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cAPS
United States153 Posts
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
GO ALL IN PUSSY | ||
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Yung
United States727 Posts
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Probe1
United States17920 Posts
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Dee-Kej
Sweden191 Posts
 ) and remember; you're the one who will face the consequences, you're the one who knows her (better then anyone here that is) and ultimately probably knows best what to do.Gl Hf ♥ | ||
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cAPS
United States153 Posts
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Gprime
Canada198 Posts
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
On September 03 2011 17:59 Probe1 wrote: No offense but are you lying about the casually dating other women part? Mostly when I hear that it's a cop out. Better just go all in. Don't need to cover it up. You're a real man if you go all in. | ||
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Sarasin
Canada109 Posts
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Archerylady
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MisterD
Germany1338 Posts
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Roe
Canada6002 Posts
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Earll
Norway847 Posts
 )But fiirst of all, come to realize that love is just some chemicals in your body, that for whatever reason has made you incredibly attracted to this girl. There is most likely thousands upon thousands of girls out there who might be a better match for you than this girl. (not saying she is a bad match ,just that there are billions of females on the planet, the chance of you accidently bumping into the "best match" on the planet is incredibly low.) 'Love' is not some magical fairy tail and even though it might seem like she is the only girl in the world you could ever want, if you put yourself out there and meet other girls you will (depending on how often you meet new girls =p) pretty quickly find someone else to fill the void who might at a later point seem just as awesome\more awesome.Anyway, if she already turned you down and said she just wants to be friends, and has a boyfriend, your chances of success are pretty slim anyway, unless she has superduper feelings for you too (which I guess she might.) But just going the ultimatum way is bad for the overall chance of success. That being said, if you think it might potentially fuck up your chance of meeting other women\life in general because you are living in an enternal friendzone with someone you 'love' you are better off just giving her an ultimatum and saying fuck your lameass boyfriend we both know I am the new kid in town so let this show hit the road. A plan that probably has higher chance of success is just start flirting with her a fuckton more. Be more physical, get more eye contact, overall just be more.. flirtacious with her. If you live together and she has 'feelings' for you, getting her to a) cheat or b) dump her boyfriend in favor of you should not require that much from you, you just need to bring it out in her sort of. | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On September 03 2011 19:14 MisterD wrote: ILOVEKITTENS to the rescue! Sorry to ruin the party but he's banned. | ||
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pyrogenetix
China5098 Posts
Don't live your life trying to impress her unless you really don't care about her that much. Then you should have her as a friend and really just do whatever you want and see if you meet someone better. Only you know what to do. | ||
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Probe1
United States17920 Posts
On September 03 2011 19:30 FractalsOnFire wrote: Sorry to ruin the party but he's banned. I can ask him next time he's in irc what he should do. Look, if your soon to be roommate is important to you, I mean really important, then we shouldn't discuss it. You should ask her out. If it's just a feeling and you aren't sure about how much you want to date her then go be with those other girls that are interested. It isn't as difficult as you are making it. If you love her then date her. If you don't then don't screw up a friendship and potential roommate, not to mention her feelings. If I were you I'd date her! Edit: That's my last post and I've fulfilled my 1/1 quota for girl blogs this month. See you all in October :D | ||
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Enderbantoo
United States465 Posts
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HuK
Canada1591 Posts
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iTzSnypah
United States1738 Posts
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Deezl
United States355 Posts
1) Boyfriend-like attention, which means she doesnt really need the real thing. 2) A reason to contemplate all the reasons she has for sticking it out with her current bf. 3) A source of drama with ex-bff girl. Dating another girl allots you multiple good ending scenarios. Not only do you instigate that primal attraction that girls feel when boys they are close too pull in another direction, but you may also alleviate a lot of the stress that your feelings cause on yourself, you wont be masturbating about her so much, etc. I understand that jealousy as a strategy is shitty, but what you're doing now is really unfair to her. It will likely result in you getting 'played' accidentally; she almost commits to you but decides its not right and you get dragged along by a thread while her and her bf go through massive fights. At the end of the month she just kind of stops talking to you because you are a source of pain for her rather than a comfort. The whole reason for this is because you went balls-out for the gold without thinking about her feelings. You have to change the nature of the situation. So eat the friend zoneage, branch out. Don't be as sweet to her as usual, and make another girl breakfast in her place. | ||
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JDizz6688
United States177 Posts
On September 03 2011 21:13 Deezl wrote: Go date another woman, and hit the gym. She will immediately and directly be more on your D. Right now youre giving her a couple of things: 1) Boyfriend-like attention, which means she doesnt really need the real thing. 2) A reason to contemplate all the reasons she has for sticking it out with her current bf. 3) A source of drama with ex-bff girl. Dating another girl allots you multiple good ending scenarios. Not only do you instigate that primal attraction that girls feel when boys they are close too pull in another direction, but you may also alleviate a lot of the stress that your feelings cause on yourself, you wont be masturbating about her so much, etc. I understand that jealousy as a strategy is shitty, but what you're doing now is really unfair to her. It will likely result in you getting 'played' accidentally; she almost commits to you but decides its not right and you get dragged along by a thread while her and her bf go through massive fights. At the end of the month she just kind of stops talking to you because you are a source of pain for her rather than a comfort. The whole reason for this is because you went balls-out for the gold without thinking about her feelings. You have to change the nature of the situation. So eat the friend zoneage, branch out. Don't be as sweet to her as usual, and make another girl breakfast in her place. this guy is a genius | ||
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lungo
Denmark276 Posts
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pred470r
Bulgaria3265 Posts
On September 03 2011 21:13 Deezl wrote: Go date another woman, and hit the gym. She will immediately and directly be more on your D. Right now youre giving her a couple of things: 1) Boyfriend-like attention, which means she doesnt really need the real thing. 2) A reason to contemplate all the reasons she has for sticking it out with her current bf. 3) A source of drama with ex-bff girl. Dating another girl allots you multiple good ending scenarios. Not only do you instigate that primal attraction that girls feel when boys they are close too pull in another direction, but you may also alleviate a lot of the stress that your feelings cause on yourself, you wont be masturbating about her so much, etc. I understand that jealousy as a strategy is shitty, but what you're doing now is really unfair to her. It will likely result in you getting 'played' accidentally; she almost commits to you but decides its not right and you get dragged along by a thread while her and her bf go through massive fights. At the end of the month she just kind of stops talking to you because you are a source of pain for her rather than a comfort. The whole reason for this is because you went balls-out for the gold without thinking about her feelings. You have to change the nature of the situation. So eat the friend zoneage, branch out. Don't be as sweet to her as usual, and make another girl breakfast in her place. I've never seen wisdom in a purer form before. | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
On September 2011 EVERYONE!!! wrote: All in. What has starcraft 2 done to you all?!? | ||
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mptj
United States485 Posts
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Hot_Bid
Braavos36402 Posts
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
Ask her now or Ask her later. The situation will most likely be the same later, so you might as well do it now. I'm not an expert on love matters, though, so take any advice with a grain of salt. | ||
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Probe1
United States17920 Posts
edit Morfildur get out of the way. | ||
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Hikko
United States1126 Posts
On September 04 2011 00:42 Hot_Bid wrote: 1-1-1 her plz Oh.... | ||
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goiflin
Canada1218 Posts
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