EPTLet children play w/o supervision.
I think it makes sense. As a dogdad though Im afraid of what actual vices might be learned.
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Duvon
Sweden2360 Posts
Let children play w/o supervision. I think it makes sense. As a dogdad though Im afraid of what actual vices might be learned. | ||
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mordek
United States12705 Posts
It's actually incredible how high-functioning even a 3yr old is. Most people don't give them enough credit. | ||
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Numy
South Africa35471 Posts
On November 15 2016 22:24 mordek wrote: I can totally get behind that but as Duvon alluded to I'm actually more concerned with how crappy some kids can be and the habits my kids would pick up. It already happens with our neighbor so I guess you just have to keep at the discipline and guidance regardless of where your kids go (I mean discipline not in the punishment sense). It's actually incredible how high-functioning even a 3yr old is. Most people don't give them enough credit. I feel like people misunderstand kids. They provide them absolutely no stimulus then when the kid is agitated or hyper due to boredom they act like their kid is bad. Or if the child gets easily distracted with mundane things they aren't interested in it becomes this massive psychological issue instead of just making things interesting to the child. Obviously different children are different but I always loved how much my parents would discuss things with me as a person instead of just a authority figure. Children aren't stupid, they just don't know all the nuances yet. It's really peoples inability to explain(due to insufficient understanding) that's a big reason why people think kids are stupid. | ||
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
On November 15 2016 22:24 mordek wrote: I can totally get behind that but as Duvon alluded to I'm actually more concerned with how crappy some kids can be and the habits my kids would pick up. It already happens with our neighbor so I guess you just have to keep at the discipline and guidance regardless of where your kids go (I mean discipline not in the punishment sense). It's actually incredible how high-functioning even a 3yr old is. Most people don't give them enough credit. In total, it is up to the parents to instill good values in their children so that when they meet other crappy kids with bad habits, they recognize it and don't let it shape them. Same goes for kids with internet access. We've been talking about this a lot recently and I worry about it basically constantly. | ||
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Fildun
Netherlands4124 Posts
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mordek
United States12705 Posts
 But I agree Req. | ||
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
On November 15 2016 23:36 mordek wrote: It's much easier to discipline when your kid isn't exposed to as much negative behaviors though so it needs to be a strong commitment from parents to put forth the effort and time. Not every parent has the luxury of a large emotional and energy bank which is unfortunate But I agree Req.I really worry about that. When I was a kid, my parents owned a business and even though it wasn't every day, I often would go with them to work and got to spend time with them. Right now, I leave when the sun comes up and get back after 6 unless I leave early. I'm scared that I'll end up not being as close to my kid as I'd like because of it, which is honestly making me look at moving closer to the city just for that reason, or seeing if I can negotiate a different schedule so I can catch different trains. I really want to have a child but also it's like the most stressful thing I can imagine. | ||
AsmodeusXI
United States15536 Posts
On November 16 2016 00:02 Requizen wrote: I really worry about that. When I was a kid, my parents owned a business and even though it wasn't every day, I often would go with them to work and got to spend time with them. Right now, I leave when the sun comes up and get back after 6 unless I leave early. I'm scared that I'll end up not being as close to my kid as I'd like because of it, which is honestly making me look at moving closer to the city just for that reason, or seeing if I can negotiate a different schedule so I can catch different trains. I really want to have a child but also it's like the most stressful thing I can imagine. If it makes you feel any better, that seems like the correct outlook on this: both acknowledging the insane challenge but wanting it a lot anyways. | ||
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Eppa!
Sweden4641 Posts
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iCanada
Canada10660 Posts
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Gahlo
United States35174 Posts
But it's...eh, it's Shakira. I'll let it pass. On November 16 2016 00:02 Requizen wrote: I really worry about that. When I was a kid, my parents owned a business and even though it wasn't every day, I often would go with them to work and got to spend time with them. Right now, I leave when the sun comes up and get back after 6 unless I leave early. I'm scared that I'll end up not being as close to my kid as I'd like because of it, which is honestly making me look at moving closer to the city just for that reason, or seeing if I can negotiate a different schedule so I can catch different trains. I really want to have a child but also it's like the most stressful thing I can imagine. If it's any consolation, a lack of heavy face time due to work is something that is encouraged by our culture from a father, as long as there isn't a severe lack of interaction. | ||
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AsmodeusXI
United States15536 Posts
On November 16 2016 04:48 Gahlo wrote: But it's...eh, it's Shakira. I'll let it pass. If it's any consolation, a lack of heavy face time due to work is something that is encouraged by our culture from a father, as long as there isn't a severe lack of interaction. I don't know if that's something anyone should aim to emulate though... | ||
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mordek
United States12705 Posts
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Gahlo
United States35174 Posts
On November 16 2016 04:54 AsmodeusXI wrote: I don't know if that's something anyone should aim to emulate though... Oh, absolutely not. Just that if he is stuck in that situation it probably isn't going to be held against him. | ||
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phyvo
United States5635 Posts
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Numy
South Africa35471 Posts
If it's any consolation, even after being increasingly busy in my early childhood we got a lot closer in later years. Really though Req, if those thoughts are going through your mind it means you perfectly capable of parenting in my eyes. I'm sure every good parent was absolutely terrified of being bad, that's what makes them good  . | ||
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
I'll just focus on painting little plastic men for the time being. | ||
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Alaric
France45622 Posts
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Requizen
United States33802 Posts
On November 16 2016 05:25 Alaric wrote: Didn't you say for whatever reason that you'd post pictures of your work last week-end or something too? As atonment for politics posts maybe. WHAR? Ugh ended up playing too many games (both tabletop and vidya) and got bugger all done. Everything is primed (except the Celestant-Prime I recently purchased) and I'll have some stuff to show by the end of the week for sure. I'm doing basically this color scheme: + Show Spoiler [ Anvils of the Heldenhammer] + ![[image loading]](https://spalanz.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/4xl.jpg) | ||
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Duvon
Sweden2360 Posts
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