She's being a bitch and playing with your feelings so that she doesn't have to feel bad about actually dumping you. She deserves ALL the harassment that you can throw at her. If it were me I'd schedule a new date every single day for years until she finally grew some balls and dumped me.

pattheflip

26 Posts

November 15 2010 22:58 GMT

#22

Next time get an early double gas and keep six sentries forcefielding her ramp.

Johanaz

Denmark363 Posts

November 15 2010 23:12 GMT

#23

You´ve done all you can. Now just try and forget about her, and next time you run in to her, it´s up to her to apologize and suggest you go out again.
That being said, her not taking your calls tells me that she´s just not that into you.

Bereft

United States1007 Posts

November 15 2010 23:19 GMT

#24

On November 16 2010 07:12 DarkPlasmaBall wrote:
Maybe she's dodging, so put the ball in her court. Tell her that it's up to her to make the next plans for you two. Tell her to call you next time she's available.

Then go on with your life. If she calls you back soon to make plans, then that's awesome

If not, then forget her.

You don't want to get led on.

i agree that you should do this. if she stood you up two times in a row, if she actually is interested don't make it too easy for her... make her show it this time. though girls are often shy about taking the initiative, so if you take this route be ready to forget her/go on with your life should she not initiate anything.

lixlix

United States482 Posts

November 15 2010 23:21 GMT

#25

If she stood him up twice without so much as an apology, its not because she is shy.

bangkok_terrorist

Thailand22 Posts

November 15 2010 23:23 GMT

#26

dude ur a chobo

Kennigit

Canada19447 Posts

November 15 2010 23:30 GMT

#27

I've had this happen to me before, its a product of acting too needy and letting it move too fast without being really involved with her. Theres a couple things you can do to save/fix this.

- Don't talk to her that much. Shes not your fucking wife - give her the pleasure or thinking and missing you and wondering why you aren't on msn.
- Be the one the cut off convo cause you are busy doing stuff.
- It's really important that you don't make a deal of this, but let her know that her behavior is unacceptable. Dont chase after her. You actually have a much better chance of success if you tell her that you have other things you can do in your time and her cancelling that late is unacceptable - if she wants to go out, she can call you.
- Girls subconsciously do this stuff to test how much bullshit you will put up with and if you are really a man. In my online dating escapades, i had a girl cancel on me 5 hours before we were supposed to meet - i told her that was a her problem, not a me problem and that 5 hours cancel wasn't acceptable. I dropped her and then she chased me about a week after.
- Wait 4-5 days, test the water if she hasn't contacted you already. Then pick it back up, cooly.

lixlix

United States482 Posts

November 15 2010 23:37 GMT

#28

yea Kennigit has it right.

Although I feel that if she doesn't contact you in 4-5 days, you should just forget it and move on.

In fact, you should move on right from this moment and be nonchalant towards her from here on forth. Even if she calls you back, don't be super nice to her immediately and be indifferent.

[Atomic]Peace

United States451 Posts

November 15 2010 23:39 GMT

#29

Kennigit is right on the money with this one.

Kimaker

United States2131 Posts

November 15 2010 23:45 GMT

#30

She's testing you. Women fucking do that all the time. You have to come across as serious, but not as needy. That's a problem I've had for years that I'm just starting to fix, and let me tell you, it's hard, especially if you really like the girl. However, that being said, act indifferent for a bit, don't treat it like a date next time, at least not at the outset.

Best advice I was ever given about going for a girl you liked was this, "Go in with ZERO expectations. Go in clean, without any thought about what's to come on your mind, and shit will fly. They know when you're thinking too much, and they don't like it, they can smell it on you, so just don't. Don't be needy, don't put too much of the focus on them, there's a time for that later if shit goes well, and you'll know it."

I will forever love my friend for sitting me down and drilling that into my head.

Edit:

xD

Just realized Kennigit beat me to the punch...but with bullet points...well played my good admin, well played.

Meapak_Ziphh

United States6786 Posts

November 16 2010 00:01 GMT

#31

Yeah Kennigit hit the nail on the head. If you act like you REALLY need her she'll realize she can play these types of games and boom, you're really screwed. Take it slow and don't do anything for a week then cautiously reengage and see how she reacts.

Jugan

United States1566 Posts

November 16 2010 00:24 GMT

#32

When girls pull shit like this on you, just let it go. She's not worth it, and you'll find somebody else. Just find somebody that won't put you through garbage like this. If you put up with it, you become a dog - I've been there, it's shit man.

STAY AWAY.

edit: Kennigit is a fucking baller, he gives godly advice.

HwangjaeTerran

Finland5967 Posts

November 16 2010 00:24 GMT

#33

Kennigit is on the money, sadly.
People are fucked up (not Kennigit ofc, he´s a god), they do this stuff mostly subconsciously.

Ian Ian Ian

915 Posts

November 16 2010 00:24 GMT

#34

I knew a girl that did this to me a couple times.. Just start ignoring her and she'll come to you.

dbosworld

United States317 Posts

November 16 2010 00:27 GMT

#35

Enough with the calling so often, enough with giving them so attention. The more you do the more they don't want to see you. Get a girl's interest, then ignore them. Giving them bites every now and then.

Laforge

Denmark33 Posts

November 16 2010 00:32 GMT

#36

Never date a girl that your cannot trust. It will always end up fuck up.

But if your want he, change the game and make he want you.

Spiffeh

United States830 Posts

November 16 2010 00:34 GMT

#37

Chat up more girls

Chef

10810 Posts

November 16 2010 00:42 GMT

#38

Bait, THEN SWITCH.

Flaking is shitty, but if you put too much pressure on a person to commit to you, it becomes stressful. A person has to feel like they are choosing to see you, not that you are a responsibility. At least when you don't know them well.

This goes for more than just love affairs. It's kind of life in general not to ask too much, too soon. So basically, follow Kennigit's advice. If she feels like you're going to drop her if she doesn't act, then she will feel like she is choosing to act.