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On June 17 2011 03:25 Torte de Lini wrote:Show nested quote +I can think of all sorts of problems from her perspective of why an older person wouldn't want to date younger Can you list some? The idea of "he's still in school" doesn't ring any sort of problems off the bat for me.
in reply to your post above mine...
I agree with Torte. Just don't be a college crazy-fuck or a bum and you'll be fine. At this point you're just giving yourself excuses and or things to worry about for no reason other than to worry about them.
why don't you TRY getting to a relationship point BEFORE you start giving yourself silly reasons to worry about things. :p
Edit: can we permaban Torte when his posts reach 0? It'd be fun.
Also my icon is still better than yours, even if it's a worthless air unit.
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It's really the stages of life that become an issue. If you're still a young adult and the other has an established family (children) a fully-fledged career and a house of their own, there's a big gap between the two of you. Age is the physical presence of it, but its really the fact that you're just starting to flap your wings and the other has settled on her nest and knows the sky.
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On June 17 2011 03:26 ch33psh33p wrote:
As for problems, I just feel like someone out of college might be looking for something they don't see someone in college as having.
That 'something' could be a variety of things, but the most common thing someone out of college has that someone in college usually doesn't is a job i.e. financial independence.
But your OP doesn't provide a whole lot of information; there are many factors to make a relationship work, and while current lifestyle is a big one, it's not the only thing.
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On June 17 2011 03:30 Torenhire wrote:Show nested quote +On June 17 2011 03:25 Torte de Lini wrote:I can think of all sorts of problems from her perspective of why an older person wouldn't want to date younger Can you list some? The idea of "he's still in school" doesn't ring any sort of problems off the bat for me. in reply to your post above mine... I agree with Torte. Just don't be a college crazy-fuck or a bum and you'll be fine. At this point you're just giving yourself excuses and or things to worry about for no reason other than to worry about them. why don't you TRY getting to a relationship point BEFORE you start giving yourself silly reasons to worry about things. :p Edit: can we permaban Torte when his posts reach 0? It'd be fun. Also my icon is still better than yours, even if it's a worthless air unit.
Mmm, point taken. I'm just worried about nothing. =D
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Would love to hear how it comes out for you. When do you see her next?
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It'll probably be a gradual process, but we work on the same floor.
So everyday?
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Oh wtf, you're co-workers and work on the same floor but you're fearful of ages even though you guys are on the same socioeconomic level (in terms of employment).
H'aw, you're just nervous~
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Alright, OP, we're going to take an imaginary journey. Imagine yourself walking through the depths of your mind. Hopefully it's not a scary place  . Now, look around and see if you can find the personification of these skiddish feelings you blogged about (like a greyish version of yourself that's acting timid). Found him? Great! Kick him in the pants!
You're thinking too much. Stop. This kind of an age gap isn't a big deal.
Last year I was 23 and started dating a 20-year-old. Age was only ever a difference if I was at a bar.
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My girlfriend is 4 years older than me, it doens't matter. At all. Approach it without taking age into consideration.
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Just ignore the age difference, its a non issue, she either likes you or she doesn't. However do try to be too much of a "friend". So do let her know you fancy her.
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Largely echo what was said earlier. At your age, the three years only makes a difference by how it translates to accomplishment, maturity, beliefs, worldviews, etc. If you're reasonably compatible in those respects, the only way this can affect you is if you let it show up in your behavior/thinking. Or if she's shallow about such things (e.g. fob asian). Be brave and just go for itttttt
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Will GO FOR IT.
Nothing to lose =D
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On June 17 2011 04:54 ch33psh33p wrote:
Will GO FOR IT.
Nothing to lose =D
Well you work in the same place... (the doubt has been planted again) 
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Exactly.
Treat it as a non-issue like others have said.
Think of yourselves as the same age and act accordingly.
Seems like you are mature enough that she likes you anyways.
Also you guys have the same-ish job is a big + in your favour
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On June 17 2011 04:57 Kralic wrote:Well you work in the same place... (the doubt has been planted again)
Hahaha, not in the same lab, so it's all finee.
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Why the shit would you stop yourself from even trying???? Jesus broksi. Go watch the Jersey Shore and learn yourself some confidence. There's only one way to find out the answer to your question
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I had a 24 y old girl when I was 19. You should consider pondering about how you are going to make her feel comfortable around your friends. Believe me she wants to make new friends at this age but she's unsure how to procede so .. Smoking weed is always a good loosener but i guess also somethings like music and sports.
One thing you should watch out for is ex- boyfriends. If you're strong .. face em`, if not .. get as much pussy as you can before you get demoted to friend.
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