EPTit seems like you sort of freaked her out, since all she wanted was a friend, not the creepy definition of best friend you had. txting all the time while awake, knowing everything she's doing, talking to her about ALL her problems. honestly this would freak most people out, especially a 16 year old girl (she's basically a baby don't kid yourself) who was JUST your friend. i suggest re-examining your personal beliefs about friendship and taking a hard look at yourself and changing some of over obsessive traits of your personality.
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Malgrif
Canada1095 Posts
it seems like you sort of freaked her out, since all she wanted was a friend, not the creepy definition of best friend you had. txting all the time while awake, knowing everything she's doing, talking to her about ALL her problems. honestly this would freak most people out, especially a 16 year old girl (she's basically a baby don't kid yourself) who was JUST your friend. i suggest re-examining your personal beliefs about friendship and taking a hard look at yourself and changing some of over obsessive traits of your personality. | ||
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shawster
Canada2485 Posts
ask her out you didn't do that now you're hurt. sorry bro but it's life. if she says no then stop interacting with her. it felt like you were hanging on to this string of hope even though it was non-existant. if you want a girl thats a friend then that's fine. i think that's very possible. just make sure you don't like her. if you like her ask her out. simple bro, sorry you had to go through that but experience is good right? hang in there  | ||
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WormBeard
United States46 Posts
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Meeran
Sweden91 Posts
This almost always happens in friendship between a man and a woman. It's sad but true kinda. It's hard to keep a close and "best friendish" relationship cause someone always end up getting feelings for the other one. Since one of the other usually end up like the shoulder to cry on. Like "He wasn't good enough for you" and then you kinda think "but I'm good enugh for you and i know you better than anyon, we should date blablabla". Else I usually become a problem when one of you (or both) getting in a relationship which often can cause jealousy from the new partner like "You spending all time talking to her/him blablabla". Excuse me if this makes no sense, but you'll get over it. Not all women are like this. You just need to find the right one who likes you for who you are. I know how you feel, wanting to have your best friend back. I got out from a 2.5 year relationship pretty recently, and I miss him, and it hurts me how i could hurt him. Because he was my best friend which is the part I always gonna miss. Hope you feel better soon dude, you seems like good dude, you deserve finding a nice girl. | ||
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Deleted User 3420
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On June 03 2011 21:59 DongWang wrote: Serious question/suggestion not a troll at all. Are you gay? My older brother went through the exact same thing.., In fact, nearly an identical situation. Two years later, turns out he's gay. I find it strange that your best friend is not only a girl, but you get so upset over losing 'your best' friend. Tbh , she sounds like a cunt. Ignoring you for weeks, being a whore, etc. You deserve better, much better from what I'm reading. EDIT: I was in similar situation, where I was good friends with this babe at high school, it got to the point where I could have banged her (now that I look back) (wow she was all over me at the after-ball) but I was to much of a noob at the to pick up the vibes. After that incident I gtfo cause the friend zone (I assumed I was in the friend zone at the time) isn't cool. LOL, the FUCK is this guy talking about? | ||
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Pathology
Canada132 Posts
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TheDeli
France110 Posts
Screw all, be a jerk (or at least channel your inner jerk to help you through - jerk is not evil, you know?), move on to the next one. Oh, when you find someone, just go with the "Date or Bust" mentality; you won't be too attached to them that way. Ex-interest to next interest (or ex to next gf). I'm not telling you to act bashful towards her or yourself, just to clear all the "hopes" you put in her. Now if you're looking for girl friends (not girlfriends), then okay, go into their friend zone and stay there. No further expectations. | ||
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Ventil
Sweden414 Posts
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
dood ur 18. its always the right time to kiss a girl. everything you have ever encountered will count for less than 20% of things you care about in about 4 years. chill out man. is her friend hot? are you doing her now? | ||
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Ganjamaster
Argentina475 Posts
You need to grow a pair and stop crying like a bitch son. | ||
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Game
3191 Posts
On June 03 2011 19:22 King of Blades wrote: I acted all like it wasn't going to hurt me badly on the phone, but I cried for hours, and was severely depressed "until a couple weeks ago". It's the first time I ever got broken up with, all the others kinda fizzled out and never went anywhere, this one was murdered suddenly and it hurt like hell. I still kinda keep an eye on her, she removed me on facebook, but she didn't remove my best friend and i have access to his account, unknown to the both of them <.< I'm very protective of her to this day, if anyone were to hurt her in any way that matters, I would kill them, no doubt in my mind. Don't know why i posted this, don't really need advice, unless you know how to magically get my friend back, I don't even care about dating anymore, there's no room in my heart for her anymore. :'( I deleted what wasn't important to my post, and am showing you how I read this blog from a criminal justice major standpoint. I think the bolding, quotation marks, and italics speak for themselves. No need for my input. | ||
OneOther
United States10774 Posts
Use this as a learning experience. Stiffen your spine, grab your balls and go back out when you are ready to be something other than an emotional tampon! EDIT: In other words, who the fuck cares about your girl "best friend" that used you to comfort her while she was breaking up with her boyfriend and yet still sucking him off? She sounds like an immature middle schooler (oh wait, she is) who has no idea what she wants. Clearly you are not that important to her if she's willing to all of sudden tell you that you guys are "done" being friends. Doesn't it seem unfair to you that you care about her so much, even more than as friends, when it's evident she doesn't give a shit about you? I am being really blunt here but seriously, forget it, move on, find some true bros, and a better girl. | ||
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Lanaia
Canada1142 Posts
Reading your post reminded me a lot of my last relationship. However, this happened over the span of like, four months. (I can't get a job at a few places in town because of him.) He wouldn't hang out with me. Apparently he was too busy, hung out with his ex instead. Sorry you were the rebound. <3 Girls like having attention. This girl sounds a bit like an attention whore. Most girls are. It gets ridiculous. Read your facebook news feed and tell me this isn't the case. | ||
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Ganjamaster
Argentina475 Posts
On June 28 2011 05:22 OneOther wrote: This is like the most hopeless cause of the friend zone I have ever heard of. And this has happened with 11 other girls who led you on but nothing happened? (They probably treated you as a friend, too). Use this as a learning experience. Stiffen your spine, grab your balls and go back out when you are ready to be something other than an emotional tampon! EDIT: In other words, who the fuck cares about your girl "best friend" that used you to comfort her while she was breaking up with her boyfriend and yet still sucking him off? She sounds like an immature middle schooler (oh wait, she is) who has no idea what she wants. Clearly you are not that important to her if she's willing to all of sudden tell you that you guys are "done" being friends. Doesn't it seem unfair to you that you care about her so much, even more than as friends, when it's evident she doesn't give a shit about you? I am being really blunt here but seriously, forget it, move on, find some true bros, and a better girl. Word dude, bro´s before ho´s | ||
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Kentor
United States5784 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On June 03 2011 19:22 King of Blades wrote: I'm 17 about to turn 18, she was 15, now 16. Too young. Strike One. First off, I am an emotional person naturally, though I've been extremely hardened over the years, due to a MASSIVE string of being hurt and lead on by about 11 girls in a row over the course of 5 years or so, each one going further before dropping me. 11 girls since the age of 12?! Too many for that age. Strike Two. I asked her if she would date me, she replied with a no, and dodged questions as to why, stating reasons like you're like a brother, and it could ruin our friendship. Though this started some other things, which led to getting I love yous from her, which, from her, was huge. About 3 months in, Too much time passed. Strike Three. When I was in high school I had a best friend who was a girl. I was in love with her, she knew it, and she used it to take all kinds of advantage of me. You're going to look back on this years from now and think "Wow! I was an IDIOT!", but it's the hard lessons like this that prevent us making those big mistakes ever again. I hope you learned something! | ||
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
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