EPTThanks to the people who helped talking to me haha.
Why are girls so hard to understand?!
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
Thanks to the people who helped talking to me haha. | ||
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:36 krndandaman wrote: from what I can see, she probably does not like you but the best way to find out is to ask her. seriously i know seriously. Its gonna be very difficult for me to ask her cause i'm really nervous about and shy. I just wanted other people's opinions and stuff... | ||
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Raz0r
United States287 Posts
Btw, Korean Americans FTW! | ||
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kollin
United Kingdom8380 Posts
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TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
Plant one on her and see how it goes. What do you have to lose, some tease who's wasting your time? Sounds like a good deal to me! | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:39 Raz0r wrote: I'd say go for it. Just play it confident,(not cocky) even if you aren't. Obviously be yourself too, if you have to be someone else just to be with this girl then you aren't a match. Don't read into things too much, just do what you can do at the time, and if you find out she doesn't like you or you read her wrong, its all cool. Yes it would be disappointing, but just try to still be her friend and get some experience with hanging out with girls. Btw, Korean Americans FTW! korea americans ftw thanks ^^. haha. I have to be confident before i even come close to being cocky  | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:41 TheGiz wrote: Plant one on her and see how it goes. What do you have to lose, some tease who's wasting your time? Sounds like a good deal to me! A very uncomfortable violation of a friends personal space? Sounds like a good plan to me  | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:45 n.DieJokes wrote: A very uncomfortable violation of a friends personal space? Sounds like a good plan to me uncomfortable? | ||
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god_forbids
United States111 Posts
Then things should be pretty clear, no? If things don't work out you can still say you had fun hanging out with your friend from your (former?) church. | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
Sorry man, that's just how I read it | ||
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Rev0lution
United States1805 Posts
Then kiss her and ask her to be your girlfriend, 100% to work man. | ||
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AbstractVoid
United States127 Posts
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
oh hell no :D but i will call it a violation. a very nice violation | ||
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:51 god_forbids wrote: Look the answer to the question is not as important as what you want to do with that information. Let's say she likes you. You gonna ask her out? Alright. How about if we random internet people think she doesn't like you? Will that keep you from asking her out? The answer is really irrelevant to what you need to do here, which is man up and ask the girl out so you can see how she acts with you one-on-one. Then things should be pretty clear, no? If things don't work out you can still say you had fun hanging out with your friend from your (former?) church. you have a point. the thing is that its just a personal thing. I am very nervous about it and i just wanted to talk to other people about and say it. kinda weird habit of mine sorry | ||
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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DeepCorrupted
United States84 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:59 krndandaman wrote: no... dont buy jewelry for a girl if she's not even your gf yet you're gonna regret using that money unless you're a rich bastard though. edit: Nope definately not a rich bastard nope. | ||
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jacosajh
2919 Posts
Ask her (how discreetly you want to be is up to you, you know her better than I do) if she's ever thought about being more than friends with you. Don't just come out and say it. Plan it well. Ask her to go hang out at your house, walk in the park, etc. And then subtly bring it up. You can simply say, "So, I've been thinking about something, and I was just wondering..." Do not go anywhere you can't really talk (i.e. the movies, a sports game, etc.) but also not somewhere that puts pressure on her, like a fancy restaurant, etc. Make it clear what you're conveying. Don't beat around the bush, but again, don't be pushy. If she says yes (which I think she will, based on what you described), I'm sure you can take it from there. If she says no, just take it as that, and move on. Sure, things can get awkward, but just ignore it and play it cool, and you can continue to be great friends. If she says no, and starts acting weird, you probably don't want to be long-term friends with her anyways. The simplicity is that you can either keep wasting your time and keep wondering about it, or you can find out so you can either continue to pursue something or keep going about your business. I'm not going to be generic and say "you have nothing to lose." Because you do. If you don't play it well, or if she's crazy like that, you can lose a friend. It does happen, and some pseudo-macho-men might say "Whatever, who cares." But personally, I think that is a load of crap, and even if they don't really care, obviously you do, or else this wouldn't be as complicated as you feel it is. The better perspective in my opinion is that you have something to lose, but you find out exactly what it is that you lose if things don't work out. After some years of dating and having similar experiences in between, and now having found the one, I wish I would've acted like this from the beginning. Sure would've saved me a lot of time and money at the psychologist's office. J/k about the last part. | ||
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TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
On June 21 2011 01:45 n.DieJokes wrote: A very uncomfortable violation of a friends personal space? Sounds like a good plan to me So when you kiss a girl on a date is she disgusted by your violation of her personal space? It's a kiss, she'll get over it. There is no foreseeable loss to this situation. In high school I confessed my attraction to a female friend who flat-out rejected me and is now dating my cousin rather indefinitely. She's one of my closest personal friends and confidants. Does that moment from 1, 2... SEVEN years ago affect our relationship? Nope. Of course I'd still date her at the drop of a hat, but I don't fawn over her and it's not like that makes our relationship awkward in the least. | ||
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Kutsuki
United States29 Posts
I might say some things you don't want to hear but from what I've read, you have known this girl for a while. You have not made any advances to progress your relationship so you are in the friend zone. You will have to make a "ladder jump". Most people kiss within the first 3 dates. Since you are already her friend, I would recommend asking her if she likes you through a kiss. I think every man makes the mistake of "asking" her if she likes him. Talking her into liking you is very unlikely and all men will make that mistake at least once in their life. Take her out to a nice dinner and then followed by dessert. At the end of your date, call out her name to get her attention, look into her eyes, look at her lips, and then look back into her eyes and then kiss her on the lips. You will get a clear answer, she will most likely allow you to kiss her, most girls are too shy to refuse, if it was never meant to be then she'll refuse. If she does decline, you can simply respond with "Well, I still think you're a fun person and it would be cool if we could still be friends". Remember, she is always going to be a girl before she is korean. | ||
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