EPTBut seriously... making up stories to get friends to talk to you is probably better than hiding in your room all day waiting for something actually interesting to happen... Wanna trade problems?
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
But seriously... making up stories to get friends to talk to you is probably better than hiding in your room all day waiting for something actually interesting to happen... Wanna trade problems? | ||
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sc4k
United Kingdom5454 Posts
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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Chill
Calgary26004 Posts
On March 20 2010 04:17 Rekrul wrote: these days i lie to people about myself in a negative way because if they find out about the real me it's far too interesting to them and they just annoy the fuck out of me with questions "What's your greatest weakness?" "I'm too fucking incredible." | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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Manit0u
Poland17867 Posts
How the hell do you manage to misspell the title of the blog but not the same word when it appears in it?! /grammar police Seriously, the best thing you could do is be honest with her and tell her right away that you can't always be honest with her because that's just the way you are, but you're going to try to change that. That's exactly what I did (man, I can't imagine my life without small lies here and there, they make things way more interesting) and it worked. Getting the feel on when you can (even should) and can't lie is another thing. That's the hard part. Actually, after a while in a healthy relationship, she'll always know when you're lying anyway. But if you disclose to her that you might do that from time to time she'll accept it and won't bug you about it which is great for both sides. She knows when you're lying, you know that she knows, yet you feel good with another "successful" lie. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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PUPATREE
340 Posts
On March 19 2010 23:50 gaiabulbanix wrote:I want to change, I want to be somebody that she can be proud of, I want to be a better person, somebody who won't keep hurting her like this. But no matter what I do or how hard I try, I always seem to get lenient and fall back down to rock bottom. I want to stop lying. I identify the main problem differently. Are you trying to change your lying or your cheating? If you've been compulsively lying your entire life, and you dislike that about yourself, then by all means, take the steps you need and slowly become a more honest person. But I don't see that as the problem. I lie all the time, it works well for me, and I'm content with that. The important difference though, is that I generally don't do things which I wouldn't be proud of. Let me put this in starcraft terms for you. Being a liar is like being a zerg player that gets lingspeed and denies scouting. It's legit, and you shouldn't feel bad about giving people that uncertainty in general. The problem though, is how you've been following that up. You've been fucking cheesing man. Realize that it's perfectly fine to play a standard game from that position instead, and do so. The next time some babe is all over your dick, think that you're playing against a protoss player with poorly placed cannons. You could go all-in, and enjoy your cheap win, sure, or you could take the higher path, and not let yourself falter. You want to be better; you want to hit B+. You won't get there with your shitty all-ins, and right now, your biggest problem is that you do them. My advice for resisting all that is to always keep your goals in your mind, to never give in with something you know you'll deeply regret, and to never delude yourself. From how I see things, you're approaching all this the wrong way. You want to completely change who you are, by stopping all your lies, and everything. You're a cheesy zerg player that's trying to switch to being a standard terran, without ever looking back. Yeah, you might like it for a bit, and it might feel good and different, but sooner or later you'll be tempted to go back. And the moment you try zerg again, you're going to cheese. Fuck that. You've already expressed that this does indeed happen, and that you do give in and hit rock bottom. The problem isn't your willpower, it's your approach. I'm 22, and I've been lying my whole life. I honestly think it's a central part of my personality, and I don't think I could change that, at least not within the next 5 years. Lying is a fundamental part of who I am. If I wanted to switch from being a rational person that makes all decisions logically, to an emotional person who lets momentary feelings govern everything, I would fail miserably, no matter what. This shit's the same to me. Every liar I've ever known is still a liar today. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you're different, and maybe you really will be able to stop it all with the drive you have now. If so, more power to you. But if not, then once again, you need to fix the stuff that's really bad. You've been doing things you're not proud of, and then lying about what you've done. You're saying that you want to stop lying, but in my eyes the problem's that you're doing those bad things in the first place. Quit that shit. | ||
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frogmelter
United States971 Posts
Don't let the other person find out If it is really that you can't watch what you're saying, once you say it you should realize that it's a lie Then tell her you're sorry and tell the truth and that this is a problem that you're working on and ask her to be patient | ||
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love1another
United States1844 Posts
On March 20 2010 05:25 obesechicken13 wrote: Is it just me or is TL turning a bit like yahoo answers? I can understand if it's about math or starcraft and people need a fast response, as it's better than YA or askmath.com in those cases, but about lying? Yeah. It's turning like Yahoo Answers, but in a good way! I might be lying. | ||
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Xypski
Denmark156 Posts
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
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