Get this cause this one is great. It'll make you feel lucky.
I have a friend, nicest guy ever, whom I met IRL for the first time at Blizzcon. There, he met a girl who was in the military (coincidentally). They're both around 25. On the second day of Blizzcon, she broke up with her boyfriend; later that day, she had sex with my friend. Note: She was pregnant from her ex and had a kid from another dad. Also she lived with her mom.
She lives in California, he lives in Calgary. Since, he took TWO back and forth flights to spend xmas with her - he also went there randomly another time and GAVE her $200 when she was in financial trouble.
He "loved her", but to be with her, he would have to quit his job, go against his parents will (which is a big deal to him somehow). He would also be legally tied to the kids and all of the disadvantages that come with that.
They ended up breaking up after effectively wasting thousands of dollars on a relationship that was bound to fail. Hell, even if it worked it would have failed.
No matter what you do, you're better off than my friend.
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>> haha wow, just skip to bottomline if you want to skip my bad english typing and my being emo <<
Yeah, i was in pretty much same situation 4 years ago , was with her for 3 years until she started her traveling agent career, she had to go away more then 3/4 of the year every year, we decided it was really something impossible considering i was 22 and she was 20.
We were living together at that time, we tryed to keep on living with eachother in different beds for a while, i was happy that she had found something she loved to do in life and i knew deep down inside that our relationship couldnt last forever, that girl was more then brilliant and so pretty. i knew from day one that one day she would take my heart and make it ice again, but thats not the point, so we tryed to go on with living together, didnt work out for very long, the relantionship just was going from bad to whorst everyday, i couldnt go with my friends and party whitout getting 15 phone calls of a very confused crying semi girlfriend, on my part i couldnt stand her going out to party either, i questioned about guys, or why she was making herself so pretty if she was only going with her girlfriends and all that terribly pathetic jazz..
So we decided to put more distance between eachother, i moved out, leaving her everything we had gathered over the time of our relationship and the appartment, she was starting her career and had very little money, i felt bad for her and still cared for her very much, but still i wasnt totaly devastated, i was pretty confident that this was for the best and i was gonna pull out whitout too much trouble...
When i got in my new home, things started to get real sad, i was missing her terribly, i didnt have my mind on anything else but her, i was terribly heartbroken, i started drinking and working alot, 2 things that could slightly set my mind away from her, that didnt work out very well either, i got very sick had to get lung surgery and then shit really started to hit the fan, i couldnt work, couldnt drink, was stuck at home in some pain that compares to a baseball bat in the ribs, so i couldnt cook or clean anything without downing 2 or 3 small blue morphines pills. I was broken hearted, broken and bored as FUCK, hey. Chef joey! i dont want your fucking slap chop!
So i turned to video games, Starcraft saved my life, i got hooked on Klazart, cholera, tasteless,artosis,etc commentating, i didnt understand very well why people were so hooked on Starcraft, untill i slowly started to understand the game pretty well, i started playing Iccup and lurking TL.net, Starcraft really took my mind away from my pain and my ex girlfriend, was keeping my brain locked on Starcraft, was spamming games 15 hours a day for a cople of months, and was really aiming to get better, it was either that or chef joey on TV... Every minute i spent thinking about starcraft was a minute away from sadness and physical pain..
Bottom line is that you need to keep yourself busy on something you like, you cant get in the what if... mindset. Dont listen to sad music if that makes you think about her, resist, slap yourself in the face and do something that needs your attention, just going out with friends still leaves you alot of time to think.
Best of luck buddy.
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