EPTParent rage blog pt 3 + interwebs - Page 4
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Froadac
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Shatter
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Titusmaster6
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This is probably one of the most important things I learned in college. Anyway, gl hf hope shit works out for you. | ||
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Froadac
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On December 11 2010 15:24 Shatter wrote: Well I felt kind of bad for you, but the way you talk to your parents and then post their picture and mention possibly posting a video made me think otherwise. You are not always going to agree with your parents and sometimes they won't understand your situation, but they care about you and they are going to be your parents forever. Both rash. Going to remove both. Just angry doing stupid things  | ||
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bbq ftw
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If truly conclude its the latter, ask yourself this question: do I stand to gain financially if I don't destroy my relationship with them? If no, burn away. But I highly doubt this to be the case, which means you'll need a way to dissipate your reflexive anger at what you perceive to be unjust in semi-productive fashions. Pick up writing or something. Besides, internalizing anger is one of the most important life skills. Its not just now you have to put up with irrational shit. | ||
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Froadac
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I've internalized it for 4 years | ||
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Z3kk
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emperorchampion
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le sigh... and yes living on your own is as awesome and stressful as you imagine. | ||
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Loser777
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Your blog post makes your parents sound really ridiculous... it seems that they don't understand the college process very well at all. Even as an asian guy (SENIOR -_-), my parents don't give me much crap about grades, because they understand the situation quite well and understand what I'm doing. The battle you're fighting here is ignorance, not attitude. As long as you keep that in mind, things will go much smoother. Comparing someone with a 2300+ and 4.3 to someone who dropped out of high school is really fucking ridiculous though... Do you go to a particularity rigorous high school? | ||
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emperorchampion
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snotboogie
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On December 11 2010 15:49 emperorchampion wrote: Ok, I really hope you listen to this- pretty much everyone here has been through the same situation. It's not as bad as you think. Just keep a level head, and don't do anything you will regret later- which honestly will be pretty drastic! Parents are pretty forgiving people, you can't expect everyone to be perfect lol. I remember I had thoughts of moving into an apartment for quite a few months, don't do anything like that lol xD. It kinda sucks until you move out, shit happens, ect. Just keep that in mind. Maybe try getting out of the house more idk? Also, everything has a way of working out in the end. le sigh... Great post. Been in the same experience (you probably studied harder than I did, OP)... a lot of ugly gnashing of teeth and clashing involved, haha. Because we're a family of incredibly stubborn people, we took years to reach an acceptable compromise which included both study and social life. I guess I'm saying you need to stand up for yourself and offer a little resistance, but do try to be as level headed as you can and don't enter a debate if you know you're gonna blow up at them. Because you don't want to be looking back in a couple of years and regret the things you said/did. As for strategy, IMO, you should take the high road first and sit them down calmly to discuss your situation, line out your thoughts and make sure to show that you understand their point of view by saying it out loud. If they refuse to compromise at all, which may be very likely because they might simply not be used to it, offer up some non-violent resistance. I don't just mean physically, I mean don't get into a shouting match because it helps no one when emotions run high and there's just no sense wasting energy by arguing with a mug. Do something to show you will stand up for yourself and will stand your ground, maybe by staying out late a couple nights a week, etc. You will know what the most effective strategy is, it's the one that's gonna majorly piss off your parents and show you're serious, lol. Anyway doing this is bound to result in further punishment but stick to your guns at this point! You have to be willing to take the blows. After a couple weeks, tensions have kind of simmered down because your parents have something that came up at work or just life in general and are sort of preoccupied with that, and you ask for another negotiation session. This time they're not the only ones holding cards. If this still doesn't work then go back and make a slightly bigger change that's gonna piss off your parents, a slightly bigger sacrifice in terms of punishment. This is a process that may take more than one go around, but it's how life/nature teaches us to assert ourselves. I believe it's a natural process for a child to have to put up resistance a bit against their parents, it's basically a life stage =). When you show that what they can do to reprimand you doesn't work in achieving their end result, you've taken away their big weapon, you've taken away their leverage and they'll realize eventually that they need to engage in a mature discussion. They'll also realize that you have matured. Anyway, through it all, don't get pissed off and act out, don't blow up and don't get into a shouting match. Stick with your guns and be respectful, classy and always take the high road so your parents are forced to treat you as a maturing teen/young adult. Remember you weren't always a teenager, you used to be a darling who did everything they were told but times change and from what I've gathered it's always hard for parents, even the most understanding ones, to accept that change. Your parents are only human after all, and sometimes they're overbearing but they're your parents, dude. They don't have the right to push you around like they are, but they do deserve that respect. | ||
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