EPTCrush on a Christian Girl - Page 3
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spetial
United States688 Posts
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distant_voice
Germany2521 Posts
On January 12 2010 17:49 TimmyMac wrote: Problem happens when it doesn't work and you don't have the heart to end it and you end up dating her for 2 years being miserable doing that and spitting on girls would mean the same thing: you're an idiot.  so just don't do it. | ||
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
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7mk
Germany10157 Posts
I don't know any christian here who would not date someone only because he's not of the same belief, always seems like something that doesnt happen anymore since medieval times... @OP I don't really get it, she's 3000 miles away? then what's the point anyways? How often would you even get to see here | ||
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meegrean
Thailand7699 Posts
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stenole
Norway868 Posts
Also, religion is somewhat of an obsticle, but it doesn't have to be a huge one if you both end up with the right attitude to it and respect each other's thoughts, feelings and ideas. You also have to deal with their friends and family who will be predominantly Christian. If you are unlucky you may have friends and family yourself who would not approve. But remember that this applies even when you are of the same faith. In the end though, this is your decision. You should already be somewhat aware of the challenges involved and you also know yourself (and surely going through something like this will teach you more about yourself too). There won't be a proper fairy tale ending without some dragons, pits of doom and evil villains on the way. | ||
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Zoler
Sweden6339 Posts
On January 12 2010 19:36 7mk wrote: What the fuck is the problem with American Christians???!! | ||
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ThunderGod
New Zealand897 Posts
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Kyo Yuy
United States1286 Posts
On January 12 2010 19:36 7mk wrote: What the fuck is the problem with American Christians???!! I don't know any christian here who would not date someone only because he's not of the same belief, always seems like something that doesnt happen anymore since medieval times... @OP I don't really get it, she's 3000 miles away? then what's the point anyways? How often would you even get to see here This ties in well with the opinion I'd like to give. If religion is a concern to you, what you should be thinking about is not religious BELIEF, but religious TOLERANCE. Depending on the level of religious tolerance, it's possible for a complete atheist to date a faithful Christian. As long as there is a mutual understanding that love and commitment to one another is the most important aspect of the relationship, there will be a gradual mutual respect that develops over time, aside from an occasional debate or two. However, if both people hold their beliefs with zealous conviction, there can be arguments even if both people are in the same Christian denomination. Even within the exact same denomination, two people may have a different interpretation of the Bible and a different approach to faith, which can lead to a huge conflict in moral standards as well as arguments on salvation and "what does Christ preach?" As a simple example, you'll find some Christians who believe that gay people should be shunned and you'll find people in the same denomination who feel that all people should be respected and loved regardless of their beliefs or values. Unfortunately, a lot of Americans are very close minded about their beliefs, and this applies to atheists as well as Christians. I think a lot of people in our culture have an obsession with "being right," to the point that they must insult and bash any beliefs not congruent with their own. That is why I feel that tolerance is ultimately more important than the beliefs themselves. Though like a lot of people said, I would say that the distance is a much bigger factor than the issue of beliefs. Distance in general puts a huge strain on a relationship, but if you can put up with it (as well as whatever hurdles might arise from differences in beliefs) then it can work out. Just be ready for both sides to make sacrifices for the long term benefit.  | ||
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Piste
6180 Posts
On January 12 2010 15:30 Kennigit wrote: Do. Not. Do. It. Trust me. I'm a christian (albeit a terrible one) and have tried going out with all types of athiests/agnostics (do you know how hard it is to find a christian girl who doesn't mind a little pre marital sex? QUITE HARD!) . It only ends in tears. Save yourself the trouble. what the hell? every christian I know fuck like rabbits. | ||
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Zoler
Sweden6339 Posts
On January 12 2010 21:49 Piste wrote: what the hell? every christian I know fuck like rabbits. You're talking to an American | ||
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SkylineSC
United States564 Posts
i tihnk the people that tell you to go for it have not been in this situation. i think only people who knows people with religious differences or are in a relationship themselves can comment. if this girl is REALLY seriously religious, and your not, its a big issue. | ||
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Piy
Scotland3152 Posts
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HaXXspetten
Sweden15718 Posts
Love conquers all! + Show Spoiler + Ok, maybe not, but you'll feel terrible knowing that you didn't even try. | ||
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Khenra
Netherlands885 Posts
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madnessman
United States1581 Posts
On January 12 2010 15:17 love1another wrote: Before making this blog post, I was leaning toward our mutual friend's advice... to go on with my life in hopes that one day I might find another... but after reading Dr. Helvetica's post, I looked deep within myself and thought, if only for an instant, that in this big and beautiful world fairy tales do come true. Siblings can be reunited, in both body and spirit... and sometimes love stories do end happily ever after. So... should I put on my shining armor, mount my passion-propelled rocket-ship, and try to sweep her off her feet? Or should I accept that pumpkins are just pumpkins, that I'm not her Prince Charming, and that my approach should be like everything else in my life: just... ordinary. omg my good man that was beautiful. this is the kind of prose that make women weep. | ||
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Chromyne
Canada561 Posts
On January 13 2010 01:12 Khenra wrote: And exactly what makes you think you can't have a relationship with a christian girl? I'm together with my girlfriend for 3 years now and there has never been any problem concerning religion whatsoever. The fact that she goes to church on sunday means you can't have a relationship? Come on. No, but if she is serious about her beliefs, then the fact that she believes they will be spending eternal in different places might. For the non-believer, it's a non-issue, but the believer is going to think, "I can't let this person that I love remain 'unsaved,' and spend eternity suffering," and so there can be struggles and conflicts in the future. Luckily for you, it's more likely that she will fall away from her beliefs than you will be "converted." | ||
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kidd
United States2848 Posts
I think that if there was ever an oppurtunity to just move back home or her to move towards you then and only then should you pursue a relationship. The thing about religion is that if you meet someone who truely does love you then they will not force their opinions on you. If they desire to go to church and you don't then you should be discussing these things before you get too serious and come to some sort of agreement. In this case I don't think any of that matters though cause again you are 3000 miles away from her which completely ruins any sort of healthy relationship you think you could have. | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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PH
United States6173 Posts
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