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You need to calm down and think about this. First of all, what is the exact situation?
1) Who owns the house?
2) How sick is your grandmother?/Is it possible she could die?
3) How rich is she/who is in her will?
If she has a little bit of money and she seems sick, I would say that your relatives are trying to screw you over for the money/whatever she has, as sad as it is for me to say it. If you have a pretty good relationship with her, maybe you and your mom should talk about this and make a plan, then approach her in the hospital and see what she has to say. If its clear that your relatives are manipulating her, get her to sign a lease with you saying that you can stay in the house, for x amount of money each month, or in exchange for taking care of her.
You really don't need to go out on the street and lose all your stuff, and there is a pretty good likelihood that you will come home one of these days and all your stuff will be out on the curb. What you need to do is find a storage place with a $1 for the first month deal, then get that incase you need to move all your stuff out in a hurry.
If your relatives start throwing your stuff out on the street, and they don't own the house, you need to call the police. They have no right to do that, and need some type of written thing from your grandmother to do it. Just remember, they are trying to steel from you and your mom, and you need to screw them over before they can screw you over.
You said they want you out before your grandmother comes home. Why is this? It sounds to me like they are trying to manipulate her, and if she comes home and you are still there, they are afraid she will change her mind. You need to remember that what your relatives are doing is a very evil thing, and they are your enemies now. There is a reason they are doing this, its because they are much older than you and have learned how to screw people over and manipulate them. You don't need to be some airhead and just go along with it, like you are some 12 year old.
First step, secure your things. Second step, write up a lease with your mom and get your grandma to sign it.
Also, don't let your uncle find out about your plans. Just call him up and talk like an idiot like you are going to go along with it, tell him where you plan on staying, say "ok, yes sir!!!" so he thinks that things are going his way, and he will be less likely to put pressure on you, to buy yourself some time.
Also, if worse comes to worse, go to a church and ask for help (like if you are about to loose all your stuff).
Hope that helps.
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On August 26 2007 06:38 Servolisk wrote:
That sucks. Your uncle sucks.
I agree that the best solution would be getting a couple of roommates and hopefully an apartment that doesn't suck too much. You can rebuild from there.
Poker isn't a horrible idea to try because you don't have a whole lot of options. Even if you want to get a university degree it's incredibly hard for your situation.
However you should forget about poker until you secure yourself. Even if you are good at poker it takes time to get to the point where you can regularly cash out significant money. Time you won't have soon.
I dun tink he be getting a university degree or even a college diploma/degree b/c he said its a waste of time and money and he doesn't have that. Playing poker should be a hobby not a life long job unless you have the cash coming in from your current job.
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On August 26 2007 06:45 fight_or_flight wrote:
Also, if worse comes to worse, go to a church and ask for help (like if you are about to loose all your stuff).
Good post, but on a side note, he'd have more luck at a Sikh Gurdwara than most Churches in America these days.  Seriously, I'd try that first if it were me. But thankfully CharlieMurphy said he has plenty of friends around for a last resort.
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On August 26 2007 06:46 Temptations wrote:Show nested quote +On August 26 2007 06:38 Servolisk wrote:
That sucks. Your uncle sucks.
I agree that the best solution would be getting a couple of roommates and hopefully an apartment that doesn't suck too much. You can rebuild from there.
Poker isn't a horrible idea to try because you don't have a whole lot of options. Even if you want to get a university degree it's incredibly hard for your situation.
However you should forget about poker until you secure yourself. Even if you are good at poker it takes time to get to the point where you can regularly cash out significant money. Time you won't have soon. I dun tink he be getting a university degree or even a college diploma/degree b/c he said its a waste of time and money and he doesn't have that. Playing poker should be a hobby not a life long job unless you have the cash coming in from your current job.
I didn't mean to say he should make it a job, he should just do it on the side like he planned, only once he was secured with a place to live and income. He should only do it full time if he turns out to rock at it... which no one does at the beginning.
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I am sorry to hear that, and there is nothing specific I can do to help.
However, on a general sense...
If the environment is against you, that's one more reason you should man it up and change your environment. Attitude determines altitude.
I believe that you should think re-prioritize what is important in your life, if you haven't already done that. Periodically remind yourself what your priority is, and constantly work towards it.
Frugality is the key word here. If you allow me to put things in perspective - cable internet and computer is a luxury when you don't even have a place to live. I am grateful to have learned that at least you live in the United States, not some third-world nation.
I ask myself these questions:
1. What do I see myself doing at the end of today.
2. What do I see myself doing 1 month from now.
3. What do I see myself doing 1 year from now.
I plan my schedules based on my answer to the questions I ask myself, and remind myself to constantly go back to my goal and make sure I am on the right track.
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Some people are natural risk takers, they live their life on the edge. Some succeed, and others don't. Perhaps playing poker may get you out of the financial trouble, and there is nothing wrong attempting to improve your financial condition. But constantly remind yourself of your goals and make sure you are always making progress toward those goals.
For the record, I believe that playing poker online will get you in financial trouble, not the other way around.
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Also, don't talk to your grandma until you actually have a lease for her to sign, because its most likely that your relatives will be keeping very close tabs on her, and if they find out that you've gone to visit her, they will explode on you. So make sure you get it the first time.
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Cancel your internet, sell your computer, don't play poker, get a job.
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I hope you already canceled your blockbuster subscription, you need to save every penny now. Things like Internet, blockbuster and a super computer are going to be luxury to you from now on, learn to live without this until you are financially stable. Best of luck man!
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In Canada, you are legally entitled to 3 months notice before you have to leave. Giving someone 1 week notice to vacate the premesis is borderline illegal. I would suggest going to your local rental board place (dunno what you would refer to it in the US), and filing a complant stating your situation. A similar thing happened to me, and so long as you are providing towards the household, you are entitled 3 months to find a new place. I would suggest possibly bringing that up to your relatives.
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On August 26 2007 07:38 eXigent. wrote:
I would suggest possibly bringing that up to your relatives.
But also make sure you have all the facts together before you say anything....if they suspect any problems it will only make things worse.
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On August 26 2007 07:09 Eniram wrote:
Cancel your internet, sell your computer, don't play poker, get a job.
I agree. Find a new job, and come next paycheck with your existing job see if you find a palce to stay at an extended stay hotel. Priorities first.
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canceling contracts costs money, which he doesn't have
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Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
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Yeah, thats the greatest idea I've ever heard. Take peoples tax money (including others on this site) so that you don't have to work hard, just try and get lucky with poker. You're an amazing addition to society....
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On August 26 2007 08:16 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
Didn't read the op? Even if you are planning on leaving, it might be a good idea to get control of the situation so you aren't f*cked up.
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On August 26 2007 08:16 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
Now I see the cell phone karma... 
gl to you my friend. Hope everything works out for you just remember to think before you act, especially in the situation you are in.
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On August 26 2007 08:16 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
This is a really bad idea. It's pretty selfish as well. Beggars can't be choosers and in your current situation you're quite close to being a beggar. Just get a full-time or a few part-time jobs, it's not like you have anything else to do (iirc, you're not going to school). Even if you do have something else to do, hoping you magically become good a poker, especially good enough to live off of poker, is a very delusional idea, sounds like you need a bit more sleep.
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Dude, u should just "fix" ur Uncle car break's one night
and u be better off..
Seriously they are EVIL!!
Anyway, poker is NOT the way out for u.. trust me!
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On August 26 2007 08:16 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
Being a lazy guy and taking the tax money from pple while trying to get alot of money from poker is selfish and is not a good plan to start.
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On August 26 2007 08:16 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Yea, seems like most of the posts on this page didn't even read the OP in detail.
I was thinking maybe i can get laid off so I could collect unemployment while I mass poker. And be real picky about a new job for a month or so while staying at my GFs or whatever.
Wow... even with someone so down on his luck and in such a hard spot in life, I still find it hard to feel bad for you after comments like this. 
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