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On December 20 2010 07:34 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
berkeley...
Parent's signing you up for classes...
College courses in HS, general academic anxiety, need to work on breaks, parent rage...
Well I am just going to say it: You are asian. And this isn't even a good read it's really obvious. But I've got to take the free wins where I can.
if you read some of his other blogs, you would see that he's responded to this several times saying that he's actually white.
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I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves.
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On December 20 2010 07:34 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
berkeley...
Parent's signing you up for classes...
College courses in HS, general academic anxiety, need to work on breaks, parent rage...
Well I am just going to say it: You are asian. And this isn't even a good read it's really obvious. But I've got to take the free wins where I can.
that's. iNcorrect  I'm white. Sorry, it is obnoxious, you've got that one right.
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On December 20 2010 09:58 travis wrote:
I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves.
16. Doing so results in medieval punishment. Regarding incontrol and my not asianness, I have taken a special picture jsut for you
And no, it's not a good read. Just a rant :/
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On December 20 2010 10:08 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On December 20 2010 09:58 travis wrote:
I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves. 16. Doing so results in medieval punishment. Regarding incontrol and my not asianness, I have taken a special picture jsut for you And no, it's not a good read. Just a rant :/
well do whatever you want. that's old enough i would tell them to go fuck theirselves, but i was a firecracker. u don't need their help for accomplishing whatever future you want, right? if that's the case i would tell them to lay off me or that our relationship was going to go sour. if they ignore that it's a giant go fuck yourselves and waiting out until it's time to leave.
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On December 20 2010 10:12 travis wrote:Show nested quote +On December 20 2010 10:08 Froadac wrote:On December 20 2010 09:58 travis wrote:
I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves. 16. Doing so results in medieval punishment. Regarding incontrol and my not asianness, I have taken a special picture jsut for you And no, it's not a good read. Just a rant :/ well do whatever you want. that's old enough i would tell them to go fuck theirselves, but i was a firecracker. u don't need their help for accomplishing whatever future you want, right? if that's the case i would tell them to lay off me or that our relationship was going to go sour. if they ignore that it's a giant go fuck yourselves and waiting out until it's time to leave.
Well, issue is I want t ogo to college. SO if I awnted any financial aid I'd need to get emancipated
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Nice rant! My suggestion... tell your parents that after much soul searching you have decided to become a plumber. HVAC is also good. Then stop studying and get a part-time job. Use the money to get your own computer and play computer games as much as you want. Problem solved!
Edit: to add to that... if you really want to go to college, let them talk you into it. Then they will be overjoyed that you are studying at all. Whenever you study, remind them that studying for college is hard, and maybe you should just enroll in that HVAC training course after all.
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ok, so you are white. that explains your B in math. Frankly, most white parents aren't strict enough. Some of them don't have a clue about the importance of education and doing well academically. So kudos to your parents for pretending to be Asian.
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It's difficult for me to read your post, Froadac, because I was a rebel in the worst way. Totally uncontrollable and challenged authority figures at every turn. I left home when I was 17 with really nowhere to go, just to get away.
Parents who try to control their kids don't love them, in my opinion, they just want to mold a kid they can brag about.
Do you do drugs? Do you hang with gangs? Do you get in trouble a lot with the law? Do you get drunk all the time? If you answered no, then tell your parents to thank their lucky stars and leave you the f**k alone.
As long as you're pulling Bs and you do apply yourself and don't spend 24/7 on the internet, they should be thankful.
Hang in there, kid.
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On December 20 2010 10:14 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On December 20 2010 10:12 travis wrote:On December 20 2010 10:08 Froadac wrote:On December 20 2010 09:58 travis wrote:
I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves. 16. Doing so results in medieval punishment. Regarding incontrol and my not asianness, I have taken a special picture jsut for you And no, it's not a good read. Just a rant :/ well do whatever you want. that's old enough i would tell them to go fuck theirselves, but i was a firecracker. u don't need their help for accomplishing whatever future you want, right? if that's the case i would tell them to lay off me or that our relationship was going to go sour. if they ignore that it's a giant go fuck yourselves and waiting out until it's time to leave. Well, issue is I want t ogo to college. SO if I awnted any financial aid I'd need to get emancipated
are your parents really such assholes that they wouldn't sign off on loans if u told them to leave u the fuck alone and lived by it?
On December 20 2010 10:16 munchmunch wrote:
Edit: to add to that... if you really want to go to college, let them talk you into it. Then they will be overjoyed that you are studying at all. Whenever you study, remind them that studying for college is hard, and maybe you should just enroll in that HVAC training course after all.
lol, nice
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On December 20 2010 10:21 intoyourrainbOW wrote:
ok, so you are white. that explains your B in math. Frankly, most white parents aren't strict enough. Some of them don't have a clue about the importance of education and doing well academically. So kudos to your parents for pretending to be Asian.
Hahahaha.
Honestly, I tried to write a response to the OP twice, but I don't really know how. Yeah, your parents are being a little crazy, but working hard is important. Work ethic is what will give you happiness in life, and if you need to be told to work hard that's when problems start arising. I have always pushed myself, so I've never really had anyone try to push me harder, and I'm not really sure if pushing someone works. Some people just don't want to work.
I don't think you are lazy, so please don't get that impression. But try for a few days what your parents have asked you, and then when you want to do something in which "7 hours of a studying" would make impossible, I bet your parents will let you make an exception. It sounds really patronizing that someone has to allow you to make an exception like that, but 1: you're a kid, and 2: you are fighting them and asking not to study at all.
In real life breaks don't really exist. There is always something that needs to be done. Shovel the driveway, clean the house, cook dinner, run various other errands. I'm guessing your parents do most of those things without being snarky to you. I'm guessing they do their best to give you an environment where you can study. Those are good parents to have. I really don't think you're gonna burn out just because you study on your break. It's just gonna make your classes in school incredibly easy.
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He hid his face. I am 100% certain just below that paper is a cough guard medical mask.
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By the way, don't listen to travis. That's the worst advice I've ever heard. Just the idea of telling your parents to fuck off shows the worst attitude I've ever seen. Here's a newsflash: it's not absurd for parents to expect A's, holy shit.
SMH
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On December 20 2010 10:08 Froadac wrote:Show nested quote +On December 20 2010 09:58 travis wrote:
I would be a lot less understanding than lots of ppl in here. So your parents want the best for you. They are also controlling assholes. How old are you? Maybe you are old enough to tell them to go fuck theirselves. 16. Doing so results in medieval punishment. Regarding incontrol and my not asianness, I have taken a special picture jsut for you And no, it's not a good read. Just a rant :/
Unbelievable
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On December 20 2010 10:21 Arkansassy wrote:
It's difficult for me to read your post, Froadac, because I was a rebel in the worst way. Totally uncontrollable and challenged authority figures at every turn. I left home when I was 17 with really nowhere to go, just to get away.
Parents who try to control their kids don't love them, in my opinion, they just want to mold a kid they can brag about.
Do you do drugs? Do you hang with gangs? Do you get in trouble a lot with the law? Do you get drunk all the time? If you answered no, then tell your parents to thank their lucky stars and leave you the f**k alone.
As long as you're pulling Bs and you do apply yourself and don't spend 24/7 on the internet, they should be thankful.
Hang in there, kid.
Just out of curiosity, what do you do for a living now?
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On December 20 2010 10:37 Chef wrote:
In real life breaks don't really exist. There is always something that needs to be done. Shovel the driveway, clean the house, cook dinner, run various other errands. I'm guessing your parents do most of those things without being snarky to you. I'm guessing they do their best to give you an environment where you can study. Those are good parents to have. I really don't think you're gonna burn out just because you study on your break. It's just gonna make your classes in school incredibly easy.
If OP's parents don't want his help he must NOT feel guilty about not doing errands or something in the house because it's not his decision but theirs.
I need to re-think this before I write more but Froadac, writing this blogs is a great sign you don't want this shit to build up inside of you. Insulting them from time to time (even without going 100% fuck off) also is and believe me, you don't want to be mentally held back in the future by something you didn't say when you wanted to.
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On December 20 2010 11:02 JinNJuice wrote:
By the way, don't listen to travis. That's the worst advice I've ever heard. Just the idea of telling your parents to fuck off shows the worst attitude I've ever seen. Here's a newsflash: it's not absurd for parents to expect A's, holy shit.
SMH
naw
when you're 16 your an adult
if your parents are assholes you don't have to take shit unless you want to
there is a difference between "expecting As" and "controlling your life"
my parents controlled my life, so i know what thats like
oh, and for those who don't understand, telling your parents "to fuck off" was a metaphor. though if you want to literally tell them that, then that's fine too
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I'm not saying he should feel guilty his parents do chores lol. I'm sure his parents make him do a few chores too. But being able to study 7 hours a day necessarily means he can ask his parents to be quiet so he can work hard, to make exceptions in other tasks so he can study... And really, studying is 100% self-interested activity. One day you will have to work hard for someone else, and the more studying you've done in life the more you're allowed to say 'you want me to work hard? pay me money.' It may feel like you're doing it for your parents right now, which is bad, but in the end it's only going to help you.
I mean, what besides studying do you want to do with your time? What is your aspiration? If you have a creative aspiration you want to explore, you need to show motivation to do that, and maybe university isn't the right path for you. But if you're planning on having a career that requires a lot of education, then yeah, this is what you need to do. What did you tell your parents you want to be when you grow up? They are just helping you to achieve that. They want you to be serious about your goals.
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Dang I'm sorry about your overly controlling parents. But chef is right about work ethic, when you get a real job you're gonna work even more than you are studying now.
Your parents are going about it the wrong way but maybe just buckle down study and get an A in math? I don't know if you've tried just improving your grades as a solution but do ur parents react positively to that?
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even though you're pissed, I think its helpful to try and understand why your parents are this way...did they go to college themselves? are you an only child? are they teachers themselves? etc. etc. there must be a reason why they're so "intense" about your schoolwork and college apps
I'm sure a majority of the posters/readers here at TL have had fight and arguments with their parents about how much time they spend on the computer and playing games. this is a community of young, hardcore gamers after all -- take everyone's advice with a huge grain of salt (even mine) because everyone's situation is unique
in the end, you'll be fine. you'll get into a good school, you'll go off to college for 4 years and they'll have to learn to live without you. you'll have all the time in the world to game, fool around, smoke, drink, whatever, once you go to college and after.
my advice: suck it up, and just be a "good" kid (whatever that means in your family) until you go to college. your parents are your parents and they will always be, so don't poison one of the most important relationships of your life.
they're probably stressing out because they know you'll be moving out, leaving them for school, girlfriends, etc. it doesn't hurt to remind them that these are the last few years of your family "life" and you'd like to actually enjoy it and not ruin your relationship with them.
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