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I'm in a thinking mood today and just thought about things I regret for never doing or not doing earlier. I'm pretty sure everyone has at least a few of those and as I get older (30 soon) I'm starting to wonder if I might have wasted a lot of opportunities to achieve my dreams (or at least most of them).
I also wonder if there is anything I can do about it. I'm usually not the guy to take risks and simply just walk along the middle path in life... neither going the easy way nor the hard risky way. Usually I make things hard on myself, but I try not to make it hard for other people.
A few things that come to mind, that I think differently of now:
- Being a slacker at school
I just did enough effort to get the grades I needed to advance. What bothers me the most in retrospect is that I could've done so much better if I just put more will into it. I'm not stupid but very lazy and I noticed very early that I could get by with less effort.
- Not changing earlier
As a kid I was the perfect example of a loser and a perfect target for bullying. After I failed a class and had to repeat a year my life dramatically changed for the better since I was more accepted by my classmates and also I started to care about myself more.
- Never learning an instrument when I was younger and had more time
Sometimes you hear stories of people whose parents force them to learn an instrument and they're pretty annoyed by it... and now I kinda wish my parents would've done that. I can decently play the guitar and drums now because I picked it up a few years ago. But I'm missing the time/motivation to really practice for hours after work now. So I'll probably stay decent, but never will be good.
- Not playing SC:BW when I had the time and chance
This is actually a little more trivial but still bothers me. Back when SC came out I bought it first day and played the campaign and a few multiplayer matches against CPU here and there. Then I started to play SC2 when it came out and I wasn't a big multiplayer fan before that. I like to play coop games and achieving something with people working together instead of playing 1:1. But now that shifted a bit and since I had no prior experience I had to claw my way up from Bronze to Diamond while my buddies easily played at Platinum/Diamond level from the beginning.
I just wish I would've started earlier and put more effort into it and maybe I could've made a name for myself. But now I'm just thinking I'm getting to old to be good anymore. So again... decent but never will be good.
In general I start to pick up a lot of things and start to get decent at them. Then my focus shifts to something else. So I have a very broad range of interests and things that I can do decently, but I don't really know one thing I'm good at. Nothing to impress other people.
This is particularly one thing that bothers me the most in my life currently. I'm just your average Joe who just excels at being average in everything he does.
There are still many more things that I more or less regret and most of the stuff seems trivial to many I suppose. Also taking time to reflect surely is a good thing, but no use in griping over it.
Better take what you have now and work with that and aim for new dreams 
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Aotearoa39261 Posts
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread?
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On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread?
You got me
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On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread?
my thought exactly.
Regret: Didnt sign in on TL when I first visited the site. Maybe I'll blog about it some day.
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I wish I had devoted 20 or 30 percent of the time I've spent playing bw/sc2 teaching myself additional math subjects. That 20 or 30 percent probably adds up to thousands of hours which would be invaluable to me now 
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Katowice25012 Posts
On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread?
I regret Plexa for not fixing said typo so I have shouldered his burden and done so.
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On May 31 2011 22:14 heyoka wrote:Show nested quote +On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread? I regret Plexa for not fixing said typo so I have shouldered his burden and done so.
Thanks for actually making it worse :>
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On May 31 2011 22:14 heyoka wrote:Show nested quote +On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread? I regret Plexa for not fixing said typo so I have shouldered his burden and done so.
I hope you're not starting a mod troll with the title as we had it with the penis size thread.
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Instead of regret, ask yourself "was I happy at the time?". My guess would be yes.
I see no point in regretting for more than a minute. You wish to excel in certain fields, but there 7 billion people, not everyone will be amazing and those who are often times do not have experience in anything else. A Doctor in Chemistry probably plays Guitar+Drums worse than you, but is better at focusing his mind on something that requires a lot of study.
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Title spelling is awesome! Things you rerget
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I think my 3 big ones are...
- Be more courageous when it comes to women. I found out about a few missed opportunities after the fact just because I always tended to play it safe, rather than putting myself out there.
- Be more outgoing in high school. I was the kind of kid that was kind of accepted in all the groups but not really a part of any. It made it so that the school day was fun but I rarely got invites to social stuff after hours.
- 5 year relationship (and getting dumped) to realize that I can do way better than my ex and that I'm better off now, even though I'm currently single. Five years is such a long time for such a simple epiphany.
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Aotearoa39261 Posts
On May 31 2011 22:14 heyoka wrote:Show nested quote +On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread? I regret Plexa for not fixing said typo so I have shouldered his burden and done so.
Nah I left it because both me and my gf found it hilarious
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-Letting myself get bullied during elementary school
-Spending nearly 150 days worth of time on Runescape
-Quitting Soccer
-Getting banned on my first acc here
-Finding /b/ / Funnyjunk / Chatroulette
-Doubting my abilities
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Katowice25012 Posts
On May 31 2011 22:17 Kleinmuuhg wrote:Show nested quote +On May 31 2011 22:14 heyoka wrote:On May 31 2011 21:49 Plexa wrote:
Not spelling regret right in the title of this thread? I regret Plexa for not fixing said typo so I have shouldered his burden and done so. I hope you're not starting a mod troll with the title as we had it with the penis size thread.
I was going to but after realizing that no one else is up at this time decided to just fix it. Also Panda sent me a nice pm.
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I REGRET NOTHIIIIING! *puts out a cigarrette on palm*
Seriously though regrets are a waste of emotion. It doesn't do to dwell, you made the decisions you did and now you are here. Deal with that. Not with what could have been. If at any point you are discontented, it's all in your power to change it if you've got the balls.
Although if I did have any regrets it would be; knowing what grades I needed to get into the top animation university in the UK and still not doing it. There was a point where I was homeless, jobless, alone and cold and I thought 'Fuuuuuck. If I'd just done that fucking work I'd be in uni accomadation right now doing a degree'. But fuck it. I'm fine now, and I don't even want to do animation. I was only going to go to uni because I had nothing else to do.
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Not doing all my assignments weeks ago when I first got them. Now I've got tonnes to do and I'm still on TL ffs. >.>
I'm such a bad worker. =(
On May 31 2011 22:50 The KY wrote:
Seriously though regrets are a waste of emotion. It doesn't do to dwell, you made the decisions you did and now you are here. Deal with that. Not with what could have been. If at any point you are discontented, it's all in your power to change it if you've got the balls.
I like that. That's a good way to put it. Motivates me to actually start working and stop being such a lazy son of a bitch.
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Yeah I agree with nimbim and KY
It's not worth it to actually gripe over it forever and let it drag you down so much. Still I like to reflect sometimes and assert where I am and what I have achieved so far. That's why I said in the end: gotta work with what you have and make the best of it
Some things, like missed opportunities can still be achieved... though it might be harder than when you initially had the chance. Especially if you have established some sort of lifestyle, have a job, a home and so on. It's a tough decision to give up your "safe" life to go for your dreams and I admire people that can do it.
Not all dreams require so much dedication though.
I still want to learn some harder songs on guitar for example, but I don't wanna become a rock star (anymore )
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i regret wearing a suit today :C
trackpants till i die
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i regret having bought my first guitar. way too expensive and not suited to me at all. money thrown out of the window .__.
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Everything.
After all I'm a mortal, my time is limited, how can I justify doing something over something else?
I can't, life is hell.
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