personal experience w/ gender confusion - Page 2

Revolt

United States288 Posts

August 25 2011 12:41 GMT

#21

so, basically, your letting other people lead you around in life?

youre gardener and cook. who fuck cares?
half the people i meet cant garden, nor cook.
if they have something negative to say about something
productive, then you really shouldnt take their criticism.

lust? my story is the same as you in that area.
my libido really decreased when i came to a conclusion
that i should really just look for one woman, as opposed to just satisfying my desire.

Kontemptuous

Australia132 Posts

August 25 2011 12:49 GMT

#22

On August 25 2011 16:15 Atticus.axl wrote:
One of the best possible paths to take for someone in your shoes is to continue talking to members of the trans community about their experiences. More importantly, try to communicate to them what you're going through, and see if their experience was something similar.

I agree with this^

If you choose not to associate yourself with a gender/don't really care about gender binary, that's totally fine. Different people want different things in life and if you're happy just being comfortable with yourself, then more power to you

Though your depression and lack of sex drive are things you might want to see a counsellor for or something (you did say you weren't looking for therapy, sorry; just saying).

However, if later on, you ever feel you want to rethink this:

On August 25 2011 09:40 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
The first and most obvious is that making a physical transformation from one sex to the other is an arduous and difficult task and given my size of 6'3 and broad shouldered frame I would probably never achieve a state of physical attractiveness that I found comfortable
....
and I would be severely limiting my relationship opportunities and putting a huge dent in my potential sex life.
I have no particular desire to be anything.

Know that if she can do it, so can you.

bonifaceviii

Canada2890 Posts

August 25 2011 12:55 GMT

#23

Based on what was written in the OP I think you're just a straight guy into cross-dressing, not a full-blown case of "girl in a guy's body". Yet.

Gender transition is a really, really big deal with severe physical consequences whereas dressing in drag and acting like a woman isn't. Try that out for a while and see how it fits; don't jump directly to the end game.

DoctorHelvetica

United States15034 Posts

August 26 2011 02:22 GMT

#24

I never felt any resentment or ultimate dissatisfaction with being a physical male but I've always felt life would simply be easier if I were a female instead. I don't think I would ever go through a physical transformation.

fusionsdf

Canada15390 Posts

September 07 2011 03:15 GMT

#25

On August 25 2011 11:06 StarStruck wrote:
There is nothing wrong with being an effeminate male. Same can be said about being asexual.

D.H. I think he's trying to say your still young. But, I'd say your pretty mature for your age.

very young, and these kind of questions/identity crisis by nature force you to be mature. I've yet to meet a trans person not mature for their age.

As an aside, please people don't confuse sexuality with gender. Just because you are a trans woman does not mean you need to be attracted to men. Just like non trans women can be lesbians, bi, asexual etc, so can trans women (and men). There is no one way to be trans.

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