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2nd Worst City in CA8938 Posts
... wow, we have the exact same car. First time I've ever met someone with that old hunk. 
Nothing much to say except you're in the wrong and you know that, and the best thing to do would be to contact the owner and make amends. Otherwise you may be constantly paranoid and hoping they don't figure out it's you.
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ALLEYCAT BLUES50531 Posts
mistakes happen all the time,you don't need to feel guilty,but if you really want to feel better just find the owner of that car and pay for damages.
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Canada5155 Posts
Offer to pay and don't get insurance involved.
If you can't pay, run like hell!
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Because you have a conscience and i can respect that, so I will say some things but not force you to do anything. Imagine if that was your car that someone hit, wouldn't it suck? Yes. To be honest, I would probably go back. Here's the reason why, guilt is the first and personal thing. I'm not sure how your morals and ethics are, but judging from your conscience i assume that they are good. Second, even though you didn't see any cameras, there could be some around and you didn't catch them, which could get you in serious legal troubles. Talk to your dad more about the situation and then go from there. It's one of those issues where you should talk to your parents about.
Edit: i was the first one to reply, i went to get some soda and 3 replies came after i posted lol, also hawaiianpig's advice is quite nice too, lol not the running like hell part though. Offer to pay, tell him/her the story. Any understanding non-asshole would love for you to pay for it and not need to involve the insurance. Shit I'd be happy as hell if someone hit my car, came back and offer to pay for the damages. Accidents happen. Good luck bro
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That conversation with your father is priceless. If you honestly feel guilty you should probably do the right thing and contact that person, as what you did is considered a hit and run. However since you are already at home and ready to go to sleep, it must already be off your conscience so don't worry about it I suppose.
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If there was no evidence that you were the culprit, just drive home. I wouldnt feel guilty, thats how it works, I must be a heartless bastard.
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I think I ran into a somewhat similar situation several months ago when I accidentally backed up my SUV into a parked sedan. My car had almost no damage, yet I had owned up the sedan's door pretty badly. I went directly to the owner's house, and we arranged the insurance stuff about the accident. It was an awkward hour, but they seemed very nice about it.
Obviously, the right thing to do is to find the owner of that car and just talk to them about the situation. They are people, too, so they should be quite understanding of any situation or story that you tell them about the situation.
Though you'll probably have to get insurance involved in this, it's at least better than having to live on with guilt or the possibility of being involved in a hit and run case.
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I'd have to encourage you to pay for the damages. I'd be so pissed off if someone hit and run my car, especially since I can't afford to get it fixed to begin with. Then again there's only so much I can expect from humanity.
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Theres always the case of yourself being the victim, meh...
edit: Im aiding him to clear that guilty conscience. :D
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On April 05 2011 13:27 Disregard wrote:
Theres always the case of yourself being the victim, meh...
LOL stop posting man... you're not helping
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its no big deal, relax dude and hope the owner of that car doesnt browse TL aswell^^
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Canada7170 Posts
On April 05 2011 13:22 Disregard wrote:
If there was no evidence that you were the culprit, just drive home. I wouldnt feel guilty, thats how it works, I must be a heartless bastard.
Your username speaks for you.
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Next time, you should probably leave a note with your phone number and an explanation. Just imagine if you were the person with the damaged car.
However, I understand that if you are having financial troubles and couldn't afford the insurance hike or to pay for the damages outright, it's not always reasonable for you to take the punishment.
Still, it's ok, accidents happen. I've been on the receiving end in one accident and I've been the responsible party in another. The guy I hit seemed kind of pissed at me, I was 17 and he was the dad of a 16 year-old, so that might have had something to do with it. But when I was hit, I was really nice to the woman, and my car was fixed up and looked better afterwards anyways, all free of charge to me. Oh I also rear-ended another woman but we talked and saw that neither car had any visual damage so we just went on our way. She was really nice.
Just relax, and realize most people are understanding if you are honest with them. However, not everyone will be nice to talk with, but you've gotta face those kinds of people in life some time anyways. Plus, doing the right thing just feels a lot better in the end, at least for me.
Edit: Also, I'm not too knowledgeable about car mechanics, but you might wanna get your car checked for your own safety.
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This probably wont help but a while back someone ripped a huge scratch/dent right up the left side of my 1993 Mitsubishi GTO while parked at Mcdonalds. I was soooo gutted. Worse feeling in the world seeing the huge scar up my car. I was really mad they they didn't leave a not or anything even as an apology. It ended up costing me around $1300 to get fixed.
A few weeks later I hit someone in a car park in a super market. (After already getting my car fixed T.T) Remembering how bad I felt when I was hit I hung around till they owner came out and told her what happened, gave her my address/phone number/ect. She called me the next day saying not to worry about it. ( She said I looked so scared when giving her my details she felt sorry for me >.>)
Really its up to you how you want to deal with it. Just thought Id share my story =)
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"might have"?
i'm not big on people hitting cars and bailing, so it is strange to me that you are attempting to play the victim in this scenario
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I did a hit and run one time, but the fucker was parked directly in front of a no parking sign, basically blocking me in. I didn't see him cuz I was driving a van and he had some little Pontiac. Sucks for him, but he probably should park in an actual spot. He didn't learn his lesson though, saw him back at the same spot the next week.
On topic, go back to the scene in a different vehicle and check thoroughly for cameras. If there were cameras and they bust you for hit and run you are gonna be really fucked.
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It's clear the owner of the SUV is at fault here. He should not have parked his car there and have you hit it.
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I've done this twice before, once while I was high. No biggie.
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Well you should be fine if they didn't notice right away, but it being near a hospital there is probably a CCTV watching. I would have just left a note with your info on it.
I hate people who do hit and runs tbh. Pissed me off when it happened to me.
I hope your grandmother in the hospital is fine, but your dad seems to lack some morales.
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If you do commit a hit and run, posting about it on the internet is one of the stupidest things you can do. It sounds like you can't turn back on the situation. You operated on all the awareness that you had at the time, and you should forgive yourself regardless of whether or not you made the best decision.
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SO YOU ARE THE BASTARD THAT WRECKED MY CAR
nah j/k
I can respect your choice, i would not be able to let it rest either.
But that guy will still be enraged because you did not leave a card with your contact information etc.
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Become a bigger man than your dad and pay for the thing.
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was i the only one who started reading this blog with extreme trepidation, considering the way it started with the whole hospital and grandmother bit, and therefore thinking that the blog was going to go in a completely different and much more severe direction? hah, maybe i just have a twisted imagination.
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There is no "maybe commit" crime, there is only "commit" and "not commit" as a great jedi master once said.
In all seriousness, that's a pretty low thing to do in my opinion. When I was 17 I scratched someone's bumper (wrecking my passenger door in the process), left them a note and immediately went into the nearby stores to find the person. Ended up putting me back about $900 (the bumper - my door is still screwed up), so I had to work my ass off the last couple weeks of summer. Take responsibility, even if you can't pay now I can guarantee that the person would be thrilled even if you had to pay them over time.
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I would be so pissed if I came back to my car to see a giant dent in it... shit aint cash...or well it is...$400 about. $400 dollars those people might not have.
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Korea (South)1897 Posts
Next time,
leave a note or ask inside;
your father probably should have not advised you that way,
cameras or no cameras.
It's just not a good habit to have.
If you're possibly strapped on cash, I get it,
and this ain't a moral judgement,
but its not good to have that kind of reaction;
next time when it is serious
and you don't spot a camera and there is one,
and you remember what you're dad said and just bolt,
then you're fucked.
Sometimes, small or big,
things like this, you just need to take care of properly or attempt to.
Again, no judgement on you or your father,
and you did post,
just don't make a habit of it.
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On April 05 2011 17:08 THE_DOMINATOR wrote:
I would be so pissed if I came back to my car to see a giant dent in it... shit aint cash...or well it is...$400 about. $400 dollars those people might not have.
Exactly. This is my only qualm with the whole situation. For some people money is really hard to come by, and if somebody did enough damage to your vehicle in a hit and run that rendered it unable to get an inspection sticker, you HAVE to fork out the cash to get that fixed or constantly be worried about getting pulled over and fucked (been there, done that, the paranoia is AWFUL).
This may be a bad analogy, but the way I look at it is almost like you withdrawing $400 from the atm and then getting mugged immediately after. That money is gone, you feel like shit, you lose some faith in humanity, and you'll have spiteful feelings of having been wronged that will affect other avenues of your life. The only difference there is malicious intent. While the mugger intends to be malicious, you clearly didn't, at least initially. However, knowing what you did is wrong and not owning up to it almost puts you at that malicious level (or does).
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He drives a SUV so in my book thats okay
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On April 05 2011 17:42 MightyAtom wrote:
Next time,
leave a note or ask inside;
your father probably should have not advised you that way,
cameras or no cameras.
It's just not a good habit to have.
If you're possibly strapped on cash, I get it,
and this ain't a moral judgement,
but its not good to have that kind of reaction;
next time when it is serious
and you don't spot a camera and there is one,
and you remember what you're dad said and just bolt,
then you're fucked.
Sometimes, small or big,
things like this, you just need to take care of properly or attempt to.
Again, no judgement on you or your father,
and you did post,
just don't make a habit of it.
definitely this
and there is no "might have"
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Something similar happened to me in the fall season like this, except I was the victim. I come out one morning and find a good sized ding on the side of my car. I still hope the guy who hit and ran me loses his house in a fire.
Go and make things right.
On April 05 2011 15:05 Roe wrote:
Become a bigger man than your dad and pay for the thing.
So true. Mistakes happen, be mature and own up to it. It's the mature thing to do.
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greasy move to take off but unfortunately a very common one, lol...
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If you truly felt bad you would have left your information on the driver's car or something. Seeing as how you didnt and you already drove off already. Its better to hope they dont have cameras.
Hit and run is a pretty common thing. It happened to me once where the driver almost drove off but an eye witness made her give her information. I was pretty lucky and i'm thankful for the person that forced the woman to give her information. We resolved it easily but I was still angry over the fact she would have driven away if nobody would have stopped her.
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Fuck you, lol. Sure you just drive home, but the other person needs to get car work done. Maybe not a lot in this particular situation, but it could have been worse.
I was out playing warhammer one day, and parked my car in the usual lot. I get back to my car after a game or two, and bam, the front's smashed. No note, no nothing. Just my hood is bent, bumper scratched to hell, lights are broken, and hood ornament missing. I start the engine, and the "check engine" light is on and flashing angrily. According to the manual it means, "don't drive anywhere lol". Fortunately it was all covered by warranty and such, but I still had to get towed, spend 6 or so hours at the dealership while they fixed it, etc.
So... again, fuck you, lol
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Wow people are you are the reason I get paranoid when I park my car...
Put up a notice in that area right now with an e-mail address and offer to pay the damages.
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If it was at a hospital, I'd be willing to bet there are camera's around. If you want to make things right you can go to the hospital and tell them about it, since you know all the details I'm sure you will be able to get the guys license plate. Then you can go to the local police station as there probably is a case open; which will get you in contact with the owners. Chances are you will get minimal/no legal punishment as you are "turning yourself in". You will still have to pay insurance.
However, there always is the chance the guy does not notice and doesn't retrace his steps to the Hospital.
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messing with a man's automobile is a high crime in my book (then again my book is pulp fiction). Your dad's doing you a disservice by teaching you not to take responsibility for your fuck ups.
enough of your dads working for the finance industry= economic situation. Learn from this guilt, and be a man.
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It's hard to say no in a situation like that and someone is telling you to do the wrong thing, especially when that someone is your dad. So you did the wrong thing, but it's very understandable given those circumstances. It would be very nice of you to try and find that person and make it right.
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If your family is poor, don't worry about it. Things happen, it's not like you caused serious damage to the owner of the car. If your family could easily afford to pay for it then I would have fessed up.
Maybe it's more complicated than this but I really don't think cosmetics is as important as most people I guess.
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On April 05 2011 17:42 MightyAtom wrote:
Next time,
leave a note or ask inside;
your father probably should have not advised you that way,
cameras or no cameras.
It's just not a good habit to have.
If you're possibly strapped on cash, I get it,
and this ain't a moral judgement,
but its not good to have that kind of reaction;
next time when it is serious
and you don't spot a camera and there is one,
and you remember what you're dad said and just bolt,
then you're fucked.
Sometimes, small or big,
things like this, you just need to take care of properly or attempt to.
Again, no judgement on you or your father,
and you did post,
just don't make a habit of it.
I do agree with this though. It's not a healthy reaction to have to this kind of situation.
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On April 06 2011 03:16 travis wrote:
If your family is poor, don't worry about it. Things happen, it's not like you caused serious damage to the owner of the car. If your family could easily afford to pay for it then I would have fessed up.
Maybe it's more complicated than this but I really don't think cosmetics is as important as most people I guess.
Whether or not cosmetcis of the car is important or not is up to the owner of that car. That's why no matter how serious or how light the bump is, if there is any trace (even a centimeter long pale scratch), I would like to be told.
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You should tell them. At the very least if you don't then you pretty much lose the right to rage about people doing bad things to you.
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I highly recommend that you do what you know to be the right thing and take the appropriate measures in reporting the incident or contacting the owners of the SUV. Maintaining your own personal integrity trumps temporary financial or relationship problems in the long run. Imagine what the world will come to if even generally good, trustworthy people like yourself ignore both the law and common human decency.
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On April 06 2011 07:05 3clipse wrote:
I highly recommend that you do what you know to be the right thing and take the appropriate measures in reporting the incident or contacting the owners of the SUV. Maintaining your own personal integrity trumps temporary financial or relationship problems in the long run. Imagine what the world will come to if even generally good, trustworthy people like yourself ignore both the law and common human decency.
It's easy to just say this but if it's going to cause excessive hardship to your family(though in this case I really don't think it will), then it is about more than just you[him].
He didn't actually hurt anyone in this case. At most he caused them frustration or mild financial trouble.
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A penny saved is a penny earned.
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So a friend from church calls me up and asks me if I can help him move. I agreed and went over to his place the next day. When I got there, I saw that he had asked for more help from other church men. Furthermore, one of these guys brought in a huge-ass truck to help with the moving. When we were almost done packing all of the things into the truck, one of the guys gets into it and backs it out of the parkway. Whilst doing this, he literally trashed this luxurious-looking car, which was also the car of a handicapped old man (from the looks of it); he pretty much dented the thing almost one foot in from all the way from mid front door to the back light, which also broke to pieces.
I felt like a complete piece of shit, and I wasn't even close to it.
I thought we better inform whoever owned the car that we had turned it into a pile of shit. But all of these so called "Christian" men just looked at me like I was an idiot and left the place shaking in their underwear.
I was the last one to leave the place... after writing the name and phone number of this jackass on a piece of paper and placed it on the poor man's windshield.
I never went back to that church, as it seemed everyone in there was just a dumb, self-absorbed hypocrite.
>.>
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if you do go to this person and tell them it was your fault /blahblahblah who is going to pay for it? If you say insurance, who is going to pay the new elevated insurance bill?
IMO if your parents are paying, they are the ones you need to listen to. Now if you are paying for it yourself/your going to start paying for your insurance, then go for it.
But if it's going to be your parents' financial burden, then you kinda just have to suck it up and do exactly what they tell you... and when you are paying for everything yourself THEN you can tell your parents they were wrong and you felt terrible, and then you can contact the person and pay for it yourself.
It's REALLY easy to say, "I'll own my mistake and man up" and then hand the bill to some1 else =/
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So Sung Moon are you going to tell us what you did to handle the situation?
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Insurance might cover it? I wouldn't worry.
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In my honest opinion here is what I think, don't take it offensively or anything.
you feel bad because someone has to pay for your mistake. But even that injustice you don't want to pay money for what you did, so instead you post in teamliquid because it will make you feel better because you are confessing your sins and are not hiding it and it has a little bit but you still feel guilty.
Question you gotta ask yourself is are you willing to pay for the repairs so you don't feel guilty anymore... if not im pretty sure your like 90% of the people in the world but you just got stuck in a situation that they didn't.
Way to look at it is... his insurance will probably pay for it and the person might not even get an increase on it... also another thing to consider if there were cameras you can be facing a 10,000$+ fine+insurance increase on your side, maybe even a quite a big demerit increase on your liscense
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On April 06 2011 10:39 MetalMarine wrote:
So Sung Moon are you going to tell us what you did to handle the situation?
this is gonna earn every single one of your guys hatred/scorn/flames but i went back to hospital, faked a story to check if there were any camera's (there wasn't) and i go back to check if the SUV was still there (it wasn't). so i basically just shrugged my shoulder, visited my grandma and left.
i'm not way trying to justify what i did, but once again, my car only has scratches (literally not even slightly dented) and the other one had like a fist indented 2-3 inches deep. they probably didn't even notice or just went "oh well its barely noticeable".
i suck as a human being and i know karma will strike me back somehow
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Ive hit mirrors and dinged quite a few cars without reporting it. However I don't feel compelled to when they park on the bike path so I end up accidentally hitting their mirror at 60kmh when the conditions get bad, not to mention it turns a bike path into a suicide strip.
or they park in a way that deserves them getting hit, like taking up 1.5 spaces, or so close to one side that you can't open your door, or on an angle so every other car has to park on that same angle.
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I was expecting something good, this did not deliver :|
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Canada9720 Posts
don't be a douchebag.
go back, and own up to hitting the car. how would you feel if someone acted the way you're acting, and hit your parked fuckin car and drove off?
edit: read the rest of the thread. 
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On April 06 2011 11:31 sung_moon wrote:Show nested quote +On April 06 2011 10:39 MetalMarine wrote:
So Sung Moon are you going to tell us what you did to handle the situation? this is gonna earn every single one of your guys hatred/scorn/flames but i went back to hospital, faked a story to check if there were any camera's (there wasn't) and i go back to check if the SUV was still there (it wasn't). so i basically just shrugged my shoulder, visited my grandma and left. i'm not way trying to justify what i did, but once again, my car only has scratches (literally not even slightly dented) and the other one had like a fist indented 2-3 inches deep. they probably didn't even notice or just went "oh well its barely noticeable". i suck as a human being and i know karma will strike me back somehow
Meh I can still respect you for going back though, for the other car's dent, here's whats gonna happen. The owner will have his insurance pay for it and he will just pay a small deductible depending how much it is. Oh well at least you got rid of the guilt? =P
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Gotta be the one who calls you out on this :/ I kinda hope you get caught, I work full time and still barely get by, the last thing i would want if for some careless douche to hit my car and then run away because they're not be man enough to face up to it, most people who are barely getting by dont have full coverage on their car insurance so who knows what their insurance will and wont pay for. But either way their car is damaged, they may still have to pay for some repairs out of their pockets, and they've lost re-salve value on their car should they eventually decide to sell it.
And even if their insurance covers the whole thing, in the end your actions say a lot about your character and you're quite the coward :/
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On April 06 2011 14:03 MetalMarine wrote:Show nested quote +On April 06 2011 11:31 sung_moon wrote:On April 06 2011 10:39 MetalMarine wrote:
So Sung Moon are you going to tell us what you did to handle the situation? this is gonna earn every single one of your guys hatred/scorn/flames but i went back to hospital, faked a story to check if there were any camera's (there wasn't) and i go back to check if the SUV was still there (it wasn't). so i basically just shrugged my shoulder, visited my grandma and left. i'm not way trying to justify what i did, but once again, my car only has scratches (literally not even slightly dented) and the other one had like a fist indented 2-3 inches deep. they probably didn't even notice or just went "oh well its barely noticeable". i suck as a human being and i know karma will strike me back somehow Meh I can still respect you for going back though, for the other car's dent, here's whats gonna happen. The owner will have his insurance pay for it and he will just pay a small deductible depending how much it is. Oh well at least you got rid of the guilt? =P
Depends on what insurance they have.. Could end up being a good $1000 or so.
Honestly that's an incredibly dick thing to do but its not like anyone can do anything about it.
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On April 06 2011 11:31 sung_moon wrote:
i'm not way trying to justify what i did, but once again, my car only has scratches (literally not even slightly dented) ... A damage comparison between your car and the other car is not relevant, since you are responsible for causing the accident.
On April 06 2011 11:31 sung_moon wrote:
and the other one had like a fist indented 2-3 inches deep. they probably didn't even notice or just went "oh well its barely noticeable". If you saw and described the damage correctly, you caused a minimal damage of "2 inches" or 5 centimeters deep. That is a very noticeable dent (even assuming that your have small hands).
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Oh man I did this but it was because i was parking a big ass SUV. I gunned it out of there afterwards >< Feel so guilty
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TBH I don't really blame you because you're a kid who got scared and asked his dad for advice. You were basically ready to do whatever he told you, and assuming he would chew you out. But you have to realise your dad is a piece of shit and you should pay for the damages.
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It's people like that who disgust me and i hope you get caught
You caused damage to his Vehicle and you act like it wasn't your fault cause the car stalled. It is every bit your fault and you should take responsibility. How would you feel to come back to your vehicle and find that it was damaged and the person who hit your vehicle ran off like a coward.
Say they can pay for the damages. Sometimes after a claim an insurance will raise the coverage amount on that persons car not always but it does happen. If that happens now you just cost that person even more money per month that say they didnt really have/ but it's still more because someone didnt care about some else's possesion.
I had this happen to me last year to my New camaro i got 3 days earlier. had to pay for it on my own because my Deductable was $1000 and the damages totaled up to $400.
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If you have insurance, you should have left your name and insurance info on their car. It's the right thing to do.
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I've had this same thing done to me twice now. Fuck no am I paying if I accidentally do it someone else. That's karma for you, I guess.
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Well i don't think you can find that guy again but do try to settle it...
Imagine you walk out and some asshole put a dent in your car, how would you feel?
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So a little while ago (weeks) I was working up in Baltimore Maryland at a client's office building.
couple hour long drive, goes well, I drive a Firebird and I loooove driving so it's all good. Get to the building, do my thing...takes a long time as I don't want to come back the next day so I put in a 16 hour day. Left home at 4 am and leaving the jobsite at 8:30pm. Keep in mind - my car is my baby. I love this thing and I'll probably cry when it finally has to be put down. :p
I will preface this by saying I parked decently. The car is wide as heck but I know how to park. So don't even go there.
I get outside from a really stressful day at work, and find that the front end of my car is fucked up. My driver side mirror is on the ground, the front fender looks like a freaking alligator got to it.
Shittiest feeling evuuuur.
While your fist-sized ding isn't quite that bad, it's really a day-ruiner when someone hits your car like this and doesn't leave a note.
Shame on you. And whoever told you not to leave a note..
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happend to me once, i just left, havent heard about it since
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On April 06 2011 03:16 travis wrote:
If your family is poor, don't worry about it. Things happen, it's not like you caused serious damage to the owner of the car. If your family could easily afford to pay for it then I would have fessed up.
Maybe it's more complicated than this but I really don't think cosmetics is as important as most people I guess.
It absolutely is more complicated than that. By running you are effectively taking your problem, that you created yourself, and dumping it on someone else. Regardless of the financial aspect, which in itself is important, you are not taking responsibility for your own action. What he did epitomizes the character, or lack thereof, that both he and his father embody. I strongly disagree with characterizing a person based on one action, but it is downright embarrassing for a grown man to tell his son to run from a problem and consequently leave the burden with an absolute stranger.
On another note, Taengoo would be incredibly disappointed.
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On April 07 2011 14:09 moose162 wrote:Show nested quote +On April 06 2011 03:16 travis wrote:
If your family is poor, don't worry about it. Things happen, it's not like you caused serious damage to the owner of the car. If your family could easily afford to pay for it then I would have fessed up.
Maybe it's more complicated than this but I really don't think cosmetics is as important as most people I guess. It absolutely is more complicated than that. By running you are effectively taking your problem, that you created yourself, and dumping it on someone else. Regardless of the financial aspect, which in itself is important, you are not taking responsibility for your own action. What he did epitomizes the character, or lack thereof, that both he and his father embody. I strongly disagree with characterizing a person based on one action, but it is downright embarrassing for a grown man to tell his son to run from a problem and consequently leave the burden with an absolute stranger. On another note, Taengoo would be incredibly disappointed.
Damn... this is harsh but so true, it IS embarassing. Makes me cringe to think of that conversation now.
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