I need a place to rage because breaking things is not the best option, so from the bad days thread i will copy paste this :
So i was sitting here today and i woke up when my ex GF who went camping, with some of my friends sent me a bunch of shit this morning saying she needed to talk to me(at this point however i know she still wants to date but wont because of some shit with her mom) ANYWAY, knowing how i feel about her she seems all paniced so i joked about
"so did person A(not related after this) talk you into getting your clothes off?" At which point i get this response "no..not him" So at this point im really really god damn pissed off
Her and her other friend go dick off for an hour and she comes back and tells me the story of how she started fucking around with my friend a whole bunch of shit happens, then when i get really really really god damn mad about it she tells me im over reacted and need to calm down
DO I NEED TO FUCKING CALM DOWN? ITS NOT LIKE YOU JUST FUCKING DID THAT WITH A REALLY GOD DAMN GOOD FRIEND OF MINE YOU DUMB FUCK.
Okay, so at this point she doesnt see what im upset about at which point it ell her not to god damn talk to me right now and go away."
Basically ive narrowed my options down to,
A)Tell her to choke because shes a god damn whore who's deserving of it. B)Tell her and my friend to choke because i feel like they both deserve it C)Understand that my friend didnt know how i felt so theres no reason to rage on him. D)Try to talk it out and ignore this even happened, wait who am i kidding this isnt a fucking option.
I ask TL to help, I dont remember what the thing i quoted said but ive basically prevented myself from saying anything too terrible to either of them yet.
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-NO: E) You've got no right to be mad at her. Your friend might have wanted to ask if you guys are sensitive little boys, but otherwise, if she's free, he gets to open her legs all he wants.
I've gotten to the point of my life where I've concluded that sexual whims >>>>>>>> commitment. I love my girlfriend but I wouldn't be surprised or offended if she messed around with somebody else. It's how we're programmed, not much you can do about it :/
I'd be really upset in your position but I'm not sure if it'd be appropriate.
The fact that she is talking to you about it seems like a bitch move though. But if she does this stuff regardless, it isn't someone I'd like to ever see again.
On June 28 2010 02:01 Sunyveil wrote: I've gotten to the point of my life where I've concluded that sexual whims >>>>>>>> commitment. I love my girlfriend but I wouldn't be surprised or offended if she messed around with somebody else. It's how we're programmed, not much you can do about it :/
On June 28 2010 02:01 SCC-Faust wrote: I'd be really upset in your position but I'm not sure if it'd be appropriate.
The fact that she is talking to you about it seems like a bitch move though. But if she does this stuff regardless, it isn't someone I'd like to ever see again.
I agree, and as such i believe i should go with Option A, Possibly C also.
So i was sitting here today and i woke up when my ex GF ....
There's the crux of the matter right there. Maybe the thought of your friend and this ex of yours getting together pisses you off, but that's not really anyone's problem other than yours.
On June 28 2010 02:08 Mastermind wrote: Go with option A. Do yourself a big favour and never talk to her again. You are only going to get hurt more if you do.
IF she still wants to date you, why in the world would she fool around with one of your closest friends?
Dude that is such BS of her, doesn't sound like she respects you. Pretty disappointing of your friend as well. Even if he didn't think know how you felt, hes being selfish and taking you for granted.
If it was me, I would do do D though. You have the choice of deciding on what to do once they give their testimony. Also you can pinpoint the areas of them being a bitch.
On June 28 2010 02:08 Mastermind wrote: Go with option A. Do yourself a big favour and never talk to her again. You are only going to get hurt more if you do.
Really so your exs shouldn't have sex?
not with your friend when they want to get back together with you....
On June 28 2010 02:08 Mastermind wrote: Go with option A. Do yourself a big favour and never talk to her again. You are only going to get hurt more if you do.
Really so your exs shouldn't have sex?
They shouldnt have sex when she pretty much tells me she still wants to date? Do you not see the unfairness in this?
On June 28 2010 02:12 CheAse wrote: IF she still wants to date you, why in the world would she fool around with one of your closest friends?
Dude that is such BS of her, doesn't sound like she respects you. Pretty disappointing of your friend as well. Even if he didn't think know how you felt, hes being selfish and taking you for granted.
If it was me, I would do do D though. You have the choice of deciding on what to do once they give their testimony. Also you can pinpoint the areas of them being a bitch.
I plan on listening to her, letting her tell me her soupy bullshit then telling her to go fuck herself and never talking to her again.
My friend is alright, i dont think he knew about ..anything if he did then ill tell him the same thing and promptly never talk to him again either.
On June 28 2010 02:08 Mastermind wrote: Go with option A. Do yourself a big favour and never talk to her again. You are only going to get hurt more if you do.
Really so your exs shouldn't have sex?
not with your friend when they want to get back together with you....
Their intentions don't really matter, it's fine to turn that down if they're trying to get back together with you.
But yeah, it's not fine for her to bone your friends but your friends can bone your exs?
On June 28 2010 02:08 Mastermind wrote: Go with option A. Do yourself a big favour and never talk to her again. You are only going to get hurt more if you do.
Really so your exs shouldn't have sex?
not with your friend when they want to get back together with you....
Their intentions don't really matter, it's fine to turn that down if they're trying to get back together with you.
But yeah, it's not fine for her to bone your friends but your friends can bone your exs?
I think it's weird.
No its def not fine for him to do it to her either, However the only reason i could make an exception here is based on the fact while we were dating i never talked to anyone about it except her friends and all of that. so theres no way that he would know what the fuck she told me all the time, and im highly doubtful that she told him anything.
So i can still have a problem with it but its not as big of a problem as her fucking around with him
Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
Honestly i have the same vibe, because me and my friends do shit like this to piss each other off all the time, her other friend also seemed to be clueless about the matter in a way.
Either way im probably not going to talk to her again.
And yeah it was fairly recent i believe we broke up the 22nd or 27th? of april some time in that range
On June 28 2010 02:21 TaaiJoeng wrote: I think B is a good option. Your friend could have done something to stop her right?
If he had known about it i have no doubt he would have, however like the post a bit above says im still trying to decide whether this is one of those really really bad jokes, or what exactly is going on here.
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
More likely she can't keep her pants on with other men but is emotionally comfortable with Arb.
Basically, he is screwed.
Although, I wouldn't put it past young females to do even stupider things like make situations up.
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
More likely she can't keep her pants on with other men but is emotionally comfortable with Arb.
Basically, he is screwed.
Although, I wouldn't put it past young females to do even stupider things like make situations up.
She basically is insisting atm(talking atm) that she will never see my friend again so its "done and over with"
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
More likely she can't keep her pants on with other men but is emotionally comfortable with Arb.
Basically, he is screwed.
Although, I wouldn't put it past young females to do even stupider things like make situations up.
She basically is insisting atm(talking atm) that she will never see my friend again so its "done and over with"
Though i agree im prolly pretty fucked
Keep in mind that guys who blindly believe in UFOs being aliens aren't exactly difficult to lie to.
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
More likely she can't keep her pants on with other men but is emotionally comfortable with Arb.
Basically, he is screwed.
Although, I wouldn't put it past young females to do even stupider things like make situations up.
She basically is insisting atm(talking atm) that she will never see my friend again so its "done and over with"
Though i agree im prolly pretty fucked
Keep in mind that guys who blindly believe in UFOs being aliens aren't exactly difficult to lie to.
Possibly, however, god damnit youre right. Going to tell her to fuck off and not worry about it anymore
One hoe said, "Big, why you so hard on us? Why you swear all bitches are so scandalous?" Thug nigga 'til the end, tell a friend bitch 'cause when I like ya, then ya go and fuck my friend bitch And you know that ain't right
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
Honestly i have the same vibe, because me and my friends do shit like this to piss each other off all the time, her other friend also seemed to be clueless about the matter in a way.
Either way im probably not going to talk to her again.
And yeah it was fairly recent i believe we broke up the 22nd or 27th? of april some time in that range
On June 28 2010 02:18 Bash wrote: Not knowing anything except what you have just written, I get a strong vibe of her telling you this just to piss you off or see whether you still have feelings for her or whatever narcissistic pleasure she might be after.
I mean yeah, since you broke up you don't really have a say in who she decides to bang but she has to know that rubbing it in your face like this is going to provoke a reaction, especially if she wants to stay friends with you then this isn't exactly the way to achieve that. From where I'm sitting it's hard to make a judgement whether he's stroking her own ego by setting you off to react this way or whether it's her social ineptitude that makes her not realise this may not be an appropriate topic of discussion with someone you were (I assume) fairly recently still involved with.
More likely she can't keep her pants on with other men but is emotionally comfortable with Arb.
Basically, he is screwed.
Although, I wouldn't put it past young females to do even stupider things like make situations up.
She basically is insisting atm(talking atm) that she will never see my friend again so its "done and over with"
Though i agree im prolly pretty fucked
Keep in mind that guys who blindly believe in UFOs being aliens aren't exactly difficult to lie to.
Possibly, however, god damnit youre right. Going to tell her to fuck off and not worry about it anymore
I've had an ex I still talked to once in a while. When I was dating her I could tell she would do just about anything to please anyone (except me of course, once someone actually likes a teenage female they quit trying) so I wasn't surprised how she would act when uncommitted. After we broke up she came to me for every slutty or stupid thing she did to... talk about it? It hurts man. Personally I wouldn't advise it in the future. After a week or so it stopped bothering me and I just started fucking with her like telling her the guy she fucked used to go to my school and was rumored to have STDs, etc.
One hoe said, "Big, why you so hard on us? Why you swear all bitches are so scandalous?" Thug nigga 'til the end, tell a friend bitch 'cause when I like ya, then ya go and fuck my friend bitch And you know that ain't right
So she asked me to explain what my problem with ti was
So after finding out she had no idea who the BIG was i copy pasted this to describe how i felt
she doesnt seem amused
Her friend asked why it made me mad, so i said the same thing.
My forte causes caucausians to say He sounds demented, car-weed scented If I said it, I meant it Bite my tongue for no-one Call me evil, or unbelievable
Okay, she said she really liked my friend which made me laugh at which point i asked her if she knew what this means she asks what and i FINALLY do what i should have forever ago I SAY
"since you like him so much i have no problem saying what i should have a long time ago, PLEASE do not ever talk to me again"
FINALLY I HAVE EVOLVED INTO ARB WITH BALLS TO STAND UP TO WHORES
Without Leperkahns BIG post i would have never been able to do it.
On June 28 2010 03:20 CheAse wrote: Good job dude, glad to see some SC nerds stick up for themselves.
For the first time i actually feel really good. Sure not talking to her anymore will take some time but hey i dont give a fuck!
Im actually contemplating calling my friend and telling him thanks for doing it.. Then again im not sure about that but if he hadnt i would have never had a reason to do it in the first place.
Prolly just tell him when he asks me about it next time i see him
My respect for you has risen 10x, and thus each time I read your posts I'll think 'this guy is pretty awesome' I mean its common sense to tell a bitch to fuck off when she fucks around, yet so many people refuse to do it, say that people can change. People never truly change. Also if your friend knew she used to be your gf then you better as fuck stay pissed at him at least! :p
Though what I would have said:
"Was it worth it, losing someone you could always come to with any problem you had and be comforted, just to fuck around? You think my friend gives a fuck? If I ask him to he'll be ignoring you in days. Enjoy being a whore, cuz as long as I've known you you havent made yourself useful for anything else."
Remember when a whore fucks you over dont let her make you a bitch in addition to that. Spend some time thinking of what her greatest emotional insecurities are, and prod at them in a scathing 'I'm disgusted with you, trash' tone. From what I've heard, its worked wonders for all my friends. One of my friends carried out the speech so masterfully that the chick who fucked around behind his back now wears a burkha and doesnt talk to anyone anywhere other then her two closest friends lolol
On June 28 2010 03:51 TheAntZ wrote: My respect for you has risen 10x, and thus each time I read your posts I'll think 'this guy is pretty awesome' I mean its common sense to tell a bitch to fuck off when she fucks around, yet so many people refuse to do it, say that people can change. People never truly change. Also if your friend knew she used to be your gf then you better as fuck stay pissed at him at least! :p
Though what I would have said:
"Was it worth it, losing someone you could always come to with any problem you had and be comforted, just to fuck around? You think my friend gives a fuck? If I ask him to he'll be ignoring you in days. Enjoy being a whore, cuz as long as I've known you you havent made yourself useful for anything else."
Remember when a whore fucks you over dont let her make you a bitch in addition to that. Spend some time thinking of what her greatest emotional insecurities are, and prod at them in a scathing 'I'm disgusted with you, trash' tone. From what I've heard, its worked wonders for all my friends. One of my friends carried out the speech so masterfully that the chick who fucked around behind his back now wears a burkha and doesnt talk to anyone anywhere other then her two closest friends lolol
I would be mad at him But i honestly cant it might seem weird but if he hadn't done this i would have been talking to her now like i used to just as much of a bitch as i once was. So in a way im glad he did, and the next time i see him i will most def be thanking him for doing it.
As for her i couldnt give a fuck less what happens to her, one day she'll think on this and realise she fucked up pretty badly imo, since not only did i talk to her all day i listened to her bitch about all sorts of stupid shit, and im finally fucking done with it all.
And atleast i managed to gain more respect with you :D
BUT NOW ITS TIME TO GO PLAY SOME STARCRAFT AND ENJOY MYSELF also is it weird that since i did it have been smiling for no real reason at all?
Thumbs up man, great to see a fellow nerd run into trouble, deal with it, and feel like a baller coming out. Makes life a whole lot easier when you quit the back and forth and just make decisions.
rage at your friend, not your ex. if your friend knows you still like her then he wouldn't do that shit, she, on the other hand, was free so it's not her fault. I'd go with choke friend and find some other chick. If your friend didn't know you liked her, then you can't blame either of them, she was single, he was single and knew you guys broke up.
Of course, if she still wants to date you and she's screwing someone else, obviously just back hand her if she tries talking about that again.
Ok so if she was trying to get back with you and she does this, do you REALLY think this is a relationship with getting yourself into? If THIS is her personality are you SURE this is something that'll bring you more happiness than angst? Will it last for more than a year? Can you envision yourself being together the rest of your lives and never cheating on each other?
Tell her no, go find someone else, otherwise you're acting a damn fool.
On June 28 2010 04:54 ZlaSHeR wrote: Ok so if she was trying to get back with you and she does this, do you REALLY think this is a relationship with getting yourself into? If THIS is her personality are you SURE this is something that'll bring you more happiness than angst? Will it last for more than a year? Can you envision yourself being together the rest of your lives and never cheating on each other?
Tell her no, go find someone else, otherwise you're acting a damn fool.
I did, i told her to do me a favor and never talk to me again.
Her friend told me what she was like the first time we dated and i didnt listen and ive paid for it ever since, but now im not going to anymore.
I. Bros before hoes. I cannot stress this enough. Always remember, girlfriends come and go, but your boys are always there. Breaking this rule is to commit the cardinal sin against Team Testosterone.
XV. Don't tell other guys elaborate stories about your weightlifting exercise routine. No one cares.
XVII. When out with the guys, never accept a call from your girlfriend—unless she's dying or trapped under a burning fuel truck, and if that's the case, make it quick.
It seems like I still got something to work on. BTW: Did I already tell you that I finally lifted that 32kg Kettlebell recently?
On June 28 2010 04:56 arb wrote: Her friend told me what she was like the first time we dated and i didnt listen and ive paid for it ever since, but now im not going to anymore.
what do you mean? She was w/ him like she was when it started w/ you or she's thinking about you like in the beginning or what? Not that it really matters, stick to your decision
On June 28 2010 04:56 arb wrote: Her friend told me what she was like the first time we dated and i didnt listen and ive paid for it ever since, but now im not going to anymore.
what do you mean? She was w/ him like she was when it started w/ you or she's thinking about you like in the beginning or what? Not that it really matters, stick to your decision
Basically she told me she has fucking trouble making her mind up or something stupid.
Also, my friend called me and acted like nothing had ever happened, he even asked me if i wanted to go do something. Then he said i was a douche anymore and shit though so.. Wouldnt this be one of those things youd tell a "friend" ?
On June 28 2010 10:53 Dicember12345 wrote: waht she did is wrong, but you being a little kid and telling her to leave you alone is a really brat move.
go get that bitch and set the record straight instead of being a whiny little girl
Honestly im beginning to feel this is just one big fucking joke from those 2, since my friend has told me like everytime he's done anything with any girl..never failed
You have been conditioned to believe that you need to feign moral outrage and lash out at a girl who cheats on you. But put the soapbox away and see that it's all for the better.
Be content in knowing that it was never going to work and be grateful that you realized this now rather than four years into your marriage. Move on, have a drink, exchange high-fives. etc. This is a cause for celebration.
I don't get why people call girls whores. Did she say that she was going to get back with you, sure, but you still technically were not together and i'm sure were not hooking up while you weren't together which means she could do whatever she wants. After all, her saying that she was going to get back with you was only because she wanted someone around to vent to... that is what girls and guys do when they are 18 anyway. Young girls like to play games and lead guys on but don't worry as you get older that starts to happen alot less.
You did make the right decision however even if it was a little childish on both your parts. You should have just told her that she made a big mistake and that you don't want to talk to her anymore simple as that. And to everyone in this thread, the guy and the girl are at the same fault in this situation which is none as I stated.
On June 29 2010 04:43 Flaccid wrote: You have been conditioned to believe that you need to feign moral outrage and lash out at a girl who cheats on you. But put the soapbox away and see that it's all for the better.
Be content in knowing that it was never going to work and be grateful that you realized this now rather than four years into your marriage. Move on, have a drink, exchange high-fives. etc. This is a cause for celebration.
Well i was sitting here today and her other friend sent me some shit, and apparently the part where ex decides to go "yeah blah blah happened" actually didnt happen with her like she pretty much said it did.
but instead with her friend. Which means shes lying out her fucking ass, and that really pisses me off.
So i think what i'll do instead is just tell my friend shes a lying ass bitch and that'll be the end of it
She's kryptonite man. Get than in your head. Unless she begs for your mercy (and even then just call her vermin and all sorts of nasty shit, maybe she'll get turned on) she's out.
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Your friend could have done something to stop her right? 
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