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On April 10 2011 04:36 LeperKahn wrote:
Think a lot less.
If you feel like you can kiss her. Kiss her.
Test the waters with dancing. If she's into it dance slow.
Don't go to a movie after the dance. Do -anything- else.
If she feels tense its because you're too tense. Relax and try again.
Oh no, we're not going to a movie, we're going to watch a movie at someone's house. Sorry, not meant to confuse.
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why is going to the movies such a bad idea? >_> noob here
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On April 10 2011 06:18 Nomadic wrote:
why is going to the movies such a bad idea? >_> noob here
Because you can't talk.
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Chew gum to make your mouth all tasty, but for god's sake, spit the gum out before kissing.
Idk what your history with this girl is, but don't be retarded, just pay attention to her non-verbal communication, and you'll be able to tell if you can kiss her or not. A good sign she does not want to be kissed is if she feels like a block of wood. Stiff girl = not interested, feeling awkward with you, wants to get away. A girl who is all up against you, different story. You get the idea.
And just relax. If you can't laugh at yourself when you ruin a romantic moment with the realities of trying to figure out how to kiss someone new, or for spilling sauce all over your shirt when you're all dressed up, you're probably not with the right person anyway.
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Honestly it depends so much on the girl that I think its a mistake to give blanket advice. Theres girls who always want a good night kiss, and theres girls who will never kiss until the third date. I've dated women who enjoyed me opening doors and spending money on them, but I've also dated women who get offended if I offer. My junior year high school prom date used prom as a way to start a longer-term relationship with me. I wanted to date my senior year prom date, but it didnt work out and we ended up being just friends (we still had a good time).
I think one thing I can feel confident about telling you is that at least some physical contact is always expected for the pictures and at least one slow dance. However stick in the hands/shoulders/waist area unless you receive some obvious encouragement. Keyword being obvious, dont overanalyze things or youll just drive yourself crazy.
And whenever the two of you are alone, do you best to keep conversation, any conversation (well, *not* other girl related) going. Most girls want to have something "extra" they can talk about with their friends post-prom so theres gotta be some interaction outside of the group setting. Even if its stupid stuff like making up a story or doing something out-of-character.
And learn how to tie both workties and bowties beforehand. Even if you dont need it for yourself, theres always going to be a friend out there that screws it up for himself. =)
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Don't think at all. Just follow your feelings. But keep them under control. This is really the best advice I can give, because if you think about stuff it makes you come off as awkward, unless your mind is racing, which is exhausting, which means you won't be having as much fun as you could be having. Just lighten up and go with the flow, man. You like her, why would you pass up the opportunity to hold/kiss her? Don't think, just go for it. You can tell by her reactions what she thinks and you either adjust accordingly or be yourself. Either way tends to be pretty good.
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Most of the people here have the right idea, and I agree with them. #1 thing to keep in mind is not to keep anything particular in mind, because already what you naturally are / what you naturally act like is good with your date.
If you want to envision a scenario though... well, all of this should come out naturally.
- compliment her on her dress. Girls go through countless hours just to select a dress, so you should let her know how wonderful she looks! I suppose you can extend it to her shoes and hair and everything... don't over-do it, just let her know that you know how much effort she put into looking beautiful (for you!!!)
- be a natural gentleman. Again this is natural stuff like opening doors, putting a jacket/shawl on her shoulders (and knees if she's wearing a short dress), and stuff. Your prom date is probably just as nervous and anxious as you are, so if you can play the role of a gentleman and help her relax / enjoy the night, she'll appreciate it a lot.
- don't drink too much. Ok, so after prom. Ideally, everyone should be drinking a bit - and you just have to make sure you don't pass out. Somewhat conscious, lead the action... and you know the rest!
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I almost skipped prom to go see Mahler's Symphony No. 2 being played the same night.
Fortunately, I didn't skip and ended up going to prom. Unfortunately, I was too lazy to get a date. Fortunately, I went to see the symphony the following day after a night of partying.
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On April 10 2011 05:59 DerNebel wrote:Show nested quote +On April 10 2011 04:36 LeperKahn wrote:
Think a lot less.
If you feel like you can kiss her. Kiss her.
Test the waters with dancing. If she's into it dance slow.
Don't go to a movie after the dance. Do -anything- else.
If she feels tense its because you're too tense. Relax and try again. Truth. To tell the truth: It's not a big deal. Be gentle, don't rush it. Don't 6pool it, don't 8pool it, don't 10pool it, don't even 14pool+speed it. 15hatch and let her come to you. Also, don't go to a movie after the dance. Recipe for disaster and boredom right there easily available for you. Again, it's not a big deal. You're young and have all the time in the world. Be happy, and just have fun.
Yeah man, going to the movie after prom/dinner is basically like going on another date.. without the fun stuff that happens after the date 
After my prom I went to a pancake house with my best friend and our dates. Then afterwards my gf slept over at my house...
Just be chill!
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pfff if you're not going to sex her you at least HAVE to get a kiss 
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At the end of the day, if you act like a gentleman, it doesn't matter what you do. Have fun.
All of the what should I/shouldn't I do stuff is based on your relationship with the girl. But honestly, just have fun and be nice =) All those little extra things like holding doors and stuff are gentlemanlike, and people appreciate it. imo make her feel special.
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