressure and generally socially inhibited?

It seems like you haven't read the post at all, as I tell you I normally had no problems communicating before just recently.

I'm fine when it comes to articulation. I just have doubts before I even speak because I have these filters that trigger telling me, "Man, that's a stupid thing to say" or "You know, that's not something you should say". So I eventually settle with a really conservative approach or stumble because I can't think of something else to say on the spot.
God Bless
Torte de Lini
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
Germany38463 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-10-21 05:53:00
October 21 2011 05:51 GMT
#20
Yeah, I just edited it, my bad (When I speed-read, I go by Bill Cosby's way of reading. With problems, I read the core issue than spiral from the inside out to the surrounding variables or situation).
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