EPTthe person who cares the least controls the relationship
(btw, girls get tired of clingy guys very fast and leave/cheat on them with guys who don't care)
I fucking hate girls. - Page 4
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LaSt)ChAnCe
United States2179 Posts
the person who cares the least controls the relationship (btw, girls get tired of clingy guys very fast and leave/cheat on them with guys who don't care) | ||
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MisteR
Netherlands595 Posts
EDIT: Let me elaborate a bit. KoB has been through eleven girls (including the girl and her ex-best friend?) in five years. His vision of what's happening has become extremely negative. He's become possessive, angry, depressed and a stalker to boot. All this points to serious self-esteem issues and depression. Not something a 17 year old can typically deal with. So gogogo get help so you can become friends again and get a real girlfriend! | ||
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Kyuukyuu
Canada6263 Posts
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pred470r
Bulgaria3265 Posts
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King of Blades
United States94 Posts
Great thanks to the people who were actually helpful, I do feel a lot better about it now that I've told SOMEONE, and talked about it. :D This blog was more of a rant then anything, I wasn't really seeking like how to get her back or anything, and I'm not depressed over it anymore, just needed to blow some steam cause I was dwelling on it for a lil while last night. I'm not unattractive, ignorant, gay, or anything really bad, what I am is extremely introverted, I hate talking to people I don't know except under extreme circumstances, such as HOLY SHIT HOT CHICK. I just have absolutely horrible luck with girls, most of them either met their current BF through me(Which really sucks btw), or were dating someone at the time and led me on. A couple just stopped naturally, like relationships do. I suppose I technically am stalking her, but I don't consider it really bad stalking, I've only checked on her once since we split. I'm well aware that my biggest issue is the nice guy syndrome, but that's pretty damn hard to break. | ||
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MetalMarine
United States1559 Posts
On June 04 2011 00:16 xarthaz wrote: Bro tip, a site full of computer game nerds is perhaps not the best venue for taking advice on how to be successful with women. It makes sense to take advice from specialists. Just because you don't get pussy doesn't mean members on here do not. | ||
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Severian
Australia2052 Posts
On June 04 2011 05:44 King of Blades wrote: I wasn't really seeking like how to get her back or anything It doesn't seem like you ever "had" her, unless you just mean as a friend. From what I can tell you were never up-front about your intentions with this girl and just assumed that, eventually, she would love you as long as you kept being BFFs with her and maybe dropping jokes about more serious things every now and then. A month in and you still hadn't kissed her or gone on an actual date (and you never mention if you do actually ever kiss her), and "later" you ask her to date you and she turns you down. This was never anything more than a friendship, and you should only be angry at yourself for presuming from the start that she would eventually love you and maybe have sex with you while remaining chaste prior, when all you had displayed was friendship. She shouldn't have to assume that every male friend of hers wants to bone her and that if she has sex with anyone it's a betrayal of those male friends. | ||
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King of Blades
United States94 Posts
On June 04 2011 05:57 Severian wrote: It doesn't seem like you ever "had" her, unless you just mean as a friend. From what I can tell you were never up-front about your intentions with this girl and just assumed that, eventually, she would love you as long as you kept being BFFs with her and maybe dropping jokes about more serious things every now and then. A month in and you still hadn't kissed her or gone on an actual date (and you never mention if you do actually ever kiss her), and "later" you ask her to date you and she turns you down. This was never anything more than a friendship, and you should only be angry at yourself for presuming from the start that she would eventually love you and maybe have sex with you while remaining chaste prior, when all you had displayed was friendship. She shouldn't have to assume that every male friend of hers wants to bone her and that if she has sex with anyone it's a betrayal of those male friends. I wanted her as a gf at first, but gave up on that when she told me about him, and just wanted a friend. Never kissed her, and neither I nor her had any intentions of sex, that was one of the things we had in common, we're both staying virgins till marriage. For all the people who are gonna say she lied, i know that to be true, because she asked me what I thought about it and stated her beliefs before I ever said anything about sex or waiting. | ||
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adeezy
United States1428 Posts
Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least! Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that. News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol | ||
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King of Blades
United States94 Posts
On June 04 2011 06:12 adeezy wrote: My my my, this is so highschool man. A few years from now youre gonna be like... damn that was such a highschool phase. Needless to say same thing happened to me, it may take a year or two but youll get over it. It seriously takes time. But who knows maybe you guys well meet again, talk things over and be friends again. I hope so at least! Btw i was reading people say you need professional help. No. You don't, lots of teenagers go through what you do and you'll basically grow out of being so sensitive and clingy and all that as long as you have the determination to better yourself, and at 17 I'm sure you have that. News Flash: Girls who are down to suck dick at 16 years old are for damn sure not gonna stay virgins til marriage. Might as well break it down to you now lol Thanks  And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs. | ||
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Mactator
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Stratos
Czech Republic6104 Posts
It's not that you don't care anymore. You're simply more experienced and you know what you wanna do and what you should never do or say if it comes to a crisis. Handling such breakups naturally becomes easier, it's not a matter of changing yourself, but rather knowing yourself better. Also, since you're handling this stuff better, it's easier to keep your friend at your side - since they don't see you freak out whenever something occurs. Well either way good luck. I just didn't like the "be better" part of the above comment. | ||
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Thrill
2599 Posts
On June 04 2011 06:05 King of Blades wrote: that was one of the things we had in common, we're both staying virgins till marriage. I was so confused about this blog until i read this. | ||
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MetalMarine
United States1559 Posts
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Chef
10810 Posts
On June 04 2011 06:28 King of Blades wrote: Thanks And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs. Loopholes like 'I was drunk so it wasn't for realsies' ? Sorry, but don't be so naive. It's not called a loophole, it's called rationalizing your guilt/ego/whatever. People who rationalize a lot are very unreliable and shouldn't be taken at their word, no matter how determined they seem. People can grow out of rationalizing all the time, but it usually happens when they forfeit values they didn't really hold, such as abstinence in this case. | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
were you friendly and awesome with her? or were you masculine and cool with her? only one of these leads to attraction strange but true | ||
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ch33psh33p
7650 Posts
On June 04 2011 08:41 Chef wrote: Loopholes like 'I was drunk so it wasn't for realsies' ? Sorry, but don't be so naive. It's not called a loophole, it's called rationalizing your guilt/ego/whatever. People who rationalize a lot are very unreliable and shouldn't be taken at their word, no matter how determined they seem. People can grow out of rationalizing all the time, but it usually happens when they forfeit values they didn't really hold, such as abstinence in this case. This is so true and to the point. Please stop your naivety, its already gotten you so hopelessly depressed. It just isn't worth it. You'll realize eventually, those "words" and "loopholes" mean nothing. | ||
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Lexpar
1813 Posts
Read your blog. It sucks man. I've had too many experiences with that uneasiness between being extremely close fiends... me wanting to date: she-not. A few times the roles have been reversed. It sucks. | ||
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BakaBakanky
Canada20 Posts
Mmm, depending on how long you've known her, you might have "fallen" for her a bit too fast and she freaked out? That, and this is just my opinion, over-protectiveness is definitely one of the things that pushes me away from a guy. Some girls absolutely love it though, don't get me wrong, but just as many do, many also don't (me being one of them). One of my past uhh..... better than friend relationships (i guess you could say since we never really "went out") was uber jealous >.> it pissed me off. It's like he owned me or something, using legit vocabulary such "I forbid you to see him". It got to the point where he "forbade" me to even play mmo's and 1v1's with my guy friends. Overall, you're only like 17 eh? So chiiillll~~~, this is probs just one out of many bumps you'll have later on in the future. And like come on, dating 11 girls within the time period where your 13 to 17, you can't expect that much from girls anyways at a jr. high level. The maturity level just isn't there yet to make a long term commitment (in most cases). Not sleeping and crying just makes you worse, and solves nothing. So if you think about it from a logical mindset, you really only have 2 options which is 1. ya got trying to talk to her and get her back as a friend, or 2, simply get over this drama you're having and creating unnecessary havoc for yourself | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On June 04 2011 06:28 King of Blades wrote: Thanks And she will, she's one of those people that is uber determined and has very strong opinions but leaves loopholes, so only dick in vag counts as sex. She also HATES the idea of anal, so that leaves BJs. Till she gets drunk, or gets carried away. You really need to stop with this, OMG I KNOW HER SO WELL SHES TOTALLY LIKE THIS BLEH BLEH. etc. Like, you need to do what the rest of the thread said just tell that bitch you fucking hate her for using you as her problem piss mat, and stop even thinking about her. If she hates you then theres no reason to be all moapy and and sad. Its just stupid | ||
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