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Ok, remember this blog post?
http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?topic_id=107681
Well fuck me, its not a good day, and damnit its Christmas.
My girlfriend and I just had a little fight and said we'd take it slow for a bit after our little conflict. 1 DAY later, we go to her house. We have some fun, and we start making out. My mouth was like a cotton ball when I finally left. She wanted me to finger her, after we just got in a fight about it! FUUUCCCCKKKK NO! She's crazy!
Just now she gets pissed and annoyed at me because last night, my phone dies and we're out of correspondence. And tonight, a friend drops by and I say, Be right back, bye! and drop the phone to go talk to him and arrange plans for my New Years Eve party. She's upset because I said be right back, implying that I would only be gone for like 5 minutes. But every other night we talk on the phone for AT LEAST 2 HOURS. 2 HOURS a NIGHT for 2 MONTHS. I'm really fuckin pissed off, and I shouldn't be.
I just wonder, where'd the real (Insert Name Here) go? It seems like now all we ever do when we're together is make out while I pleasure her and when we're apart I can't fucking live my life or do anything because I have to be constantly texting her or talking to her.
Basically, here's my issue. I can't do this anymore. I can't believe I've been doing this up to now. Looking at this relationship now, I don't know if I'm happy with her. I don't know what to do. the way I see it, I have a few options, so why not make it interesting... MAKE A POLL!
should I:
Poll: Should I...
(Vote): Stop being a self righteous bitch and give her what she wants
(Vote): GTFO because you can't see the happiness anymore
(Vote): Talk with her about setting some limits. Like living life when she's not here.
(Vote): Perhaps just go with it now, and if it doesn't get better, discuss it
(Vote): Perhaps just go with it now, and if it doesn't get better, GTFO
(Vote): Get some for 2010 and then GTFO
Please, please comment, anyone who can help a poor fellow Starcrafter...
+ Show Spoiler +I realized about 30 minutes late that in the end, this isn't really a help thread, but more of a thread about me bitching and moaning... Hope I helped someone pass the time...
 
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Get some for 2010 and then GTFO is clearly the winner
but in all honesty, just talk to her; if she doesn't agree to the terms, then go with the option mentioned above.
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When in doubt, poll a bunch of angry SC nerds on Christmas Eve.
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I actually encountered a less extreme variation of this with my ex (different in many aspects plus it was a serious relationship IE we were engaged). I might offer some advice later but I don't have time to formulate it atm. I will edit later
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On December 25 2009 15:03 Cambium wrote:When in doubt, poll a bunch of angry SC nerds on Christmas Eve.
I scrolled through all the numbers on my phone. I really have no one I'd want to talk to about this that could offer me any advice worth my time.
So I turn to the angry nerds. God save us all
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Do you guys have sex? If not, I'd end it or give her an ultimatum.
You can always have girls on the side as well. I'm sure she provides some sort of benefit to you, otherwise you wouldn't be with her. So just have fun with other girls, and text her less. Simple.
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Get her a dildo for Christmas, problem solved,
+ Show Spoiler +In all seriousness, just talk to her about how she's been bugging you. Tell her that you need some space for your own as well. Relationship can only develop if both sides are comfortable about it. And if it doesn't help, finger her for the last time and GTFO!
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i like how you know the answer already and then ask us to pick it out trivia style.
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Honestly, it doesn't sound like you can deal with a relationship with her if ONE fight makes you want to break up. Sounds like you don't want her that much.
Of course, only one person knows if that is true or not.
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On December 25 2009 15:12 Railxp wrote:
i like how you know the answer already and then ask us to pick it out trivia style.
Several of my friends have seriously told me to do the 2010 thing.
One even suggested just get some for myself.
I like one of those answers more than the others, yes, but noone else seems to be pointing me that way.
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how long have you been together, 2 months?
that's pretty early in a relationship, but it's still a good time to try and start having more serious-ish convos like setting limits etc.
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Don't let her be the one who's always complaining. Tell here you're having issues with her and if she doesn't like it, drop her.
Happy holidays. Try to keep your chin up.
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stop being a little bitch, shes controlling you and making your life hell. If your unhappy, you damn well know what to do. You man up, and end it. Or, if you think it will actually work, you man up and tell her to control her damn self or its over. I don't know why this requires a help thread, its a pretty obvious course of action.
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Girls these days for some reason think it's okay to be controlling in a relationship. Well it's not. You have to have your own time and you need to make it clear in no uncertain terms that this relationship will not work unless you have your own space too. If she can't accept that, then dump her because she'll be a controlling bitch for the rest of her life. Tell her I said that.
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i hope you at least got a bj out of it.
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Man, I'd break up with her and move on. Lifes too short to waste your time talking on the phone for 2+ hours every night to someone you admit you might not even like that much.
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Yeah, I guess it seems pretty clear what the answer is here.
I dunno, I'm just really nervous about talking to her about these things.
I just really care for her, but I guess if there can't be some limits then I probably should go before I get to far over my head then...
WOOOOW I'm being such a little pussy bitch for all the internet to see... Maybe I should just go to sleep before I end up offending someone or saying some stupid shit eh? Remind me never to post when I'm pissed off...
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On December 25 2009 15:18 LosingID8 wrote:
how long have you been together, 2 months?
that's pretty early in a relationship, but it's still a good time to try and start having more serious-ish convos like setting limits etc.
I agree. It's good to be able to talk about serious limits.
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i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it?
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On December 25 2009 15:48 Pengu1n wrote:
i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it?
he needs the APM for starcraft
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its your fault for gettin her used to being clingy to you. u said brb dude...dont talk on the phone for 2 hours if its making you wanna shoot yourself. do it if u wanna talk to her for 2 hours. and if u dont, dont make her think u do.
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On December 25 2009 15:48 Pengu1n wrote:
i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it?
Because I just wanted to move our relationship away from sex for a little bit. I wasn't into doing that then. There's context here, I just choose to leave it out.
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whats the problem with sex? it's how u were born.
the smart people who are like "lets slow this down" just let the stupid people make the gene pool suck. we need more starcraft players having kids, so they will be able to macromanage life.
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Pics of her would help us give advice.
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On December 25 2009 15:57 gumbum8 wrote:Show nested quote +On December 25 2009 15:48 Pengu1n wrote:
i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it? Because I just wanted to move our relationship away from sex for a little bit. I wasn't into doing that then. There's context here, I just choose to leave it out.
are you sure your not gay?
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On December 25 2009 17:54 Kingsp4de20 wrote:Show nested quote +On December 25 2009 15:57 gumbum8 wrote:On December 25 2009 15:48 Pengu1n wrote:
i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it? Because I just wanted to move our relationship away from sex for a little bit. I wasn't into doing that then. There's context here, I just choose to leave it out. are you sure your not gay?
I know it may seem strange, but some men don't want to have sex 24/7.
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No seriously.
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On December 25 2009 18:12 Comeh wrote:Show nested quote +On December 25 2009 17:54 Kingsp4de20 wrote:On December 25 2009 15:57 gumbum8 wrote:On December 25 2009 15:48 Pengu1n wrote:
i dont get it? why wouldnt u finger her if she wanted it? Because I just wanted to move our relationship away from sex for a little bit. I wasn't into doing that then. There's context here, I just choose to leave it out. are you sure your not gay? I know it may seem strange, but some men don't want to have sex 24/7. . No seriously.
so you're gay too?
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There is nothing gay in refusing to PLEASURE HER while your not getting any (except making out)...as I got it from OP.
My thoughts on the matter is to try and get some then dump the bitch coz if your only 2 months into it and shes that kind of pain in the ass early on, just think about what will it look like in like 2 more months...
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oh man gumhum has been taken by the lures of old women in menopause.
edit:
just kidding get some and gtfo. Sounds like she's just using you.
+ she doesn't deserve etc etc w.e w.e
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If you don't find it enjoyable or interesting, you might as well talk to her about it and either end it or seek a way to make it interesting again.
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Break up with her because there are non crazies out there.
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